https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 21:46:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-547290 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 15:08:43 +0000 Arden 547290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks for your input! I didn't realize this was becoming a popular thing (that surprises me, actually).<br /> We've always wanted to adopt children with special needs, and HIV+ is just one of the special needs we've considered.<br /> It would be sometime in the future before we could pursue this (we need to be in a better financial position first), so we have a lot more time to look into it and think about it.</p> <p>I do know about the medical costs involved and the reality of living with HIV+ children in the home. I've talked to people online who have HIV+ children and I know its no small task, its a very serious thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-547148 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 13:17:43 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 547148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Adoption in general is so popular here... and when families can't or don't want to have more kids for whatever reason biologically, they tend to switch to adoption. Because adoption can be expensive, many people choose medically complex children from here or abroad. </p> <p>As far as I understand (and this could be rumor) there was one particular woman in the valley who adopted an HIV positive child and she was very well connected in her ward/socially, and the whole thing caught on... so we now see many HIV positive adopted children, but mostly on the outpatient side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546984 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 11:34:56 +0000 Mrs. Blue 546984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I have noticed it becoming more "trendy" lately, which I feel conflicted about. On one hand, I love that there is more awareness of the need and accordingly, more awareness of HIV generally and of the realities of how it is and is not spread. On the other hand, like you're referring to, a child in a family who is not best equipped to handle all aspects of the situation is a disaster waiting to happen for everyone. </p> <p>Sorry to thread jack! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546853 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 10:37:48 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 546853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always had a strong desire to adopt, even as a child I wanted to adopt children or foster. DH wants to try for our own babies first and adopt later. After almost a year of struggling I just want to get the process started. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546761 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 09:52:17 +0000 Honeybee 546761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Do you see a lot of these kids at work? I've noticed that adoption in general is very popular around here and I thought it might be related to the laws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546741 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 09:42:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 546741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: sounds like you've thought a lot about it and are aware of the issues involved. In my town it has become a "popular" thing to do and many of these adoptive parents had no idea what they were getting into. It just seemed like a romantic/exotic thing to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546727 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 09:29:11 +0000 Mrs. Blue 546727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Thanks. Yes, it is a huge deal, and there are many financial, physical, &amp; emotional issues associated with bringing a child with HIV into your life. One of my good friends is HIV+, so I've had some close insight into the ups and downs of living it, though I'm not saying that is the same as your child having HIV. Mr. Blue hadn't had the same experiences I have and isn't there yet, and that is way too huge of a commitment to take on unless he is 100% on board. We'll see what happens in our future! What I meant earlier is that adopting a child is a non-negotiable for us, but whether we adopt one with HIV is completely up in the air. That experience is just what led me to become really passionate about adoption.</p> <p>All that said, there are so many sweet kids who need good homes, and will often never have that because they have HIV. I think there are very few families who have both the financial ability to pay for healthcare and antiretrovirals and to be emotionally strong enough to deal with the impact of the disease on everyone around you. For families that can do both of those things, I think considering a child with HIV is important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546705 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 09:02:15 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 546705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: @Arden: If you guys do get to that point, check in with me. My friend works in the local infectious disease clinic and sees all the international HIV positive adoptees. A lot of people bring those kids home and had no idea what an impact it would have on their other children and life in general. It's a BIG deal. Not like bringing home a kid with a cleft lip that can be repaired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546695 Sun, 03 Feb 2013 08:42:39 +0000 loveletter 546695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always wanted to adopt. We thought we would try to get pregnant for our first and then adopt the rest. When I couldn't get pregnant with mild intervention (Clomid) we decided to just go for it rather than further fertility treatments :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-546037 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 14:05:13 +0000 Weagle 546037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted to, whether I could have biological children or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545746 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 08:12:14 +0000 heffalump 545746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be 100% sure that I wanted to adopt after having one of my own. But then I met DH and he didn't want to, he wanted to have biological children, unless of course we had infertility issues and couldn't have our own. </p> <p>Now that we have one and know how hard pregnancy is on my body and migraines, DH is more open to the idea of adoption for us in the future.... depending on how many kids we decide to have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545665 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 00:42:17 +0000 luckypenny 545665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We would loooove to! Maybe #3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545661 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 00:37:22 +0000 Arden 545661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Blue: When you do get to that point (if we haven't first, anyway) please share your experiences with me! We've also thought about adopting children living with HIV, possibly through Reese's Rainbow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545655 Sat, 02 Feb 2013 00:32:56 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 545655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always thought we would :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545625 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 23:43:20 +0000 MusicaV 545625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I share your sentiment about bringing more children into the world with so many parentless kids.</p> <p>For both that reason and the worries that we had during my pregnancy, I'd like to adopt if we decide to expand our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545622 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 23:37:37 +0000 Mrs. Blue 545622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always thought it was a good idea, but by a long set of circumstances, I became really passionate about orphans living with HIV. That exposure made me decide adoption was a non-negotiable for me. We're not there yet, but I already think a lot about the LO we will bring into our family through adoption. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545621 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 23:36:16 +0000 Arden 545621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always known, but I've become more and more sure about it over the years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-545620 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 23:34:37 +0000 Mrs. Train 545620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had thought about it but I didn't think our first child would be adopted but infertility issues pushed it up to the front of the line. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-540811 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 17:45:04 +0000 anonysquire 540811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew I always wanted to adopt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-540810 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 17:44:29 +0000 Mrs. Pen 540810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to adopt. It was really strong on my parents heart and they were never able to. I know it's something I hope I can one day do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-540797 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 17:42:20 +0000 loveisstrange 540797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are not adoptive parents (yet!) but I have always felt the call to adopt. When I was younger, I fully expected to never have children of my own and to adopt. I always felt like there was no point in bringing more children into a world where so many don't have parents. </p> <p>Obviously, we have a biological child but I would still love to foster/adopt pre-teens and teenagers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-540793 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 17:41:16 +0000 pui 540793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to adopt one day. I would also say it wasn't something I thought about until more recently, but I would love to give a child a loving family who otherwise wouldn't have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-always-want-to-adopt-or-did-something-in-your-life-change-your-mind#post-530683 Thu, 31 Jan 2013 17:30:00 +0000 BSB 530683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I was married, I thought it would be nice to adopt if I had the money. It wasn't something I was set on doing. Now that I've had some infertility issues, adoption is definitely on the table now. </p>