https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 08:00:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1523937 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:36:30 +0000 Greentea 1523937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It made me hate her more :( I feel like a wet blanket!</p> <p>Mum was/ is the worst though and being a parent has made that more apparent. </p> <p>In general I appreciate and respect good parents even more however. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1523933 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:35:06 +0000 Rockies11 1523933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same way as @Bookish - it's made my relationship with my parents more difficult not less! I thought having a baby would make me understand better the way that they parented, but instead I grow increasingly horrified about how I was treated - I can't imagine treating children the way that I was treated. I also thought that my parents would behave like normal grandparents - like be interested in their only grandbaby, call, etc. and if anything they're more distant now. So I expected it to be good for our relationship, and it absolutely isn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1523874 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 17:05:13 +0000 Anagram 1523874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely. People used to come up to me to tell me how amazing my parents were and I didn't get it. Like, they were just my normal parents. But now that I'm a parent and adult.... Honestly I feel like they must have had magical powers because they were practically super human in what they were able to accomplish on a daily basis. I don't have half their energy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1523837 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 16:52:09 +0000 Canoli 1523837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, most definitely! I appreciate her much more and wish we lived closer to each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522687 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:32:51 +0000 shinymama 1522687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been close to my parents, but I would say that becoming a parent made me more forgiving, less judgemental, and more appreciative of all that they did/do. </p> <p>My childhood wasn't perfect, and I don't dwell on it because I know that they were trying their best. Like Maya Angelou said, "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better." I like to think that's what they did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522635 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:17:14 +0000 Mamaof2 1522635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and even more so now that my DS is getting older (5). I totally get the whole "I am not your friend, I am your parent" thing now!!</p> <p>Also my mom raised 4 kids as a single mother - we saw my dad 1-2 times a year - I don't think I could raise my 2 kids alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522632 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:16:28 +0000 blackbird 1522632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It's been eye opening in many ways. I plan to parent in a very, very different way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522624 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 12:14:26 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1522624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I continue to be amazed at what my mother did for us when we were kids. Things that seemed so easy for her with 3 kids seem impossible for me to do with just one. I also realize why she imposed certain rules on me. As a mother of a little girl, it all makes complete sense to me now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522576 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:59:07 +0000 Mae 1522576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been close with my parents and I think I understood from a pretty young age that parents are people too and are not capable of being perfect just because they are parents. I never held any resentment about my upbringing and have always felt really good about them and the way they raised me. That being said, I do think since I got pregnant and have started thinking more and more about my little girl that I've felt a bit more sympathy for what my mom went through when I left home. It really hit me that she grew me and devoted everything to me and my brother and it must have just been so shattering to have your kids just…. leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522573 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:58:56 +0000 Bookish 1522573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, it made it much more difficult to maintain a relationship with my mother. I can't imagine treating my LO the way she treated my sisters and I, and it makes me rage inside at how rotten a parent she was. I cut my dad more slack because he's making up for his shortcomings now, and is now a wonderful dad and grandpa, but I also wonder wtf he was doing with his 6 figure salary during my youth, because it sure as heck didn't go to savings! </p> <p>Woo, sorry, that was a bit ranty. Touchy subject ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522571 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:58:19 +0000 MaryM 1522571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the opposite happen and as my adult relationship strengthened with my mom, I wanted to be a mother more and more! </p> <p>Until recently, I was never really sure I wanted children. But after my dad passed away and I started seeing my relationship with my mother being more of an adult friendship and realizing how alike we are and how connected we are, I realized that if anything ever happened to DH...I would really want to have that familial link with someone like I have with my mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522568 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:57:18 +0000 MsLipGloss 1522568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It gave me perspective on some issues, but made other issues harder to accept. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522523 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:45:46 +0000 Cherrybee 1522523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I have a feeling we are going to get pay-back when our own children reach that age!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522519 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:44:35 +0000 LuLu Mom 1522519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In adulthood I've always been super close to my mom, it did bring me closer to my mother in law. It didn'ta ffect my relationship with my dad, we've always had a close (but not as close as I am with my mom) relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522514 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:42:17 +0000 deerylou 1522514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been immensely close with my folks. My mom and I went through a rough patch during my teen years, but we ironed things out once I left for college. If anything, having my daughter has helped me to better understand the enormity of our bond, if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522513 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:42:14 +0000 mrsjyw 1522513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been super close to my mom, but since having DS, I've learned and understood a lot of her parenting decisions and was mortified at my young self for some of the things I put her through...! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-becoming-a-parent-change-the-way-you-felt-about-your-own-parents#post-1522496 Wed, 26 Mar 2014 11:39:44 +0000 Cherrybee 1522496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm much closer to my mum since having E. I spent a long time being really bitter about some things that happened in my teenage years that really damaged our relationship - but seeing her with E has reminded me of the way she was when I was a little girl - she was so loving and attentive. She was my whole world. </p> <p>I guess I also had this idea that her status as a mother meant that she should have behaved a certain way, been completely selfless and known exactly what to do for the best. Then I had my own child and -guess what? - I didn't change. I'm still me. I still have my own dreams. I'm still selfish at times and I'm just trying my best one day at a time. That's all I can ask of her, looking back..... and, yeah, she didn't always get it right but who does?</p> <p>Has becoming a parent changed the way you feel about your own relationships with your parents? </p>