https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 15:04:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381877 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:55:43 +0000 MoreCoffee 2381877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH stayed with us the first night, but I sent him home the 2nd night. We hadn't slept for days and didn't have family to help out, so I thought he should rest and have the chance to get things squared away at home. This time we'll have family in town to help out and take care of DS, so I'm sure he'll stay the whole time if I want. It helps that we're ~10 minutes from the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381855 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:42:44 +0000 Mamasig 2381855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he stayed but he would go home for a few hours every day to bathe, feed the dogs, go get me food. He did it when either my mom or sister were with me so I wasn't alone. By the 3rd and 4th day I could move around more after my c sections. We ended up staying a long time because DS1 ran a fever and DS2 had jaundice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381853 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:40:51 +0000 NovBaby1112 2381853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With LO1, DH stayed the whole time. With LO2, I had him go home the first night to be with DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381848 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 13:35:35 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2381848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He stayed the whole time, I think he made a couple trips home but came right back. We were at the hospital for 5 nights. I would like him to stay if we have another especially if I have another c section but we'd have to figure out what's best for all of us including our son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381490 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:51:33 +0000 Ginabean3 2381490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes to both times! First time DD went straight to NICU but DH was still there to keep me company and to wheel me up to see her. Second time my awesome inlaws took DD1 to their house so DH and my mom could be with me. I wasn't in the hospital for that long though, 48 hrs and I was home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381484 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:49:49 +0000 ValentineMommy 2381484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With DS1, DH stayed the whole time (5 days, 4 nights). I don't think he left the entire time.</p> <p>With DS2, DH and my mom alternated staying. DH is a horrific snorer and kept me up most of the time when I had DS1! Lol!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381470 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:43:58 +0000 Mrs D 2381470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH stayed the whole time for DD1 - minus some quick breaks to get food, shower, whatnot when we had visitors.</p> <p>For DD2 - we had hoped to have DH go home for night #2 (I'm GBS+) and stay with DD1 - but now that I know there will be no nursery I am worried about sending him home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381420 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:19:08 +0000 ElbieKay 2381420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and I am so grateful we could do that. Originally I was supposed to deliver at a NYC hospital with no guarantee that he could room in. (NYC hospitals have waiting lists for private rooms, and if you get off the list you have to spend about $1,000 per night out of pocket for the privilege of keeping your family together when you have a new baby.) I had a lot of issues with the hospital -- lack of rooming in was only one of them -- so I switched hospitals and providers during my pregnancy.</p> <p>My son had a wicked latch, and breastfeeding was really painful. My husband helped me spoon feed our son in the middle of the night when we were in the hospital together. I don't know what I would have done without his support (and his extra two hands!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381415 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:14:19 +0000 .twist. 2381415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I think this is the rule at our hospital too. Spouses can stay later than guests but they are not allowed to stay the night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381411 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 10:10:06 +0000 Happygal 2381411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pumuckl: same! I liked it that way, really. I would turn on the lights for nursing, talk to the nurses, look at my baby.....it was a special time. I could have done all of that with him in the room, but I preferred for him to be well rested so he could be a big help during the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381348 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 09:26:19 +0000 Ree723 2381348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes with DD1, both nights, even though he technically wasn't supposed to as we had shared rooms and partners are not meant to stay overnight. Our midwives didn't care - the only thing is that adults aren't allowed to bed share (unsanitary and unsafe apparently) and they frown upon the partner laying down on the bed whilst the mum sits in a chair, so DH slept in a chair both nights and then went home for a few hours during the day to shower and nap. I had to stay two nights because of an issue with my catheter from the epidural.</p> <p>With DD2, we were home with our baby eight hours after we'd arrived at the hospital in labour. The hospital was happy to discharge after four hours if mum and baby were healthy and it was mum's wishes, so that's what we did. Arrived at 4:00 am, left by 12:15 pm the same day, so it wasn't an issue. Planning to do the same with baby #3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381339 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 09:18:43 +0000 sapphire 2381339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, DH stayed both nights we were there. My mom then stayed with us for three nights at home and my MIL ce a few days later and stayed for 3 as well. Invaluable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381273 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 08:02:28 +0000 Charm54 2381273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, for both girls.</p> <p>I don't agree with a lot of my hospital's baby friendly policies (though they have loosened up in recent years) but I really appreciated the fact that they turned all of their rooms into singles with pull out couches for the partners. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381246 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 07:14:24 +0000 Truth Bombs 2381246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs stayed both nights both times. When our second LO was born our older daughter had a sleepover weekend at her BFF's house and didn't miss us a bit. But they regularly do sleepovers so it wasn't out of the ordinary for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381239 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 06:39:00 +0000 Anagram 2381239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both times DH stayed with me. The second time, my mom flew in to stay with LO1. I wouldn't have wanted DH to miss the bonding time with LO2 in the hospital, because once we were home I knew it would be a constant juggling act between the two kiddos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381229 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 05:32:42 +0000 looch 2381229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it was not allowed. I delivered in a hospital with room sharing of up to 3 mothers, so even though we had a private room, there was not cot or folding chair for my husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381212 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 04:00:21 +0000 ALV91711 2381212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He stayed the night I was in labour and was around during the day. The next night I sent him home for a good sleep and my mom stayed with me. I got discharged the next evening but was planning on sending them both home if I had to stay another night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381205 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 03:14:42 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2381205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For LO1: went home the first night and stayed the second night</p> <p>For LO2: stayed the whole time.. we left it up in the air but dd did ok with mil and I'm glad he stayed. My recovery actually felt worse physically (easier mentally/emotionally) the second time around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381203 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 02:23:24 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2381203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes he stayed with me with all 3 kids but I was only there for 24 hours each time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381187 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 01:08:09 +0000 HLK208 2381187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He stayed the whole time with all three. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381186 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 00:51:27 +0000 Boogs 2381186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He stayed the entire time, both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you/page/2#post-2381175 Tue, 08 Dec 2015 00:31:56 +0000 MrsB2012 2381175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For #1, she was born in the afternoon. After I got settled in, he left for a few hours to shower, clean up, etx. He came back and stayed the night. We were discharged the next afternoon.</p> <p>With #2, she was born in the evening. He waited until I got settled in the room, but then went home for the night around 9. I didn't see any point in having him stay and sleep on a gold down chair when he could have a good sleep at home with #1. We have all our family in town, so we could have had someone stay with #1, but we both wanted him home. Worked well for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2381162 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 23:58:15 +0000 littlejoy 2381162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our baby at home ... so yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380969 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 19:43:27 +0000 winniebee 2380969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first DH stayed each night. He left a few hours each day to go home and shower etc (we lived 10 mins from hospital). </p> <p>Second time DH stayed one night. I sent him home after first night to be with our son and actually sleep. He went back to work the next day so I had zero help after being home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380967 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 19:41:39 +0000 lawbee11 2380967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH stayed the entire time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380959 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 19:33:06 +0000 pinkb 2380959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the hospital 4 or 5 nights with preterm labor, he didn't stay any. For the birth of DD yes he stayed with us 2 night. For DS, no, DH actually got sick and We both decided it was best if he didn't. It sucked cause I really needed him. The Dr even kept me and DS an extra night, 3 total, to keep us away from the germs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380928 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 18:52:00 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2380928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in the hospital for 17 days prior so DH did not stay, but I do wish he would have. It was really tough figuring out how to pump all by myself. But that was the only reason for him to stay...lo was in the NICU and we couldn't even hold him for weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380870 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 18:02:51 +0000 daniellemybelle 2380870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH stayed with me every night.</p> <p>Next baby, my mom will stay with me and DH will stay at home with LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380868 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 18:01:54 +0000 mauxie 2380868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 - stayed the whole time, overnight for 2 nights</p> <p>LO2 - stayed majority of the time, but went back home to help with bedtime and morning daycare drop off, stayed overnight 1 night (discharged the next late afternoon)</p> <p>LO3 - we'll see, I'm inclined to say he will stay for most of the day but will go back home to the kids at night. I think I'll be OK overnight and could always call my mom to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-someone-stay-with-you#post-2380866 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 18:00:28 +0000 autumnlove 2380866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He stayed the entire time for LO 1 and stayed the first night for LO 2 &amp; 3. </p>