https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 04:21:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779374 Mon, 13 May 2013 21:04:34 +0000 MrsF 779374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@princessbaby: so glad that you are feeling closer to a happier medium. I have been a happy formula feeder since 3 months, but lately I've been wondering if I could have kept one or two nursing sessions a day. With some PPD and a colicky baby I just couldn't handle BFing every two hours. It really never occurred to me that maybe I could have had both! It's just part of your journey with LO, wherever it takes you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779372 Mon, 13 May 2013 21:03:53 +0000 Mrs. Twine 779372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Princessbaby; Yeah, like the kind you eat. And no, it's not exactly where they come from. Mr T. shingled the roof of the playhouse last fall, and dropped a bunch of debris on one of my planters. He dumped the whole thing in a manure pile. I had no idea this had happened because my plants were already done for the season (which is why they were behind there in the first place). I was getting my "kitchen garden" sorted, and realized my chives were MIA. He confessed to dumping them. But today when we were playing in the yard I discovered them, alive and well, in a manure heap. So after the girls were in bed, I went out to rescue them. They had put down roots so deep that all I got for my pains were pig poop all over myself, and hands that smell like poopy onions. I could really use a BIG glass of wine. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779367 Mon, 13 May 2013 21:03:20 +0000 photojane 779367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Whooooo! I love that you went for a wine walk. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779321 Mon, 13 May 2013 20:45:35 +0000 PrincessBaby 779321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: Um like chives that you eat? Out of manure? Is that where chives come from? Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779317 Mon, 13 May 2013 20:43:43 +0000 Mrs. Twine 779317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so glad to hear you are feeling some peace and happiness right now with your decision! And I am totally jealous of your night. I tried to go rescue some chives out of a manure heap. We'll just leave it at that. Sounds like you are heading down a path that will work for you and H. I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-779285 Mon, 13 May 2013 20:36:46 +0000 PrincessBaby 779285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You guys! H and I went for a walk this evening and Mom had a huuuuge glass of wine in the UBV parent organizer, and so after we got back, I gave H 4 oz of formula so I wouldnt pass the wine on to her...Then, much later, i nursed her to sleep after her bath and she rolled around and woke herself up. I went in and gave her 2 oz of formula (as I drank a glass of wine!) and she passed out SO HARD! I feel so...relieved? I think you all provided me with the perfect solution! I dont feel like it's my job or a chore!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-778536 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:57:22 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 778536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: i've many days where i am tired of it. the main reason being that, like you said, you never get a break. I told DH that if I could BF 5 days a week and he BFs the other two, it would be easy peasy to make it to make one year (my goal) and beyond. Obviously that won't happen, so i just power through. I am on mat leave for a year, so that's my goal. by then i am hoping to keep going until he is ready for regular milk and skip formula altogether, but i will evaluate that when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-778524 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:52:49 +0000 littlebittyhouse 778524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Month 5/6 was tough for me with the nursing and pumping but I found that after the 6 month mark it got really really easy. It was almost like I had hit a wall and I just had to power through it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-778497 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:47:36 +0000 BabyBruins 778497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I'm on the same page as Mrs. Twine, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. If you are concerned about not giving the nutritional benefits, then just cut down to one or two nursings a day. I only exclusively BF until about 5.5 months, but he still had some breastmilk every day until he was 14 months old. We started by supplementing with formula during the day, taking away one feeding at a time and ended by only nursing first thing in the morning and before bed. You are still committed to those feedings, but it lightens the burden during the day. I never would have lasted over a year if I wasn't just doing those 2 feedings.<br /> Also keep in mind that H will be starting solids soon so her nursing might go down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-778494 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:47:09 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 778494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say stick to your 6m goal!<br /> With #2: My plan is to go to 6m (meanwhile, pumping and storing anything I may have extra). Then, feed the pumped milk until it runs out. Maybe we could make it to 6.5/7m that way. We'll see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-778408 Mon, 13 May 2013 14:23:50 +0000 78h2o 778408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: AESY works for us too.</p> <p>J and H are the same exact age and I'm a little weary of breastfeeding as well. I think pumping is the hugest pain, so hopefully without working for awhile you can mostly avoid that. I sometimes have fantasies of quitting, but then, I do love that time to snuggle with her. I love that when she's fussy or fighting sleep, nursing is a surefire way to soothe/relax her. I'm pretty sure I'd miss it if I didn't do it at all... esp. as she gets older, more wiggly, &amp; less cuddly.</p> <p> Make whatever decision is best for you though!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777516 Mon, 13 May 2013 10:20:08 +0000 googly-eyes 777516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you're feeling that way. I like the other ladies' ideas about a compromise. Full time formula feeding is easy in some regards and a pain in the butt in others. You're almost to 6 months anyway. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777506 Mon, 13 May 2013 10:18:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 777506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally if I were you, I'd power through and try to make it a little longer... it does get tiring and it's hard having your baby completely dependent on only YOU for food (I couldn't leave him for more than 3 hours unless I wanted to pump and like you I hated that!). But I had to make a choice to accept that breastfeeding wasn't about me or my happiness, but about my baby. It made him happy and healthy!!! And when I did face some complications with very persistent thrush, it was hard to keep a positive attitude, but I knew it would be worth it. But I know not all moms can or want to keep that attitude... it really depends I guess.</p> <p>I mean it doesn't sound like you're actually *unhappy*?? just tired?? </p> <p>I think, based on what you said, the worst part is over now that you'll be done working for awhile!! I didn't mind it so much as a SAHM :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777478 Mon, 13 May 2013 10:13:47 +0000 Amelieisme 777478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I feel ya! I wrote a post recently asking for motivation to continue. I'm just over 9 months now and I am going to try to power through to a year, but its hard. I have to pump at work 3x to keep up and I just can't wait to put the thing away FOR GOOD (or at least until number 2). I am just taking it one week at a time. It does get easier once they start taking more solids so we are down to 3-4 nursing sessions/day (he gets one bottle of formula/night). You could try replacing one session regularly with formula and see if that helps. It really isn't all or none. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777454 Mon, 13 May 2013 10:09:42 +0000 photojane 777454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that BFing when you want to and doing a bottle of formula when you don't (i.e. bedtime) is a nice compromise. I find formula feeding incredibly easy, so I get the appeal! I think if you think if you will regret quitting, then don't! But happy mama = happy baby, so if quitting will make you happy... do it! I have really grown to love the simplicity &amp; ease of formula, so I'm really glad it worked out this way for us. Either way, you'll have a beautiful healthy baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777388 Mon, 13 May 2013 09:42:21 +0000 cascademom 777388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hit that same breastfeeding wall less than a month ago around 7-8 months. I felt like my supply was dwindling and he wasn't getting fed or full enough. I hated pumping at work with a passion. At first it was okay, but it got exhausting later especially when I wouldn't make enough for him. About a couple of weeks ago, we started supplementing and then went towards formula as his main milk. Both LO and I are happy now. He's getting plenty of food and I'm less stressed, more focused on work. In the end, weaning's been good for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777379 Mon, 13 May 2013 09:38:01 +0000 NovBaby1112 777379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I found EASY to be really sucky lol. My LO does so much better on AESY She sleeps much better and longer on a full belly and I don't feel like I am constantly feeding her. She's not really hungry when she wakes up from her naps, so I've just been nursing her before her naps and its working better for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777372 Mon, 13 May 2013 09:32:04 +0000 matador84 777372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hit a breastfeeding wall about the same time you are at. It gets easier once they start solids and you can nurse less frequently. DS isn't sttn yet and I can't imagine having to get up to make a bottle in the middle of the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777351 Mon, 13 May 2013 09:18:20 +0000 mrsjyw 777351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with pumping for sure. SO annoying. But as far as nursing, I think it's been easy for us. A nurses every 3 hours like clockwork so it hasn't mentally affected me as much as the early months. Is nursing a difficult option when you're out? I know that's the one stressor for us when making plans to go out, but once I figure out where we can nurse, I'm good to go! I would HATE to have skip a nursing session then pump it out! YUCK. 6 months was my first long term goal as well, but now that we are a week away-- I can't imagine stopping! Oh and just to add, we started solids this past wknd, that will be coming up soon for H too so maybe the next few months will get easier as far as feeling the boob is always the answer! :) </p> <p>Regardless, 5+ months is great, and I think you should do what is best for your and H's well-being!! She's a happy, healthy baby-- no matter what you decide to do I think it's OK! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777339 Mon, 13 May 2013 09:12:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 777339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should stick with it! My LO is one now and she only nurses 2-3 times a day and I barely notice it. Once H is a month or two older she will probably cut back on some nursing sessions. Life will get way easier!! Now that your gonna SAH for a while, just cut out the pumping all together. It's such a PITA! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777310 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:54:31 +0000 Mrs. Twine 777310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say a happy medium looks however you want it to! Maybe not the most helpful answer, but I'll try to clarify. Your body will make whatever milk H tells it to. If you choose just to nurse once a day in the morning, your body can adapt to that. It will take time, and you shouldn't try to get there "cold turkey" because you will end up engorged and uncomfortable and might get sick (mastitis, etc.) but if you scale back the amount you are nursing and pumping, you will get there. I guess what I was trying to say is that you can do whatever works for you, and you shouldn't have to think about it as "either I nurse OR I do something else." It can just as easily be "I nurse when baby and I want to, and the rest of the time we do something else." You are just starting the weaning process (away from breastmilk) at a different time than some mothers do, but the process will look and work the same way. Here are some additional resources: <a href="http://kellymom.com/ages/weaning/wean-how/weaning-partial/" rel="nofollow">http://kellymom.com/ages/weaning/wean-how/weaning-partial/</a> and <a href="http://www.artofbreastfeeding.com/?p=27" rel="nofollow">http://www.artofbreastfeeding.com/?p=27</a> (for this second one, just use the applicable information, not the complete weaning stuff, unless you choose to go that route). So, decide what your ideal nursing situation would look like (when are you doing it? where?), and start eliminating pumping and nursing sessions until you are there. And also remember, if your "ideal" situation needs tweaks from time to time (let's say she gets sick and you and she want to nurse five times that day instead of two) you can totally do that, too. Just remember that your supply will get lower, and so she will need to be taking in some calories from another source (so formula, or later on perhaps solids). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777292 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:48:02 +0000 hilsy85 777292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: hmm...how many times is she nursing per day? How long is she going between nurses? I bet she will start to spread out soon...also, if EASY isn't working for you guys anymore (if it's not so EASY!) maybe try doing Eat Activity Sleep Activity Eat? I know a lot of people, including myself, have had to tweak it as LOs get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777291 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:47:36 +0000 Pink Champagne 777291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think once you're not working, some of that stress will go away.. You shouldn't be so worried about pumping because you'll be around your baby a lot more. I know for me, I work so I'm pumping, but we nurse exclusively on the weekends, and I'm always so relieved for those times. I never pump on the weekends, even if I leave LO to go do something and miss a feeding. You're already supplementing, so I would just enjoy your nursing sessions, pump if you feel like it, and stick with it if you can for a little while longer. You're doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777289 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:45:52 +0000 Foodnerd81 777289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO isn't here yet, so I can't speak from experience. BUT, since you are just stopping working at your stressful job, I agree with everyone else who says to just give it a few more weeks and see how it goes. If you are still feeling really done with it, take the steps to stop and that's fine-- she's gotten loads of benefits from the first 6 months! But I think it would be a shame to have gotten through these really difficult and stressful last few months, only to stop now, when it could potentially get a lot easier. I think you owe it to yourself, more than H, to give it a try and see how it is. </p> <p>But whenever you decide to stop, that's awesome too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777281 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:39:09 +0000 regberadaisy 777281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think if you can power through the next month or two things will get A LOT easier especially since you don't have to pump any more.<br /> We have supplemented from the get go due to supply issues and when we're out I tend to give her formula unless we're somewhere I can BF in private or in the car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777242 Mon, 13 May 2013 08:25:03 +0000 PrincessBaby 777242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: That's another reason I'm scared to stop, I am so fearful of the weaning process!!!<br /> @petunia354: You deserve a trophy for EPing!!!!<br /> @yellowbird: I need to have that same mentality- if she takes a 5 oz bottle, I won't let myself feel pressure to pump! Just roll with it!<br /> @Mrs. Twine: what does a happy median look like? Is it that we give her formula when I need a break and I just don't worry about pumping? I guess I had thought about it as all or nothing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777167 Mon, 13 May 2013 07:45:14 +0000 Mrs. Twine 777167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just a thought, but nursing doesn't have to be an everything/nothing equation. Your body will adapt to whatever amount of nursing you choose to do or feel is right for your family and baby, whether that's all, some, or none. Have you thought about just nursing her when both of you feel like it? And stop pumping if that is stressful and yucky for you! Sounds like she will take formula, so no worries there. I'm just not sure if I should read your initial comment as, "I'm so done nursing, period" or "I'm so done with these things about nursing." If it's just that you're over some aspects (not being able to share baby care tasks as easily, pumping, etc.) then you should still be able to breastfeed some if you want to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777160 Mon, 13 May 2013 07:39:36 +0000 yellowbird 777160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I get annoyed that I am her only good source and I absolutely hate pumping. When we're out and about I just nurse her in the car or in a dressing room. 5-10 mins and we're done. I know it's way easier to do that than deal with a bottle. If I were you I'd stick with it. If I miss a feeding because we went out to dinner or I wanted to get my hair done, I usually do t worry about pumping anymore. Unless its been 8-10 hours, I'm not pumping!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777152 Mon, 13 May 2013 07:33:25 +0000 petunia354 777152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no advice since I EP and supplement with formula but I can sympathize. I'm at 1 pump a day now and can't wait to just be done, I'm so over it! You've done so great at making it this far with your stressful job situation so just do whatever makes you happy. H will thrive no matter what you decide! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-anyone-just-get-tired-of-bfing#post-777146 Mon, 13 May 2013 07:29:54 +0000 Weagle 777146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember hitting a BFing wall around that time. LO was still nursing constantly (like, every 1.5-2 hours), and I was feeling majorly touched out. Then, soon after she started going longer between nursing and eating much more efficiently. Things got much, much easier! I agree with @T.H.O.U.: , take breaks and try to set a small goal. And if you do decide to stop, wean slowly! Clogged ducts and mastitis are no fun :( </p>