https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:50:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-against-cio-rocking-versus-rubbing-back-in-crib#post-532777 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 20:33:22 +0000 MamaG 532777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO has been putting herself to sleep for sometime (she's now 17 months). But to some extent we are in the same boat, we just took away the pacifier. She has a couple of stuffed animals and a muslin blanket in her crib. Tonight was the worst night in a long time. I let her cry in her bed for 5 minutes before I went in and talked softly to her, laid her down (more than once) telling her repeatedly it was bedtime and I loved her. I rubbed her back until her eyes were getting heavy (about a minute). I walked out, closed the door and didn't hear another sound.</p> <p>We use a video monitor, which I think really works for me. I can watch what she is doing and if she's trying to settle down or really struggling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-against-cio-rocking-versus-rubbing-back-in-crib#post-532720 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 20:17:12 +0000 Honeybee 532720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: when we changed DD from being rocked to sleep to falling asleep by having her back rubbed she was about 15 months. Basically first we stopped rocking her in the rocking chair. Instead we'd read a story in her bed with her. Then we'd turn olut the lights and sing songs while rubbing her back. She'd ask to be rocked most nights, so i'd just rock her on my lap and try to lay her back down in bed before she was fully asleep. Eventually she stopped asking to be rocked. It was kind of the "don't offer, don't refuse" approach. Now at 2.5, she can fall asleep on her own, but we often end up staying with her until she's sleepy or asleep, especially right now since we are still getting used to our recent move. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-against-cio-rocking-versus-rubbing-back-in-crib#post-532667 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 19:57:20 +0000 T.H.O.U. 532667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: thanks for the help. </p> <p>I am not really for or against CIO. I just want her to learn how to lay down and go to sleep on her own in her own bed. How do you get them to do that without CIO. I feel like its either CIO or crappy bedtimes until they are 6. There has to be a better middle ground. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-against-cio-rocking-versus-rubbing-back-in-crib#post-527432 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 11:45:42 +0000 runsyellowlites 527432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you sure there isn't anything that could be attributing to the change in her needing to be rocked? I believe there is a wonder week at 75 weeks (right around 18 months) so that could be the issue.</p> <p>I did sleep training with DS but don't really believe in it anymore so I would likely do what your DH is doing. Sorry I'm no help. =/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-against-cio-rocking-versus-rubbing-back-in-crib#post-527370 Fri, 25 Jan 2013 11:29:13 +0000 T.H.O.U. 527370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have an 18 month old. She STTN now, but I would like her to learn how to lay down and go to sleep on her own. DH is against CIO and doesn't want to just put her in the crib and close the door. Right now we lay her down and rub her back and she will usually fall asleep. Lately though she is having a harder time laying down and relaxing. </p> <p>DH doesn't agree with this and he rocks her until she is almost asleep and then puts her in the crib and rubs her back until she is out. My point is that she needs to learn how to lay down and relax in the crib. Right now I don't mind if we are there with her, we can transition that out next, but she needs to be laying down in her bed. </p> <p>Any suggestions? </p>