https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 22:53:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894639 Thu, 15 Aug 2019 10:21:17 +0000 josina 2894639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> He stayed the whole time with LO1; For LO2 he did spend the night but drove home for a couple hours to put LO1 to bed. We were in/out in 24 hours both times.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? No, I didn't really give him that option since we were only staying one night anyways. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> No</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Not really? There wasn't much he could do since I breastfed. Those first few nights were brutal - I am 100% for giving formula prior to milk coming in (after nursing). It gave me my first 3 hours of sleep and didn't hurt bf'ing AT ALL.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? It went fine, DS loved his baby sister after the first day (he told us to take her back). Since newborns sleep so much it gave me lots of time with DS vs him being in daycare. I did keep sending him once or twice a week to give me and baby lots of one on one time too.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? It definitely took longer to lose the weight 2nd time around but recovery was a LOT smoother/less painful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894537 Wed, 14 Aug 2019 10:27:46 +0000 yellowbeach 2894537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> Yes - all three nights... I was sick with severe PreE and HELLP, so he wanted to be with me (and at some point I'd asked him to stay and make medical decisions for me), plus DD was in the NICU, so he wanted to stay and check on her easily.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? Options was never really on the table. He was definitely tired, but it was all relative to the situation we were going through.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> We work at the hospital where we delivered, so we had 2-3 best friends bring us flowers and such with just a heads up text (leave them at the desk vs come see you) - we said yes and they were short stays. We invited the grandparents to come up 24-48rs later (still in hospital, but dust settling a bit).</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Spent 34 days in NICU, so we had 24/7 care at the beginning. Once we got home, it was all me overnight.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. Haven't been there yet.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? Ugh... still going 2.5 years later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894535 Wed, 14 Aug 2019 10:15:15 +0000 Clementine12 2894535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? Mine did, the couch folded into a bed and our room was very comfortable. Food was free for me but he would have to pay (except bfast) but they gave us so much per meal we just shared!</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? No, but I would've been angry if he had. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? No - they had to contact us for how to get to the room either way and no one came without an invitation.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? As much as possible with a breastfed baby. I was recovering from a csec so he would bring me the baby and change diapers.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. LO2 is due in Dec so we'll see.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? It was the last thing on my mind for many months. I lucked out and breastfeeding took all the weight off - I was left with extra skin that took time to tighten up and many many stretch marks. I couldn't focus on me and the baby so I just didn't think about me for a long time and my body eventually came to its new normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894531 Wed, 14 Aug 2019 09:26:54 +0000 mamabolt 2894531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 was born early AM after all night labor. My room had no bed for DH so he went home that night to sleep. </p> <p>LO2 was born mid afternoon and I had a double room with no roommate so he slept there the first night, then woke up with the flu so didn’t see him again during my stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894504 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 21:07:30 +0000 periwinklebee 2894504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?</p> <p>Yes</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?</p> <p>Nope. I think i tried to send him home to nap at some point, because our room was super uncomfortable and I figure having a newborn is a marathon and not a sprint. Didn't want him to totally crash and burn after the first few days... </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?</p> <p>We knew MIL would come visit, but I think she just came whenever she felt like it. But DH didn't let her in until we were settled into postpartum floor, which was quite awhile after because LO was born at 1 and they didn't take us up until like 9. Nobody beyond that, but we also don't have any family nearby. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?</p> <p>Yes, I don't think it was a ton since I was bf and all LO wanted was to eat, but he definitely helped.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.</p> <p>LO was our first. </p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?</p> <p>Didn't worry too much about it. It went back to normal, but I think took about six months to get there. Was kind to myself in the meantime. My biggest struggle was breast health, as LO was not very effective at eating, which led to chronic mastitis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894503 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 20:55:42 +0000 Sams Mom 2894503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? Yes, he slept on the fold out couch thing they had in the room.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? He went home and did some stuff around the house and even went to hang out with his buddies some firing the day, which frustrated me some.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? I think most people contacted my husband, but some might have been a surprise.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? My husband did all of the diaper changes in the 4 1/2 days we were in the hospital. On occasion if he wasn't there a family member or nurse helped and changed him. </p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. Not sure yet, kind of freaking out about this part myself.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? It's still a work in progress 3+ years later. I gained 85 lbs with my son, but lost 100 lbs in the first 6 months pp... Buuuuuuuuut, I found a lot of those lbs again, and was actually in the process of losing... Annnnnnd finally got pregnant again. </p> <p>I try to walk often, eat as well as I can, but but much sounds good to me right now, so there is a lot of taco Bell consumption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894471 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 16:21:40 +0000 ElbieKay 2894471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? Absolutely we stayed together the entire time and he was critical support for breastfeeding in the middle of the night.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? No way that would have been very upsetting to me.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? Absolutely not. No visitors until we had time to settle into the postpartum room and maybe take a nap. I was not ok with waiting room warriors.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Absolutely. I had trouble nursing in the middle of our second night in the hospital with our son. My husband held the baby and spoon fed him my hand expressed colostrum at 2am. He also changed almost all of the diapers so I could focus on feeding. My husband’s support was a key element to my success with breastfeeding.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. We transitioned as much of my son’s routine ahead of time so he would not associate it too strongly with the baby. He adjusted to his baby twin sisters really well and now that they are a year old he is still really affectionate towards them. He was in full time day camp when they were born and it was helpful to have him out of the house during the day.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? I have never been especially focused on appearance. I try to stay healthy. Breastfeeding helps a lot. It is hard to eat well or exercise when I am so sleep deprived. I try to be kind to myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894469 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 15:49:00 +0000 paigeface 2894469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?</p> <p>- Yes, he stayed both times but not very comfortably. The fold out chair thing is the worst. He complained about it both times but I am glad he stayed.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?</p> <p>- I told DH to go home several times but he still stayed. We watched movies and Netflix with our second (3 months ago) and it was a much more relaxed experience with her than with our first (4 yrs ago) were so out of it and didn't know what we were doing. He did go home to shower and recharge a few times. He came back with food each time because hospital food is just the worst. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?</p> <p>- No, everyone called before showing up the second time. The first time DH dad &amp; brother did show up right after emergency c-section and I wasn't too happy about that. Everyone was very respectful this time around and it was nice to have visitors! I had a planned C-section the second time and it was more relaxed. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?</p> <p>-Yes, he helped as much as he could but couldn't help with feedings since I was breastfeeding. He was a good cheerleader this time for sure and would wake up just to sit with me and change all her diapers since I had just had major surgery. First baby I can't even remember that was one big blur of a hospital stay.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.</p> <p>- It was a bit crazy a first for us. DS was 3 &amp; 1/2 and had a hard time understanding why DD was staying with us permanently. It was a tough couple of weeks and he threw a lot of tantrums but now its like it never even happened and he loves baby sister completely. He even helps out getting me diapers or entertaining her which is nice! But whoa those first couple of weeks were rough. Lots of tears from DS and me!</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?</p> <p>- First time around I lost the weight pretty quickly but I was also 28. This time around is a bit harder and I did not like the way I looked at all. However, I am going easy on myself this time. Like others have stated it takes 9 months to make the baby it'll take that to probably feel like myself again. These last 10 pounds keep hanging on but I keep reminding myself daily in the mirror that its only been 3 months and to go easy on myself! </p> <p>Wish you the best of luck!!! Every experience is different. My first birth experience and my second were literally night/day different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894453 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 15:03:26 +0000 LadyDi 2894453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? Yes, all three times. We live near our parents and they watched our other kids. This was non-negotiable for me.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? No, I would have punched him in the face.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? With DS1 my aunt and uncle showed up without letting us know. We were napping and they just opened the door. Annoying but she's my favorite aunt so I don't hold a grudge.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Yes, he changed the baby and brought him to me to feed him then took him back and re-swaddled him and got him to go back to sleep. I had c sections so I wasn't very mobile. He did this for all of our kids. </p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. 1-2 was easy for me. DS1 is a very easygoing kid and just goes with the flow. 2-3 was harder as DS2 is younger and clingier but we're figuring it out (I am 6 weeks pp with our third)</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? Ugh. Work in progress. I don't think about my body much in the immediate aftermath, but I am 6 weeks postpartum now. I am close to my pre-baby weight but definitely do NOT fit into any of my pre-baby shorts or pants. I'm holding off on buying new clothes until the fall. I am a pretty petite/small person but I never had a flat belly and having three babies in 4 years has not helped that. I think I have diastasis and I'll probably always look 5 months pregnant unless I have surgery (which won't happen unless I hit the lottery). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894449 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 14:40:31 +0000 SweetiePie 2894449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BUNBUN: Yes, I fought buying bigger shorts and pants but when I did (2-3 sizes bigger than normal) I felt soooooo much better. Wearing clothes that fit and didn’t squeeze, bulge or hurt helped greatly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894448 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 14:36:22 +0000 BUNBUN 2894448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> -DS was born at 2am, so DH stayed that "night" but I sent him home the next day to nap, but he came back then next night and stayed in the hospital. We were both so exhausted that the nurses actually took DS into the nursery for his 24 hr check and didn't bring him back until he was asleep. We left later that day.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> -um, I TOLD him he was tired and needed sleep so he should go home for a nap. There is no reason for both of us to be miserable! He's also 6'2" and that couch was not big enough for him</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> -they told DH, and he ran it by me, but I didn't know when they were coming. Next time, I'll just say no visitors in hospital please. We were there for &lt;2 days, there really was no point.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> -Yes, but there wasn't much he could do as I was breastfeeding. </p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.<br /> -this was our first</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> -I went out a purchased jeans in a bigger size pretty soon after birth and I immediately felt better about myself! Otherwise, I was just happy I was healing well and the breastfeeding (aside from needing a nipple shield) was going ok.<br /> I didn't loose any weight breast feeding, so it took until DS was weaned and night trained (&gt;1 yr) before I was able to get back to pre-preg weight and that required Weight Watchers for me. Again, I didn't stress about it because my first priority was feeding DS. Full disclosure: I've been "bigger" my whole life, this was just "bigger" than I'd ever been prior to getting pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894447 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 14:34:01 +0000 DesertDreams88 2894447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? yes, both times</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? no, although one time they napped in my hospital bed while I went for a little walk / roll; and I think they napped at home when my mom came for a couple hours</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> Nope, but I also mentioned it to various people that we wouldn't allow visitors other than my mom, son, and VERY short for in-laws (babysitting my son)</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? yes, diaper changes, picking up out of bassinet and putting back in</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. not great.....</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? not sure what you mean by this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894444 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 14:27:26 +0000 SweetiePie 2894444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> - 1st baby was in nicu for 2 nights so he stayed home for those two nights. Then one night in my room and DH stayed for that night. He helped because we were finger feeding colostrum.<br /> 2nd baby I kept in nursery all 3 nights so DH stayed with DS1 at home. </p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> Not really in those words but if the baby wasn’t with me he felt there wasn’t a need for him to sleep on the crappy couch. I agreed. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? No and if they did I would have turned them away. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> Eh. Not really. A couple nights out of desperation with DS1 because I couldn’t calm the baby down. We were FF at the time so he could. If I was BF I would have dealt with it. </p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. Seamless for us, but I think it had to do with DS1 being a little older (3.5) and in general not very needy of my time and affection. Also formula feeding, so others helped with baby. Some bumps but NOTHING as bad as the adjustment from 0-1. 1-2 was much easier. </p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> It was hard. 2nd baby I didn’t bounce back nearly as quickly. 1st baby I was back to normal by like 2months pp. 2nd baby took almost a year.<br /> I allowed myself to buy some things that made me feel good. Better fitting clothes. And things that size didn’t matter for - toiletries, accessories, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894442 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 13:57:45 +0000 erinbaderin 2894442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? Yes, he stayed the whole time. With the first baby it was every minute (one night), with the second he left in the afternoon to go home and do daycare pickup, dinner, and bedtime for our older son before coming back while my parents stayed at the house - this was two nights.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? Um, no, eff that - everybody's tired and needs sleep, but we have a new baby so suck it up. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? No - or rather, kind of? One friend asked if she could come visit and then showed up with her mother-in-law who I'd never met - that was a bit weird. But otherwise no.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Yes, definitely. With our first baby he got up every time - we'd watch tv together while I nursed, he'd do the mid-feed diaper change, and then reswaddle and settle. With the second I handled all the newborn stuff and he did all the wake-ups with our two year old. With both babies we also took turns sleeping in an armchair with the baby on us for the first six weeks, we'd each take a shift at night.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. Surprisingly easier than I thought! I found the transition from none to one harder than one to two.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? It was a bit tough, especially when a few months out I still couldn't button my jeans. I had a harder time losing the weight the second time and so had a harder time with my self-image. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894434 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 13:11:25 +0000 mdf106 2894434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> Yes, all three times. My older kid(s) had grandparents staying, and had a great time. </p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> He did complain about being tired immediately after birth, but never suggested going home. The first two times we paid extra for a suite, so he got a real bed. The third time he did fine on the sofa. He slept through a lot of the wakings. He did suggest sending the baby to the nursery a few times, which I did.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> No. We did have visitors almost right away each time, which I might not have preferred, but they let us know each time. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> Not in the middle of the night, because I was breastfeeding. He would take the baby for a few hours so I could sleep either in the late evening or early morning. We also got up in the morning with our older kids so I could sleep later while the baby slept.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.<br /> Adjusting to two was tough. I had a hard time not being able to devote all of my attention to either, and my oldest had trouble entertaining himself while I nursed. Adjusting to three was really easy.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> Physical recovery was pretty easy each time. As far as appearance, I tried to think about how it will get better over time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894428 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:58:02 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2894428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> 1st- yes<br /> 2nd- mostly yes, went home to pickup LO1 from one friend, put to bed and then have another friend come stay with him, then came back<br /> 3rd- no :( I was in a shared room and it wasn't allowed.<br /> Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> No<br /> Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> No<br /> Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> 1st- yes<br /> 2nd- no because of his work schedule needed to sleep (I was annoyed but whatever)<br /> 3rd- no because I didn't need help (other than maybe moral support) but I let him sleep<br /> How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> Hard to answer but I was gentle with myself and took my time getting back to shape. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894427 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:57:32 +0000 Becky 2894427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? - Yes, both times. We have both grandparents in the area so good child care. If we didn't have the childcare, I'd be fine with him not staying. We also only stayed one night with DD2.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? - Uh, no?! As the person having just pushed a baby out I would have bitten his head off.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? - No, and I don't think anyone in my family would ever think of doing that. My MIL thought maybe my husband's grandma would want to so she talked to her ahead of time to let her know we would like non-immediate family to wait until we were home to visit, and to let me know ahead of time.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? - Yes, at the hospital he did a good deal of diaper changes and would bring the baby to me. I can't remember once we were home with DD2 though!</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. - Awful. I had a really hard time adjusting from 1-2. 0-1 was a breeze for me. I feel like most people are one way or the other so if 0-1 was hard for you because it rocked your world, maybe 1-2 will be easier. 2 is easy peasy now.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? - I'd say I'm much more comfortable in my body now. I spent a lot of my life being thin but wishing I was thinner, and now I recognize how unimportant it is to look perfect. I am self-conscious about an umbilical hernia I ended up with, and my diastasis recti. I don't wear tight-fitting shirts because I have such an outie belly button. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894422 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:39:52 +0000 foodiebee 2894422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> Yes, he slept both nights in the hospital on the pull-out sofa/futon.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> No. We TTC for close to three years. I don't think any amount of money in the world could've gotten him out of that room. :)</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> No, but my in-laws did basically camp out in the hospital room for both days morning to night and didn't leave even though I really needed to sleep while LO slept. I'm still kinda bitter about their lack of concern. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> Yes. It was everyone else who wasn't helpful. DH was invaluable. The Grandparents were a total other story...</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> Do you mean accepting how it's changed? If so, I'm 9 weeks postpartum and still working on this. Some days are easier than others. I feel like I can both love my son to infinity and also be sad over the changes to my body (my hips are super wider!). If you mean immediately after delivery, I didn't do a good job of this. DH went back to work after week 1, and like I said, the grandmas who were supposed to help me did NOTHING. I really don't feel like I was caring well for myself but I had no help and was basically hosting visitors starting week two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894421 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:38:46 +0000 cake2017 2894421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is staying but also mentioned he’s tired and wants to sleep. I get it but was alittle bitter cause I want the same things and don’t have a choice. For the most part all visitors have notified and asked to visit except my in laws.They just show up. My feelings about my body can be harsh but trying to be graceful and give time to recover! We go home tomorrow and i hope the transition is smooth </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894420 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:38:24 +0000 graceandjoy 2894420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> - 1st baby, yes the whole time<br /> - 2nd baby, went home after I settled into recovery to take care of 1st kid<br /> - 3rd baby, likely the same as 2nd </p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?<br /> - Nope. With 1st, he was def tired and uncomfortable and could barely sleep but I don't even remember if he ever even left for anything</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?<br /> - No. I mean, parents/in-laws might have, but they were always in &amp; out bringing stuff and what not</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?<br /> - At home? Of course! With DD1 DH prob got up with me every single time. With DD2, I don't remmeber but he was in another room with DD1 so I didn't wake him unless I had to</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.<br /> - DD1 was only 2 when DD2 was born, it was rough! But I made a point to spend alone time with her, and we just did the best we could and everyone survived :happy: </p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?<br /> - Still something hard for me to accept. Never lost baby weight after #1 and #2 and now expecting #3! Self care was definitely super duper hard for me ever since I had a kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894419 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:37:27 +0000 KT326 2894419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?<br /> He stayed one night with DS1, did not stay at all with DS2 since we wanted to keep DS1 on his schedule. </p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? He never complained, I was the one to send him home when I had DS1 because I knew he needed better sleep. </p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? Nope. They always called/texted first. We only had visitors with DS1. No none came to the hospital with DS2. </p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Yes, he would help change diapers and bring him to me. I was nursing so that was about all he could do. With DS2, he was responsible for anything DS1 needed. </p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. It wasn’t too bad but I also had DS2 right before Christmas. And DS1 was just a few months away from turning 5. DS2 just kind of fit into our lives, the hardest part was getting used to the lack of sleep and having preschool activities! </p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? I knew it would take time to get the weight off since it took 9 months to put it on. The hardest part for me was the leaky boobs! I hated it. I always soaked through the breast pads. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894418 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:37:21 +0000 Petitduck 2894418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: </p> <p>Dh stayed in hospital each time. We were there 2 nights with our first, 0 with our second, and 1 with our third. He has higher sleep needs than me and is a heavy sleeper so he passed out and stayed out. I make him sleep on a separate floor so he isn’t woken up by the baby because I find it stressful and I don’t need the help. He helps me by helping take care of our other kids and holding the baby in the early evening so I can get some sleep before midnight and then I take the baby for the rest of the night. </p> <p>No unexpected visitors, just a really good friend who asked if she could come. </p> <p>When we just had two it was really easy because my husband would just take care of our oldest and I had the youngest and it was actually really easy. Our oldest was only semi interested in the baby and was very easygoing. Now we have three and it’s a bit more work, but going okay. Lots of little special out of the house trips are my suggestion for older kids. And it’s a bit of a novelty since usually they have their mama so everything with them. </p> <p>My recovery with number 2 was much easier than 1 and with number 3 I am only extremely tired, but physically I can do everything at home that I used to do and I have been doing laundry and cleaning and cooking since our baby’s second day of life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894416 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:35:23 +0000 cake2017 2894416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894414 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:18:26 +0000 Ajsmommy 2894414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you? DH did not stay with me bc DD was home and was 3. I was induced and it took 2 days. The first night he did not stay, he went home and was w DD. The next day he got DD around and to daycare and then came and worked from my room... by evening he left to get DD and had dinner with her and them my mom arrived from out of town so he came back... I had DS at about 10 pm and after I was transferred into my recovery room DH went home to be there w DD in the morning and then he brought her to meet her brother.</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home? yes.</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you? No, both DH and I are very strong and stern people so people don't mess with us. LOL so only our family visited and with our approval.</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse? Sure. DH was very hands on. But I was nursing so there was only so much he could do.</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go. It was easy peasy for us bc DD was literally in LOVE with DS the instant she saw him. It was magical really. We were worried DD was going to be jealous and upset but nope.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby? As far as recovery? I felt pretty good after having DS bc I only had to push twice. I had also lost weight during pregnancy bc I had GD so I left the hospital feeling pretty good. My recovery was faster and easier with lo2 for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894413 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:12:13 +0000 snarkybiochemist 2894413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband stayed with me the first night bc E was born at 9:30 PM and we didnt get settled in a postpartum room until close to 1am. He slept at home the second night since he had really crappy sleep on the foldout chair bed thing.<br /> Since I breastfed there wasn't much feeding help he could do.<br /> I didnt get unannounced visitors but I had set my expectations pretty clear going into it all. Only our parents visited me/E in the hospital, my siblings and grandparents waited until we were home for about a week before showing up and they always called, or just waited until Thanksgiving which was two weeks after E arrived. All in all very lucky. and extremely happy with how it went. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dh-stay-in-hospital-visitors#post-2894411 Tue, 13 Aug 2019 12:02:57 +0000 cake2017 2894411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just curious to hear if your DH stayed with you?</p> <p>Did your DH say they were tired and needed sleep so prefer to sleep at home?</p> <p>Did people show up to visit you without notifying you?</p> <p>Did you get any help during the first few nights with newborn from spouse?</p> <p>Adjusting with more than one child in the beginning? How did it go.</p> <p>How did you cope with your body after baby?</p> <p>TIA </p>