https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 09:54:36 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2311974 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 15:47:15 +0000 LuLu Mom 2311974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, SIL and I are definitely the picture takers, I've noticed though MIL (we got her a camera for Christmas a couple years ago) has really started to take more. I think of anyone she should realize how precious pictures are having lost a child suddenly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2311963 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 15:28:39 +0000 AmandaB8 2311963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family (and me) don't take a whole lot of pictures. I'd rather live in the moment and have those wonderful memories. I try to get first meetings and things like that though. </p> <p>My mom's comment (especially as adults) is always: We never change! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310591 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 08:43:14 +0000 twodoghouse 2310591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe people just don't like seeing themselves in photos? I get that. Our families are big picture takers, probably to excess (because realistically what am I going to do with the thousands of photos I have on my computer of my kids??), so we don't really have this issue. I do try to be respectful, though, by asking if it's ok if I take pics if it's not someone I'm around all the time, especially if there a are other kids in the pictures. And I always asks people if it's ok to post pics to IG/social media! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310540 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 07:49:43 +0000 mrbee 2310540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't like pictures either! I'd just ask if it's ok if you take a pic before you start snapping!! If they say yes, then there's no need to feel awkward... that's on them, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310530 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 07:18:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2310530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family doesn't take a lot of pictures. I should say my mom is a photog and my bro and I are so over it. If someone tried to take a picture of me without warning or permission I'd be upset. We may take pics during special occasions. but that is one quick shot and then we go back to whatever we were doing. I hate how candids look and I hate how posing for a pic actually stops the fun. I don't look forward to seeing the pictures after because truly I didn't care about in the first place. Last year we spent Christmas morning with my ILs and I was so happy not to see a camera around at all. </p> <p>I'm just now getting comfortable putting pictures on the wall- these are professional pics. Once this baby comes out I may change my tune. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310523 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 07:04:21 +0000 blackbird 2310523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm betting people just feel awkward being IN FRONT of the camera. Maybe they just feel self conscious </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310518 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 06:59:27 +0000 Ajsmommy 2310518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's family rarely takes pics. But I don't let it deter me at all. I've even made them all pose for pics too :silly: I just say "here, let's take a pic together", then I'll jump out and say "get in there DH" or whomever... LOL... I'm pretty blunt and direct though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310480 Mon, 05 Oct 2015 01:59:17 +0000 Nutella 2310480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ILs are the same! We are visiting them at the moment too &amp; even the other day when I was taking pictures on my phone, DH's dad was like 'that's the one thing I haven't done this whole time you've been here!' - and so I thought he would pull out his camera after that, but no! So I just snap away my average iPhone photos and send the good ones through to them months later!!<br /> I used to be offended by it, but now I dont really care anymore. If they want to rely on us sending iPhone pics then that's their deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310465 Sun, 04 Oct 2015 23:29:58 +0000 lamariniere 2310465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as they are happy to receive the pictures, I would just keep taking them and try not to feel self-conscious about it. I'm a photography hobbiest and my ILs only really do (bad) camera phone photos. So I try to take pics of them with the grandkids and they are always willing to oblige. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310444 Sun, 04 Oct 2015 22:37:12 +0000 PawPrints 2310444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's anything wrong with you taking a lot of pictures, especially if people seem to appreciate them when you share them. But I do think it's fairly normal for families not to be in the habit of taking photos of anyone over 12. My family's photo archive stops abruptly when my sister and I were about that age. I don't think adults are accustomed to having their picture taken in casual settings. It doesn't sound like anyone is specifically uncomfortable or unhappy with your photography though, so I would think you should keep it up and that they'll get more comfortable with it over time. And that they'll eventually be happy to have all those photos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310443 Sun, 04 Oct 2015 22:35:53 +0000 macintosh 2310443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My family didn't take a lot of picures growing up. DH's family takes tons! His mom has albums upon albums of photos and his sister takes tons of pictures too (they both have nice cameras). They always want to take a family picture when we get together.</p> <p>I like taking pics of my DH and of course my phone is filled with pictures of DS. I even like getting an annual Xmas card photo done, but I don't love being in pictures otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310431 Sun, 04 Oct 2015 21:59:24 +0000 Foodnerd81 2310431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents rarely take pictures, especially my mom. For that matter DH doesn't take pictures of anything besides LO very often. Not for any good reason they just don't think of it. But they like getting them so I don't worry about it at all. </p> <p>DH's dad actually asks me to take pictures when he is doing something with LO which I think is very sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-family-rarely-takes-pictures-feeling-awkward-that-i-do#post-2310427 Sun, 04 Oct 2015 21:51:09 +0000 Corduroy 2310427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH, our two kids and I just got back from a week long trip to see the in laws. We get back there about every year and a half so this was the first trip with LO2 and LO1's second trip. I cannot get over the lack of picture taking. They all have cell phones and take pictures of their food, their hobbies, and the babies but they do not take pictures of anyone over 12. What gives?</p> <p>It seems so weird to me. I treasure the pictures I have of myself playing with my now deceased grandparents. I'd like to have a record of LOs meeting a great-grandparent. I never got to meet any of mine. I don't take the pictures for my personal satisfaction. I want my LOs to have a record of their visits.</p> <p>I pull out my camera and always take the pictures I want. Nobody vocalizes an objection but they certainly seem uncomfortable. It makes me feel so awkward. I've asked DH to take some pictures so I'm not the outsider doing it but he refuses. </p> <p>After each trip everyone seems so happy to have pictures. I'm no photographer and I'm not talking fancy photoshoots. Just a snapshot of grandparents &amp; baby or DH and his sister. </p> <p>Is this common? If your family takes very very few pictures, why? I get the sense that there's a body consciousness aspect here but I was wondering if there are other reasons I should consider. </p>