https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Jul 2026 16:27:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-30211 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:41:02 +0000 katdevargas 30211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>and just to clarify, I don't have a problem with people not liking the name{s} that we pick for our child{ren}. I have a problem with them being rude about it.</p> <p>@artbee: amen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-30208 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:36:08 +0000 katdevargas 30208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eupenmalmody - I think that is a wonderful name! I'm not sure why people would be giving you grief for it? that's crazy</p> <p>we're not finding out the sex, but if baby is a girl, she will be named lola kay {for great-grandmother, lola, &amp; then both our mothers' middle names are kay} &amp; I have had one person straight out say something about how we're setting her up for being made fun of at school &amp; why would we do that? I didn't take offense to it, just explained the family background to him. we've also had a few people who I could tell weren't enthusiastic about the name, but were raised better than to say they didn't like it. I don't understand why people feel the need to say ugly things like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-30202 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 10:29:29 +0000 eupenmalmody 30202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@beka: Thanks!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-30124 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 09:01:23 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally didn't care what others thought, unless it was something we never really realized, like say the name rhymed with Penis. haha..</p> <p>Choosing a name is tough, and when you find the ONE if family doesn't like it, it can make it crappy for the both of you. I chose to tell my family and friends before, because they know no matter what they said we wouldn't change our minds. But it's really up to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-30070 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 04:16:16 +0000 MamaMoose 30070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I think part of the reason people are more openly judgy before the baby is born is because they think they can actually change the parents mind but if the baby is already born and named it's kind of a done deal : ) If someone tells me they have decided on a name I always say it's lovely no matter what I really think. But if a friend says they are considering a name and ask for my opinion I'll tell them the truth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29998 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 21:01:51 +0000 Rubies 29998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I LOVE my LO's name. I, too, like old lady things! And I bet LO's name will be super popular at some point in the future :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29993 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:43:05 +0000 heffalump 29993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: we picked an old lady name too. But anybody who knows me could have predicted that, I love old lady things. My wedding was full of doilies :) so I wouldn't take that as an insult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29989 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:38:46 +0000 Rubies 29989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We never told anyone the name we had picked because we didn't want opinions. When LO was born and we announced her name, the rudest thing anyone said was, "You picked an old lady name, why?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29984 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 20:31:42 +0000 heffalump 29984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cupcakemama: so funny you said that ...my husband always says he wants to name our baby banana! He's kidding of course, but he won't let it go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29953 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:18:42 +0000 Rosie Girl 29953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't telling people DD's name until she is born because of that. When I named DS, EVERYONE had something to say about EVERY name that I had picked. His name would have actually been something else (I wanted Tucker), but I heard so much bad about it that I didn't go with it. </p> <p>Its sad because its not anybody else's decision, but some people don't know how to keep their mouths shut! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29951 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:15:41 +0000 runsyellowlites 29951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just DS... he's pretty much hated every name we thought of and doesn't like the ones we chose either. He's been pretty set on naming the baby something HE came up with. lol</p> <p>We still have decided to pretty much keep them a secret though b/c we told MIL our first name for a boy and she already started sharing with other extended family members. pfft.... My mom knows the names though.</p> <p>(since she knows how to NOT share business that's not hers to share. lol) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29938 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 18:33:27 +0000 cupcakemama 29938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't get any judgement on the name, but we went traditional name and spelling. I think if you go for an out there name then you are going to get a reaction but by out there I mean you name your child Banana.</p> <p>We kept ours secret and as pp have said, most people seem to be able to filter negative thoughts when the child is presented with name in place. The lack of filter before baby is born would be funny if not so horrendous, ie @mamadopt's coworker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29932 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 18:10:06 +0000 shinystraps 29932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eupenmalmody: I LOVE that name! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29927 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 18:00:33 +0000 rachiecakes 29927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the problem where my mother had a million pets with human names - Charlotte, Jean, Emma - I got my cat from her and my mom had named her Frida. It seemed like so many names we liked were one of her pets or a relatives pet's name. We really like Emma or Emme and gotta say was kind of annoyed that when we found out it was a boy, my mother said she was relieved because of the pet situation. Really??? lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29919 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:31:52 +0000 eupenmalmody 29919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have dealt with so much disagreement about the name we chose and I feel like I am constantly defending it. Our son's name will be Sidney Archer. Sidney in honor of my great-grandfather and grandfather. My grandfather is also a geneologist and has written a book about my family's geneology, so I wanted to pick a family name since we are so knowledgable about our family history. Archer because my husband picked it as it is a popular english name and england holds a special place in our hearts. I don't really care what others think about our choice as I remind them that it is a good thing they don't get a say, but it certainly is annoying. Oh well. My husband and I love it and that is what matters most. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29914 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:22:03 +0000 HabesBabe 29914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan on keeping our names a secret (we haven't picked one yet), because I already had a bad experience with MIL disliking one of my girlfriends' daughter's name. She literally scrunched up her face and spat out, "JOSEPHINE?!" I like that name and would probably choose a similar name, and I don't care to hear anyone's reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29905 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 16:53:40 +0000 heffalump 29905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: &amp; @momadopt: that does make sense!</p> <p>I still can't believe people have the nerve to make comments anyway. If you can't say something nice, don't say anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29902 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 16:49:36 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 29902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: People are far less likely to make an inane comment when there is an adorable baby staring back at them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29890 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 16:16:08 +0000 mrsjazz 29890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: @photojane: Thanks! </p> <p>@artbee: We haven't kept our name a secret, but I remember reading something (I think it might have been here on another name post) that it's probably harder for someone to say something once they're holding that cute little baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29889 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 16:08:46 +0000 heffalump 29889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So for those of you keeping it a secret, what's the difference between people judging you before or after the baby is born? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29888 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:59:38 +0000 DpeachLu 29888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always start off by telling people my husband picked the name and then I say it and I hear a lot of</p> <p>"why does he like that name so much?"</p> <p>I take it as a "eeew" but maybe its just pregnancy hormones... hmmm.. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29884 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:53:19 +0000 cyndistar3 29884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I actually really like that name, I think it is a really cute name. </p> <p>No one has ever said anything to our face about our daughter's name, everyone always says it's a pretty name. Who knows about this time because we don't have any picked out yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29878 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 15:30:39 +0000 photojane 29878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>well, we don't have a lo yet, but we've already chosen our names. we were talking about it at dinner one night, and shared our future daughter's name and we got, "THAT SOUNDS LIKE A DOG'S NAME!" from my sister-in-law. i mean... really?!</p> <p>it's a good thing we don't care about anyone else's opinions! :)</p> <p>@mrsjazz - i love the name billie. so cute. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29858 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 14:45:15 +0000 lemondrop 29858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families are notorious for having comments on names when a kid is born. Multiple teachers on both sides- "oh I had the worst kid named that". There is no way I want someone to think they can change my mind before the boy comes. I just don't think I could handle any negativity after taking so long to decide. </p> <p>Other than myself and my husband, only my office-mate knows because he guessed based on a couple of clues. Fortunately he said it sounded perfect, when he heard it I got the most genuine smile, so I felt great! He was even a little surprised that we didn't pick a more unique name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29831 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 14:20:45 +0000 chopsuey 29831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamadopt: seriously. this is why we kept our LO's name a secret. :) it was bad enough that i knew people with names i liked/was thinking of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29788 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:57:19 +0000 mrsjazz 29788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamadopt: Wow. So many people would benefit from thinking before they speak. It's a lost skill. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29772 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:22:53 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 29772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did not subject ourselves to that kind of scrutiny. I told a couple people of work about some of the names I was thinking of early on and when someone commented, "Oh that was the name of the fat girl in my class", I decided not to share ANY more. That comment was wrong on so many levels and I didn't want to hear anything like it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29762 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 12:13:36 +0000 Lozza 29762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our son's name is super common and has been around forever (think something along the lines of "David" or "Adam"). We figured the worst we'd get was "that's boring," and we figured we could handle that, so we didn't really care about telling people the name.<br /> The only person who annoyed me was DH's uncle who seriously went on for like 20 minutes about how we should name him "Nathan," because all of the Nathans he knows are smart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29730 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 11:52:24 +0000 cyneswith 29730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The names we have are REALLY traditional, so there's really no way people can object unless they know some terrible person by the same name. My MOH has the biggest reason to hate our girl name - it's her psycho mother's name. But she said she'll just come up with a nickname for our eventual daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-people-judge-your-choice-for-youre-los-name#post-29718 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 11:38:21 +0000 Maysprout 29718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We kinda went over some names we were tossing around with our families and some of them got poo poo'd. We only decided on a name about a month before she was born and told people because I have a hard time not answering when people ask but with the name we decided on got very positive reactions. Once in awhile you'll see someone have a weird reaction to it because it's not super common but you can't please everyone, they can make whatever interpretations/ judgments/over analysis they want into our name choice, figure that's more of their personality quirk than ours. </p>