https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 19:24:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558322 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:49:44 +0000 mamimami 1558322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Haha yes, it's true. Unintentionally wise words :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558305 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:45:57 +0000 artsyfartsy 1558305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha I worry about this too! I just can't fathom loving two babies as much as I love T! I know I will of course but I still think irrationally that T will always be my favorite. Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558286 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:42:46 +0000 Cherrybee 1558286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yeah, good point!! Now I'm worrying about that angle, too!!! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558276 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:41:16 +0000 Cherrybee 1558276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: That has been my experience of every stage of motherhood so far, to be honest! I need to put this quote up somewhere where I can see it every day!! </p> <p>@Mrs squirreld: Maybe she was just being honest and everyone else is just lying to us because they don't want to admit it!! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558223 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:31:31 +0000 Mrs squirreld 1558223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Urgh I worry about this a TON... Especially when my mum said to me " oh I got so irritated easily at your sister when you were born, I wanted all my attention to be on you, not her aswell." I mean let's not get my started on my crazy mum... But seriously :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558202 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:29:10 +0000 Foodnerd81 1558202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm afraid of the opposite. How can I love another baby with the intensity that I love C? She made me a mom, how can another compare? I'm assured that I will, but that's my fear. </p> <p>I actually think it will be good for C and hypothetical #2 for them to be used to me splitting my time. C could get very spoiled otherwise! (Not saying only children are spoiled- saying MY only child could be :) ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558196 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:27:48 +0000 Dandelion 1558196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see DS as much more responsible now. I feel like I can give him more priviledges and I did extend his bedtime. I stopped babying him for the most part. We still read together at night, but it's in the living room and he puts himself to bed afterwards.</p> <p>But I still love him like mad...and I love M just as much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558136 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:14:10 +0000 MamaBehr 1558136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think having my second (and third) made me love my first (and second) more! I got to see the older ones in a new light, because they have this love for the new baby without being told they need to. It's amazing how much the heart can grow when you add new babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558135 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:13:42 +0000 junebugmama 1558135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It changed a lot of things, but I realized that my heart grew exponentially, and my capacity for love was something that truly surprised me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558134 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:13:18 +0000 mamimami 1558134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You worry about it, and then it's fine. That was my experience and pretty much the experience of everyone I've ever heard of ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558125 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:11:16 +0000 Adira 1558125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm worried about this! I feel like I'm cheated Xander by having another baby and now he's going to have to share Mama and Dada with some intruder! But I've heard from everyone that you have room in your heart for both and your love only continues to grow for all your children! Fingers crossed!! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558120 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:08:43 +0000 ValentineMommy 1558120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: I feel exactly the same!!!</p> <p>We are TTC#2 and I feel like we're cheating on DS! I'm definitely worried about this as well, though I worry about everything. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558117 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:07:58 +0000 Ash 1558117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is my fear too... ds is my pride and joy! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558114 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:07:47 +0000 autumnlove 1558114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: Same answer. The day #2 came home was the day #1 became a big girl...but still my baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558105 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:02:07 +0000 Mamaof2 1558105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I was also worried about this and it goes both ways. I was worried about #1 not having all my attention anymore and I was worried that #2 would never get to experience just having my attention. I was worried about splitting my time btwn 2 kids and how to make them understand that I love them both equally.</p> <p>#1 def became my big boy! I remember coming home with #2 and #1 all of a sudden looked huge to me!!</p> <p>Seeing them interact together is priceless!!! Espcially now that they are older. DS is a great big brother and his little sister adores him!!! When DS is crying his little sister will hug and kiss him and say "its ok, its ok" - really is the sweetest thing!</p> <p>Once you have more than 1 child you will always have to split your time and I am pretty sure even though I try to make it equal it never is..... I just do the best I can and tell them how much I love them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558097 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 08:01:01 +0000 cmomma17 1558097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about this too! When I think about TTC #2, I feel like I'm cheating on LO #1! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558081 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 07:57:23 +0000 winniebee 1558081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about this too but all of my friends and my sister say nothing changes and there is room enough in your heart to love each child the same! I get teary thinking about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-having-lo2-change-the-way-you-felt-about-1-aka-did-anyone-worry-about-this#post-1558072 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 07:55:38 +0000 Cherrybee 1558072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is a strange question to ask, but it's something that really worries me.....! </p> <p>E is my world. She is the sun in my sky, the beat of my heart, every cliche and more. I'm scared that having another LO would diminish that. I mean, how do you love two people that much?? </p> <p>Now I'm not suggesting that anyone is going to reply "yeah, I totally went off my first born when #2 came along" but did you feel differently at all? Did they stop being your baby and become your big girl/boy, perhaps? Or did you adore them more when you saw them loving on their sibling? </p> <p>Did anyone else worry about this??! Or am I really weird?! </p>