https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 03:01:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737698 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:59:20 +0000 jetsa 737698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: uh mama, no, just no. I am so sorry.</p> <p>I've got one similar but I don't think she'd go that far. Her best one so far (I'm only 18 weeks) Was to say that she could keep the LO all day Sunday and then just bring the baby back before babysitting Monday. Um no we both work full time Sat/Sun are our only family days! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737613 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:20:12 +0000 LaughLines 737613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz it sounds like you and your MIL need to have a heart to heart. I don't think it's necessarily something you have to make your DH do, she is now your family, too, and will always be in your life and your baby's life, so she's not only your husbands responsibility. It sounds like she has been generous in some ways and you don't want to discourage that (who would!?) but i think there are ways you could talk to her without pissing her off. </p> <p>Maybe do a cute shopping trip together and go pick out any baby stuff you still need after your shower/get coffee, whatever and have a civil conversation. Tell her you're so excited for her to be in your baby's life, but there will be some groundrules. Make it clear that it's not just HER, but everyone will be expected to follow certain requests (you can leave out the part that most people do it naturally out of respect/common sense). Let her know that you and your husband will be your babies primary caregivers and you're so excited for this new role in your life. You can't wait to see your husband be a dad and you to be a mom, and you're glad she'll be the grandma, but she has to respect that these things are new and important for you both as parents. As long as it doesn't turn into a fighting match and you acknowledge she WILL be involved in your kids life, I think it would be much better to get it out ahead of time then let resentment grow and have consistent power struggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737605 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:15:47 +0000 .twist. 737605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: you go girl. I would be all over that, there are some lines that are forgiveable and there are some that are 100% NOT. and being called MAMA as a grandmother is NOT a line that should ever be crossed. I'm mad for you. UGH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737596 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:13:28 +0000 swedishfish 737596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I would focus all of my efforts trying to teach the baby to call your MIL by the grandma name she disliked the most then. Your MIL is nuts. </p> <p>A corsage? Was she going to prom after your baby shower? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737591 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:11:24 +0000 MrsStormy 737591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: WTH? She wants her grandma name to be mama? That is out of control! I think a conversation is in order for sure, but I would make sure to tell your DH that he really needs to take the lead, she's his mom. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737583 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:08:43 +0000 Dandelion 737583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Good for you! She doesn't get to call shots...you do, cause you're the real mama...let us know how it goes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737572 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 15:05:34 +0000 Boheme 737572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: @.twist.: She has poked the bear. I didn't get the nickname Grizz for no reason! :) An unpleasant conversation about expectations and boundaries is about to take place...The real mama is going to lay down the law! </p> <p>And to think I was all warm and fuzzy about her yesterday because she helped with the food at my shower and bought us a ton of our cloth diapers... I wasn't aware of her covert craziness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737540 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:50:15 +0000 MrsLilybugg 737540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: she wore a corsage to YOUR shower?!?! Oh mannn that just takes the cake<br /> And aghhhh I just saw that she signed your guestbook "Mama". NO WAY JOSE NO WAYYYYYYY </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737531 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:46:35 +0000 .twist. 737531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: what? mama is not in any way "grandma". She cannot be called that. wtf. What are you going to do? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737525 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:45:35 +0000 Dandelion 737525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Mama...ooooh...I would be on the phone telling her that Mama isn't gonna fly. Maybe you should nip this all before LO shows up. Really...maybe instead of her telling you HER expectations, you lay down yours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737518 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:44:17 +0000 avivoca 737518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: There are no words. I cannot believe she did that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737506 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:42:19 +0000 Boheme 737506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I told DH we're going to have a code word that means he has 30 seconds to get LO away from MIL and less than 5 minutes to get her out the door. I am trying so hard to just accept that she is excited, but she is starting to really aggravate me. I just got home from work and saw the guestbook from my shower...I heard her say she had picked her 'grandma name' and signed as that but I figured it was Mimi since that's what she had talked about. </p> <p>She signed it 'Mama'. I am livid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737483 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:37:13 +0000 Dandelion 737483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I just cannot imagine... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737387 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:10:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 737387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: Target of all places. Lol, the look on her face was priceless! I *look* harmless enough. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737376 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:09:04 +0000 Dandelion 737376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: Where WERE you when that stranger did that? I swear, you were NICE about it. I probably would have punched them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737362 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:03:52 +0000 Boheme 737362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@evansjamie: I am purposely waiting to take our LO to church until I get over my anxiousness about people holding him because the church ladies are the worst! DH thought I was just being silly until he came up to me after church last week and whispered in my ear "Dang. You were totally right. I just witnessed four baby-snatchings. Two of them were buckled into carseats. That is messed up!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737361 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:03:47 +0000 MsLipGloss 737361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: Oh yeah, I have great big hairy *fear ballz*, yo! It really scared me and freaked me out! I thought for sure that keeping her in a carrier so close to me would act as a deterrent. But reaching over my shoulder from behind? No bueno! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737353 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:02:19 +0000 Dandelion 737353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ok, after reading all the comments and the post here's the plan I propose:</p> <p>When your MIL comes, put your game face on. Be prepared to be stern when it's time to take the baby back. Cause no, Gramma doesn't get first dibs, Mama does.</p> <p>Second, tell your mom to put HER game face on and not let your MIL drive you and your family crazy about it. Don't let your mom be too nice to say anything.</p> <p>Third...I think you need a bold friend with you as much as possible when dealing with your MIL. Your hubby might have to be the bold person, cause even though you can be stern, you shouldn't have to be the stern one every time.</p> <p>I can't stand baby hogs. I don't even like 5 year old hogs...my MIL gets like that with my son, and it drives me up the wall. She spoils him and lets him do whatever around her and there's a lot of "don't tell mama" involving soda and other junk. Luckily, my husband helps me stand ground with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737346 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 14:01:30 +0000 avivoca 737346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Yes, if they asked, it would be okay, but they would need to give the baby back when I'm ready or the baby is ready. I really am worried about my mom and some of the church ladies, because they don't ask and they don't like to give them up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737331 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 13:57:35 +0000 Boheme 737331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@evansjamie: I think the worst kind are the baby snatchers who then proceed to hog the baby after they snatch him/her up. I am a little more ok with baby hogs who at least ask first...but not really :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737327 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 13:56:56 +0000 NovBaby1112 737327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: LOL! you have way more ballz than me! If anyone comes up to LO and touches her, I usually just try to make an excuse and leave and then sanitize whatever body part they touched! I am bad at confrontation :(</p> <p>@grizz: I worried about this a LOT before LO was born, and surprisingly, no one really wanted to hog her because she would usually scream if she was in anyone's arms but mine :) hehe </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737312 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 13:51:53 +0000 googly-eyes 737312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: @MsLipGloss: Yes NOTHING is a safe zone. People will open up carseats, uncover blankets, lean over your table at a restaurant.... For some reason people think that babies are communal property! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737298 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 13:48:26 +0000 avivoca 737298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm working on my death stare because I know this is going to happen. My mother/MIL/every woman at church likes to baby hog, and it is not okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737288 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 13:46:46 +0000 MsLipGloss 737288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Yeah, it happened while LO was facing me in her carrier . . . so the stranger approached me from behind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737105 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:57:42 +0000 Arden 737105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dude, my death stare must be effective because NOBODY has tried to touch my baby. At the store, people peek through the slit in the car seat cover but NEVER try to open it. I think I'd physically attack someone if they tried to stick their finger in my baby's mouth... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737072 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:40:41 +0000 blackbird 737072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol mslipgloss! Strangers touching my kid would make me rage! So far, nobody has tried, though. </p> <p>But yeah, car seats aren't safe. What happened tp leaving a sleeping baby?! And when she was snoozing in her seat in the living room during dinner, my MIL dragged it into the kitchen because it "made her nervous" for her to be in the living room. UM her being in the middle of the kitchen FLOOR made me nervous, that's why I had her out of the way!</p> <p>I really don't get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737018 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:17:22 +0000 MsLipGloss 737018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: yeah, they can plant a cabbage patch! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737016 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:16:41 +0000 Boheme 737016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: DH wised up and gave his dad his money back for half the garden and told him to go grow his own. Maybe I should give them some money and tell them to get their own baby :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737007 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:13:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 737007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: This reminds me your other thread about the garden . . . but, if anyone hogs the baby, you could say, "Oi - Samwise! Stop fat hobbit-ing the baby!" :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-hog-your-baby/page/2#post-737002 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 12:11:44 +0000 Boheme 737002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: My sister thought I would be mad but I think its hysterical! </p>