https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 12:03:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281539 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:45:17 +0000 LuLu Mom 281539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH was actually sad when we got pregnant of the first round of trying, he was expecting a lot more sex than he got! hahabecause of course morning sickness started early and I was in no way feeling the mood anymore. Poor guy :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281517 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:36:52 +0000 MrsCastro 281517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: sometimes, but DH thought i was a lion our first month trying, he told after he was scared he couldnt keep up with the demand...LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281501 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 12:27:02 +0000 Mrs. Blue 281501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think every other day during the right week is the way to go. We tried every day one week, and I think we were both just exhausted. Once you're charting or OPKing for a while, you'll have a better idea of when to start. I feel you, though. TTC can be a huge downer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281448 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 11:50:44 +0000 spaniellove 281448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has been a trooper in this department; usually I O pretty early but there have been a few cycles when it just wasn't happening and I would wake up freaking out that I had no temp rise, and then the next day freaking out again it was definitely happening that day. And on top of it we've had to deal with MFI testing and the timing to work out for that. Sigh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281376 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 10:56:27 +0000 Alivoo01 281376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My hubby's always down for sexy time, but we normally do it right before we go to bed so I'm usually beat by then. Thankfully, hubby is on top of it and initiates. We've tried BD-ing every day and every other day, and still no BFP. Super sad face. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281285 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 10:08:15 +0000 mrsjyw 281285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>dh was a lil spent by the 10 or 11 day... yep we BD'ed for 12 days straight (With I believe 1 or 2 off days)... he was a trooper, (so was i), we got creative and had fun with it... and luckily got our BFP that cycle! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281230 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 09:33:08 +0000 Cherrybee 281230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't tell him I was using OPKs until yesterday morning, when we had our little talk about him "turning me down". I wanted to keep it spontaneous feeling but I rarely initiate sex at the best of times!! I tried the "oh wow, coming off birth control has made me really want it" approach!! But when he thought it was just me being in the mood versus him being tired he was happy to turn down my advances.... so the charts had to come out!!!!!!</p> <p>I waved my positive OPK in his face this morning (he's never seen one before today) and announced "bad news, you've for to have sex with me again today". To which he replied "Not now, though, right?". Oh dear.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281226 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 09:30:31 +0000 JoJoGirl 281226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chibee: Yep... demanding something happen often has opposite of intended effect in that department ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281208 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 09:16:30 +0000 chibee 281208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jojogirl: I really need to take your advice to heart. I would throw tantrums when I told him it was time and he was reluctant, and that really didn't seem to work too well for obvious reasons. I'm a little short tempered and impatient though, so it's really difficult for me to keep calm about things like this. But I can definitely see that DH feeds off of my moods and energy, so no more anxiety and crazy from me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281198 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 09:04:50 +0000 JoJoGirl 281198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: It's such a fine line. I have refined my technique this time around so it worked out much better ;) I gave DH a head's up that "these next few days it's time" but not the "OMG OPK POSITIVE GET HOME FROM WORK EARLY" email AND text thing I did last month that ended up with us not BDing at all. I initiated "normally" whenever possible and when schedule stuff got in the way, I just ask as calmly as possible "can we make time tonight to try?" and that seemed to work out better. Anxious me = anxious him = no BDing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281195 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 09:01:44 +0000 Modern Daisy 281195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm curious to see how this goes for us too! We both work full time and are super busy so a schedule sounds stressful. I like the idea of not saying anything about a positive opk, but of course that might backfire - ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281192 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 08:57:44 +0000 chibee 281192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally feel for you, this is another reason why I was so irrationally upset that our first try was a failure because that aspect of TTC was stressful. Especially when I didn't O when I thought I had and it ended up being much later in my cycle, I was like "ugh not again!" which is a terrible attitude, because DH and I do have fun, but it feels like a whole different ballgame when TTC is involved, and I think that's what I need to work on. like @Jojogirl says, I think I'm not even going to involve DH in the OPK process this time around at all. Maybe you should try the same? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281174 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 08:42:39 +0000 Mrs.B 281174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you! Our first month I was supposed to O on cd16 but did not O until CD23. With all that we having going on we are good to BD every other day but DH actually lasts alot longer then I do so at the end I'm always thinking in my head "finish already!". This only accured during our TTC any other time it's enjoyable but for some reason TTC sex was not very fun. Thank god we got BFP 1st cycle otherwise we would have gone crazy. You're not alone though TTC sex wasn't fun for us at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281094 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 07:00:57 +0000 JoJoGirl 281094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali yes, especially after months and months of TTC, this is a difficult one (hopefully you won't get there). I learned after last month to NOT even tell DH when the OPK is positive, men don't respond well to pressure in this department. As much as you can keep the BD "normal" (ie initiate like you would anyway), the smoother things will go. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281063 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 06:00:45 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 281063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it seems most men just want spontaneity instead of scheduled sex.. go figure! But... on the bright side, there's a good chance you can still get pregnant this month if you had.sex right before you o'd. That's what happened to me. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281062 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 05:56:54 +0000 Cherrybee 281062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks @Mrs. Tricycle! Yeah, it's our first month TTC and my first off BCP so I'm all over the place!! </p> <p>Nature take it's course, indeed! I'm resisting the urge to give a biology lecture.... I think when us ladies were having the "periods" talk at school, the lads were being shown how to put condoms on vegetables!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281054 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 05:22:47 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 281054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I feel for ya! Is this your first cycle TTC? I've yet to meet a guy who does not want to just "let nature take its course" (at least the first few months). The longer you chart, the better you'll be at predicting O, which makes timing easier. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-elses-dhso-get-annoyed-with-all-the-bding#post-281051 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 04:41:39 +0000 Cherrybee 281051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Argh. TTC. I hate it!!! I thought I'd love it; I thought it would be a really special, beautiful time in our relationship - a time full of hopes and dreams and intimacy and giggles! You know what it actually is? It's a long, drawn out nightmare in which I have to p1ss repeatedly on my own hands. </p> <p>The BDing started out ok. The first week after AF, DH made a valiant effort. Of course, I knew that I wasn't fertile at all, but it seemed a little clinical to say "Don't bother, I haven't O'd" and, besides, it was fun! I need to just say, now, that, well, we don't do it very often.....We both work full time, both study part time... and DH has a medical condition which makes him feel very tired and makes his joints ache.... I'd say once a week is really good for us.... So....</p> <p>By CD13, we were already running out of steam. I was fine with this (the little fellers need time to rejuvenate, after all) and we dropped down to every other day. I was charting and OPKing and knew I hadn't Od so, really, just keeping a small supply of the troops in the ol'tubes was the aim of the game for me! </p> <p>Well, now I'm on CD22 and I've had +ve OPKs since Saturday (no temp increases). However, to my horror, over the weekend, DH started to give up! I did all the cooking, fetched him anything he wanted, anything just to stop him getting too tired. I ramped it right up, surprised him at different times of the day, tried sexy underwear, the works. Finally, on Sunday night, he gave me the brush off. He was tired. He curled up with a book and I curled up and tried not to cry. </p> <p>Monday morning, we talked about it and I thought he understood - but then last night I got the brush off again! "But I'm ovulating" I whined. To which he replied, wearily, "Look, I really didn't want to make a big drama out of this baby thing. Why can't we just carry on as normal and let nature take it's course?". I explained, not very calmly at all, that I only had an egg in my system for about 24 hours and for nature to take it's course he needed to freaking fertilise it. If he misses this one, it'll be another month before we get another chance! He asked me directly "Have you got an egg in there right now?". Well, I didn't know, did I? I hedged my bets - "Yes" I said. "Well let's knock you up then" he said and we BD'd. </p> <p>So, this morning - NO TEMP RISE!!! I did an OPK and it's the strongest, most positive positive I've ever seen. </p> <p>Waaaaaah! </p>