https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 02 Jun 2026 17:19:41 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142542 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 17:17:00 +0000 BSB 2142542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a LO yet, but judging from how my mom was towards my SIL and sister when they had kids, I don't have much hope for me. I don't have a normal relationship with my mom. She's my mother but I wouldn't come to her to ask for advice or a heart to heart talk. Good thing is it caused me and my siblings to be very independent in life. She's my mom and I love her but she's not a normal mom like 70% of the world is. Plus add in her stubborness to stick to tradition, I'm sure I'll hear some odd 'vietnamese old wives' tales about taking care of a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142519 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 16:53:42 +0000 namaste 2142519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and same as @pearl:. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142384 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 15:26:19 +0000 Mommy Finger 2142384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we moved to the suburbs and are less than 10 minutes from my parents now, I would say, literally, yes! But I think we also got closer. We were always pretty close and this has helped even more. We see my parents a lot more and they have been a big help in babysitting so it's been great. I've really been able to see how lucky I've been in having them around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142327 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 14:58:53 +0000 Corduroy 2142327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and I seem to be very different kinds of moms but it does make me understand her more. I think we're closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142292 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 14:36:39 +0000 dolphin 2142292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, it made me appreciate her more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142213 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:57:28 +0000 Ajsmommy 2142213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is hard to answer. My mom and I weren't very close before and I don't think we are any closer now. Although, she definitely visits more often. Before she'd go on vacation and drive right past my home and not stop. Now she stops both ways. I also think she's trying to be more open with her affection/compliments. I remember her being very judgy and critical. Now she says nice things about me and about me being a mom. It's weird b/c I almost think she's joking..... but she's not.... Usually they say that having kids makes you appreciate your mom more and ironically I actually think that me having a baby has made my mom appreciate me more. If that's possible??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142205 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:49:25 +0000 Alivoo01 2142205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! We were never close growing up and having a baby hasn't helped. Not that I mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142194 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:45:12 +0000 ValentineMommy 2142194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were already close, but it's made us even more close, and I definitely understand her better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142163 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:29:09 +0000 travelgirl1 2142163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but it did make me appreciate all she did for me when I was growing up, and the sacrifices she made. Generally though, I want to do things very differently to how my parents did it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142143 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:21:26 +0000 Anagram 2142143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we're about the same as before. I would call us close, but not super close. My family is not super typical in that we are all fiercely independent. My mom is turning 70 this year and just retired, but she is super, super busy. She's not the typical mom waiting-by-the-phone to be called. And I'm not that way, either. So we can easily go 2-3 weeks without talking, but there are no hurt feelings on either side.</p> <p>I do feel like I can go to her for issues/advice about child rearing or cooking, or random house-ownership stuff. She's remarkably nonjudgmental, generally speaking. But I have about a dozen friends that I would talk to about really deep, close-to-my-heart issues before I would discuss them with my mom. Kind of hard to explain. Like if I were having marriage issues, I would never in a trillion years talk to my mom about it--I would probably inform her the day I signed divorce papers or something. I guess we still have a lot of "private" areas--she doesn't ask or expect to know, and I don't want to tell her, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142139 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:19:19 +0000 lawbee11 2142139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were close but having a baby made us even closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142138 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:18:24 +0000 petunia354 2142138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were already close so I'm not sure it made us closer, but it makes me appreciate all that she did for her 3 kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142136 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:17:16 +0000 FaithFertility 2142136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cookiemomster: I can relate </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142133 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:15:47 +0000 FaithFertility 2142133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and No, I now see her view of life as a mother but it has opened a new can of worms on how we parent different and such.....she is an opinion giver even when it is not asked for...but I respect her more as a mother and now understand </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142124 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 13:02:53 +0000 MrsF 2142124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were already close but we're much closer now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142100 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:34:46 +0000 mrscobee 2142100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I doubt it will but we'll see in September! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142097 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:32:54 +0000 cookiemomster 2142097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahahaha nope. Everyone said having a baby would phelps me understand her more, but so far having a daughter of my own has if anything increased my resentment for her irrational behavior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142088 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:25:49 +0000 mrs. wagon 2142088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. The biggest change happened when she lived with us on and off for 6 months to help take care of our second baby. Her eyes were opened to just how difficult life with two small kids is for two working parents, and now she never gets mad at me or criticizes me for anything. She understands when I don't call back or when I'm having trouble accommodating her for holiday plans, etc. She is always just looking to take pressure off of me. </p> <p>Growing up we had a very tumultuous relationship... she was a very critical, overbearing mom and I was constantly trying to rebel.. and now I can honestly say we are friends, almost like peers, and I can tell her anything without hesitating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142077 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:22:39 +0000 looch 2142077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. I didn't appreciate all that my mother did when I was growing up. She's an amazing resource. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142051 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 12:08:57 +0000 MoreCoffee 2142051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand her in ways I didn't before I was a mother myself, and in that way we are closer. But then there are things that aggravate me more now. My mom is so wonderful and loving but it's still a fraught relationship sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142038 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:57:01 +0000 rachiecakes 2142038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Same @pearl @autumnlove :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142030 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:53:26 +0000 autumnlove 2142030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Same as @pearl: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142011 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:37:41 +0000 pearl 2142011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. If anything, it highlighted all the things I'd like to do differently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142009 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:36:47 +0000 snowjewelz 2142009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScallop: :sad: How has your family been through Charlie's journey? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142006 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:35:50 +0000 snowjewelz 2142006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>100% First of all it really made me appreciate my mom more going through pregnancy, labor, etc... And then really experiencing first hand what being a mother is like. Plus she watches DD 4 days a week and has been nothing but great! She tolerates all my freak outs and strict rules lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142005 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:35:06 +0000 mrsjyw 2142005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always been close to my mom, but we're even closer now, and I couldn't do motherhood without her help. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142004 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:34:36 +0000 MrsScallop 2142004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. I had hoped, but very little has changed :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2142002 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:31:58 +0000 Adira 2142002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were already fairly close to begin with, but now I think we're closer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2141999 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:27:43 +0000 Bubbles 2141999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's made us closer (although we are v close anyway), but it's made me appreciate her and relate with her in a way I never could before. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-a-baby-make-you-amp-your-mother-closer#post-2141992 Mon, 13 Apr 2015 11:19:10 +0000 autumn865 2141992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say we are closer now but in the first year or so I would have said no. My mom loved her job and was always the working mom. I have decided to be a stay at home mom and initially this was something she didn't understand at all. I don't think she understands now either but she doesn't say as much about it anymore! </p>