https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 31 May 2026 05:35:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-pride-entertains-sahm-dream#post-528839 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 09:31:53 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 528839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: @katiew92081: the pool was a must have for DH. Pool maintenance and a host of other line items would have to change in order for one of us to SAHM- we make about the same. Maybe when a LO arrives I could see us making sacrifices... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-pride-entertains-sahm-dream#post-528796 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 08:41:03 +0000 Dandelion 528796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Agreed with the pool. We're house hunting right now and anything with a pool turns me off! We hate pool maintenance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-pride-entertains-sahm-dream#post-528780 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 08:23:18 +0000 heffalump 528780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Long before we even got married dh said no way we could afford for me to stay home when we had a baby. I really wanted to.... But didn't fight it as I understood his reasoning. But after we got engaged and reality hit, we discussed it and did decide it would be best for me to stay home. We do make sacrifices, and were both ok with that. It's worth it to us. Were both happier people with me home with lo.</p> <p>And that's why we refused to buy a house with a pool. No pool maintenance for us lazy people :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dhs-pride-entertains-sahm-dream#post-528748 Sat, 26 Jan 2013 07:45:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 528748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Recently I checked around local daycare facilities and learned the going rate for full time infant care is $1000/mo. I came home, told DH, and remarked that at this rate my dream of staying home didn't make sense. Being a SAHM was a pipe dream, but I hear couples say the cost of childcare outweigh the benefit (work income+gas+lunch+wardobe) of the wife, so she opts to be a SAHM.</p> <p>I guess I hurt DH's pride because he said he could support us if I stayed at home. My response was laughter and a reminder it takes two especially since our yummy wild Norwegian salmon cost me $52 at the market the other day. DH explained things would have to change-we would eat differently. I guess he would clean the pool, and cut the grass himself too. Dream on!</p> <p>We both like stuff and services, so I will work. DH has never ever encouraged my dream of staying at home until I said definitively we didn't need too.</p> <p>Has anyone else had one of these change of heart convos? </p>