https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 16:22:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152477 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 10:48:51 +0000 littleblessings 2152477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for all the feedback. I've been a SAHM of two and before getting that break I call work yesterday I found myself losing my cool with my kids a lot more. It's been pretty bad. I can't wait to go back to work today. Only thing is when I pick them up they will be tired and whiny. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152348 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:46:42 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2152348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Except I went back to school and not work. It was glorious. I say "was" because once school got really hectic, it affected my afternoons with LO. I would be busy writing papers instead of playing with her and I noticed a negative change in the way she interacted with me. Now that things have calmed down a bit, I'm working on playing with her more often. I can already see a change :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152335 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:37:29 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2152335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely! I was only home for maternity leave (14 weeks), but it was SO much better once I went back to work. Apparently, I am not cut out to be a SAHM. </p> <p>Even at 7 months old, my LO does so many awesome things at daycare...art projects and stuff we would never do at home - so I like to think that he's enjoying it too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152270 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:04:59 +0000 loveisstrange 2152270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely yes. Im happier, and have more patience, which in turn makes her happier.</p> <p>I was a miserable bitch as a SAHM. Im not cut out for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152256 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:59:29 +0000 looch 2152256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my son had his way, he would absolutely want to be home with both my husband and I, 24/7. I don't know what it is, other than to say he's a total homebody. He loves to go to school, but if given the choice, he'd ask to stay at home.</p> <p>I love working, I know I am one of those strange people, I did it for 13 years before my son was born, so I had my groove. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152231 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:50:21 +0000 prettylizy 2152231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>150% YES! I'm so much happier day to day going to work. Having 2x 1year maternity leave makes me appreciate the stimulation my job gives me so much more. I cherish the time I have with my girls as opposed to just trudging through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152226 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:48:27 +0000 Smurfette 2152226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Without a doubt. I have much more patience with her at night when I haven't been with her all day verses the 6pm meltdown on the weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152200 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:34:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2152200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As much as I want to SAH, I do think WOH makes me have more patience for DD b/c I treasure the time I have with her and in order to "make it up" to her I'm less grumpy with MOTN wakes and other fussiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152160 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:15:12 +0000 catlady 2152160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was never a SAHM but I definitely felt like a better mom after my maternity leave ended and I went back to work. I have no idea how SAHMs do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152150 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:07:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2152150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. I can keep my cool when I am only around them for bits a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152138 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:00:46 +0000 catomd00 2152138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm s better mother because I work!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152136 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 08:00:32 +0000 BandDmommy 2152136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think being happy makes it much easier to be a parent. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152120 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:54:44 +0000 LBee 2152120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: This exactly. My son watched an embarrassing amount of Grey's Anatomy while I was on maternity leave. </p> <p>I think I am a better mom to my son because I don't stay home. His school is wonderful and when it's me and him time, I am recharged and SO excited to be with him. </p> <p>Mad props to SAHMs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152118 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:54:23 +0000 Corduroy 2152118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only SAH during my four month maternity leave but even then it was obvious that LO craves attention from others and lots of interaction. She is her unhappiest at home with me alone. When we are at home she's always asking to be elsewhere or playing with someone else. I can keep up with her social demands on the weekend (barely) but it is exhausting 7 days a week. In that way daycare/working really helps us achieve a happy balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152101 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:46:46 +0000 artsyfartsy 2152101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: Haha yes. T was bored of me by the end of my SAHM run. He's much more excited at daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152100 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:45:56 +0000 artsyfartsy 2152100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I was a SAHM for 5 months during the off season at work. I'm much more fulfilled and enjoy my baby more now that I'm back at work. I was just not happy being at home all day talking to no one but a 1 year old. Some moms love it and are good at it because it's hard work. But it wasn't for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152094 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:43:55 +0000 blackbird 2152094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It makes me a better mom for sure, which in turn improves our relationship. @hotchildinthecity: YES! E gets bored with us! Lord knows i am super boring/not fun right now, heh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152089 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:41:26 +0000 Ajsmommy 2152089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure if it makes our relationship 'better" but what it DOES do is make me cherish the time we do get together. I miss DD all day while at work and no matter how tired and drained I might be as soon as I see her smiling face when I pick her up at daycare my day instantly gets better and everything else melts away. I feel like I have more patience with her b/c the time I am with her I truly want to be the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152083 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:37:13 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2152083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, yes. LO was a little over 2 when we brought him home and by the end of my 4 month leave, we were both bored of each other. I'm not cut out to be a SAH mom and he's not cut out to be a SAH kid. Me working is better for both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152078 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:34:50 +0000 lovehoneybee 2152078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was home with E for 19 months, and have been a WOHM for a little over a year, and I definitely think I'm a better parent because of it....pretty much for all the reasons @lawbee11: wrote! I have SO much respect for SAHMs, but I'm really not cut out for it, and I'm a better mom not being (and it really helps that E LOVES his daycare, and is absolutely THRIVING there!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152071 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:31:31 +0000 lawbee11 2152071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know for sure because outside of my 6-month maternity leave I've never SAH, but I think working has a positive impact on my relationship with LO. If I SAH I can pretty much guarantee I'd have the tv on all day. I'm not great in the patience department, so working allows me to be much more present and have more patience during the time I do spend with LO. Glad you're enjoying working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2152055 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 07:23:55 +0000 Mamaof2 2152055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my kids would love to be around me 24/7 but for me I need that time away. I definitely appreciate them more and spend more quality time with them (vs quantity) since I WOTH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2151989 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 05:13:24 +0000 MrsF 2151989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always WOH (part time now that my LOs are here) but I definitely think that it betters my relationship with my kids (and my husband!). I am so much more involved and excited to be with them after I have been away from them. I'm just not meant to be a full time SAHM. Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder... :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-going-to-work-better-your-relationship-with-your-los#post-2151919 Tue, 21 Apr 2015 22:22:14 +0000 littleblessings 2151919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my first day of work in 3 years today. So far I seem to be enjoying my kids more than I did just being a SAHM every day. They also seem to be more loving. Did this happen to you? Did it last? </p>