https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 21:58:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-678317 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 19:52:29 +0000 Shutterbug 678317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not to drag up an old thread, but I just saw this and it made me LOL! </p> [attach=674/13/mkg7rh.499x288.hE1BFA3C7.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-671571 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 16:48:28 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 671571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: actually the batman one I saw had a butler with a tray next to little batman...funny that there are two almost identical ones! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670372 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 10:15:34 +0000 Shutterbug 670372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also saw this one on fb that I thought was a good one</p> <p>ETA: not trying to start a fight! just sharing</p> <p>[attach=674/13/mkbrpy.420x294.73793_10152723947110228_1430771531_n.jpg] </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670317 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 10:00:00 +0000 Shutterbug 670317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: these ones?</p> <p>[attach=674/13/mkbr01.227x600.tumblr_lytvki3Zvc1rnfz8co1_500.jpg] </p> [attach=674/13/mkbr3a.500x475.tumblr_m4ukpwOwBp1qi6y7ho1_500.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670278 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 09:50:15 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 670278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I certainly didn't mean to spark any debate! My point was that Someone who was posting a picture in reaction to the campaign was not pro-equality. Equality and the Human Right Campaign are two groups spearheading this campaign. Does that make sense?</p> <p>I too would be interested in how a loving same sex family threatens a heterosexual couple's marriage. So far Cooper's supreme court arguments have been pretty thin! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670249 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 09:39:32 +0000 ShootingStar 670249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: OMG, I love dog one! I was too lazy to change mine yesterday, I'm totally changing it to that now. </p> <p>@septemberlove: I know this probably isn't going to change your mind, but to the people who believe in this initiative, equality is not a loaded word, it's the honest truth. I truly believe that those who are banned from marrying the person they love just because they're the same gender, do not have equal rights to someone who can marry the person they love. </p> <p>And I would also love to hear an explanation how banning gay marriage in any way helps to "protect" marriage. I honestly don't understand how gay marriage is perceived as a threat. And I don't know why marriage supposedly has to be "protected". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670236 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 09:36:19 +0000 theknest 670236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back and forth about changing my pic on fb. In the end I chickened out - b/c I didn't want to spark up a debate. I have friends who are way on the other side of this issue and are too vocal on fb. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-670157 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 09:13:41 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 670157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: great points Mr. Bee.</p> <p>I felt like yesterday was a day filled with love on fb, not drama in the slightest. Every time I looked at my feed, it made me happy.</p> <p>Like Mr. Bee said, I totally believe in everyone's right to have and share their opinion. But I do also agree that opposing same sex marriage is absolutely opposing an equal right and is therefore against equality. I don't think it can possibly be compared to abortion and should not be here. It's not just semantics.</p> <p>Re: family values - justice Kagan asked one of the attorneys whether it would be constitutional to deny marriage to a couple over age 55 because they can't procreate. The answer of course, was no.</p> <p>My two favorite memes from yesterday were the Kim Kardashian-legal v. Neil Patrick Harris (together for 8 years raising 2 kids) illegal. And the batman one. Does anyone have them to post? I'm not at a computer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-669929 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 07:50:31 +0000 JamieLee 669929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: love the dog picture! Hadn't seen that yet. So true too, dogs love everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/3#post-669897 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 07:30:39 +0000 mrbee 669897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Got some flags on this last night, so thought I'd weigh in.</p> <p>I think it's worthwhile to distinguish between people's personal opinion or preference (what they would personally prefer) and their position on same sex marriage (what they want the law of the land to be).</p> <p>I totally support people's right to have and express their own personal preference on this or any subject... as someone said, everyone is entitled to their own beliefs. I may or may not agree with them, but I will respect your right to an opinion.</p> <p>I also support people's right to have and express their own position on same sex marriage... but if your position results in civil rights being withheld from a group of people, then it's not just your personal opinion any more. Other people are greatly affected (both directly and indirectly), and they will be eager to have a debate.</p> <p>I have no problem with that debate happening here... please just keep two things in mind:</p> <p>1) Everyone is entitled to their own personal opinions and preferences (on both sides of the issue).<br /> 2) If you want to debate someone on their position of same sex marriage as a matter of law, then please keep things respectful and focused on the subject. Please, no personal attacks!</p> <p>Thanks guys... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669824 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:42:18 +0000 mediagirl 669824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't change my profile pic (as mentioned earlier) but I posted the dog one. Friends of mine posted the other two. :)</p> <p>[attach=251/13/mkbhui.600x600.528841_10200799512820626_573648609_n.jpg]</p> <p>[attach=251/13/mkbhuj.403x403.580353_10200935097049423_2042633758_n.jpg] </p> [attach=251/13/mkbhv6.500x500.484334_350986388335879_1748952346_n.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669821 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:36:58 +0000 Ree723 669821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I see your point but I also think the example you gave is much more ambiguous. The abortion debate has a lot of variables open to personal interpretation (ie when does life begin? Can it be murder if it's a bunch of cells incapable of surviving outside its mother? And so on... you see where I'm going with that), but marriage equality is a much simpler black and white issue. Either we give equal rights to all consensual adults in a loving relationship or we don't. One way promotes equality, the other doesn't - it really is that simple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669814 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:32:36 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 669814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: No, I didn't think you were making light of the landmark ruling at all. I was truly curious about your view of time and perspective, which is why I included the part about my parents. I agree with you based on the pace society is accepting gay marriage people 50 years from now will wonder what was with all the fuss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669812 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:27:39 +0000 lomom 669812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: I think there are alternatives. "opposing equality" is the pro-gay marriage way of being disrespectful, like pro-lifers saying pro-choice people are pro-dead babies or pro-infanticide. It isn't "opposing equality", it's protecting family values, aka that marriage is between one man and one woman and also religious values that promote the same belief. You could say "opposing equality" but I doubt you'd be very pleased if someone turned around and called you a baby murderer for being pro-choice.. But by the "technical definition" pro-choicers are pro-baby murdering... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669808 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:23:18 +0000 Dandelion 669808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hellocupcake: agreed. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669806 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:18:25 +0000 mrs. bird 669806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: loving day is celebrated in June, so this June it will be 47 years since the supreme court ruling allowing interracial marriage in the 16 remaining states where it was still banned. In the big picture, that is not a great amount of time, but to someone who was born 20 years after the fact, yes i do think of things happening that long ago as being a long time ago, though I'm sure my older relatives would not view 47 years as that long ago either If it's not within one's lifetime, it seems realistic for them view it as 'a long time ago'. I'm sorry you felt my generalization about the duration of time that has passed since then was somehow made light of the situation, that was certainly not my intent. I did say, 'in fifty years people will look back on...' so I don't feel like the point I was trying to illustrate and the timeframe in which I placed it were that far off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669803 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 06:10:33 +0000 KissMeCait 669803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dapple Grey: It really wasn't, at least not on my FB. My friends for marriage equality were more than happy to support it by changing their profile pic. Those who were against it (for whatever reason) kept their mouths shut and realized that it wasn't the time or place to air their opinions. </p> <p>@septemberlove: I don't see that as rude or biased. What you described is, without a doubt, "opposing equality". </p> <p>I'd be interested to hear what "family values" are protected by traditional marriage. From where I sit, roughly 50% of marriages end in divorce. Some don't even make it past a few days but we give these couples the license to wed. Thankfully I live in a state that has gotten with the program and realized how utterly ridiculous it is to withold basic human rights from its citizens but the majority of the country is still stuck back in the 50's. </p> <p>We're allowed to believe whatever we want to believe and express those beliefs openly but when someone's OPINION infringes on the rights of an entire group of people, I have a serious problem with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669798 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 05:53:08 +0000 hellocupcake 669798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I agree with you that people should be allowed to express support for the opposition as well (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669792 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 05:36:26 +0000 MrsSCB 669792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I don't see any difference between posting that you only support heterosexual marriage and posting that you only support marriage between people of the same race. But I guess you could say that not believing in interracial marriage is an opinion, too. They both "oppose equality" in any case, because equality is defined as equal rights for everyone. As long as gay people aren't allowed to marry, they won't have the same rights as heterosexuals, so by the technical definition of equality, opposing gay marriage is opposing equality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669777 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 04:35:10 +0000 Ree723 669777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: How else would you phrase it? It IS opposing equality. Proponents of traditional marriage don't believe homosexuals are deserving of the same rights as heterosexual couples - that constitutes an inequality, which can also be phrased as "opposing equality".</p> <p>Sorry, not trying to start a debate, but I think calling Mrs Jacks rude and biased for simply stating the truth was a bit much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669772 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 04:23:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 669772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. bird: You consider a the laws against miscegination a long time ago? For me the strides gained in Civil Rights were not very long ago at all. My parents were young teens when anti-discrimination laws were passed. They have vivid memories before and after they had rights. </p> <p>@septemberlove: When a heterosexual couple marries they have to file for a marriage license and have a religious or secular ceremony within a timeframe for the marriage to be valid. As a married person you are entitled to certain priveleges under the law whether your wedding was performed by a priest in Church or a notary on a sandy beach. We have a separation of Church and State and one of our most profound principle is that "we are all equal under the law." Marriage equality is about enforcing that principle. Laws tell us to remove our bias, whether they come from faith or life experience. </p> <p>IMO the best way to "protect" marriage and "support" family values is to make getting married more difficult to prevent divorce and remove stigmas on what constitutes a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669766 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 03:45:23 +0000 lemondrop 669766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I proudly changed my profile pic and wore red. My FB was a happy celebration of support for loved ones, it really made me feel good about this changing world. </p> <p>@septemberlove: I don't understand how that is rude or biased. If one prefers to exclude a group of people from something others can do, then that is opposing equality. This thread isn't out to change anyone's minds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669755 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 01:31:47 +0000 Dapple Grey 669755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I Don't have a Facebook.. Sounds like it was drama filled day on there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669749 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 01:09:25 +0000 pinkcupcake 669749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't change my profile pic but I'm all for equality and am hoping that the sup ct will vote for it as well. </p> <p>@septemberlove: what family values do "traditional marriages" protect? Not trying to sound rude or anything, I'm genuinely curious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669743 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:43:36 +0000 lomom 669743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Oppose equality"? That's an awfully biased and rude way to put it. It isn't opposing equality, I believe most proponents of traditional marriage see it as protecting family values or religious beliefs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669739 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:17:35 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 669739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: We'll have to agree to disagree on this, but it wasn't that everyone was asked to express their views on marriage. This was an Equality Facebook campaign to have people share their support for marriage equality while the Supreme Court hears the cases on Prop 8 and DOMA. </p> <p>The few friends and family that I know who oppose equality have chosen to ignore the campaign, not to post in opposition. They have a right to post an avatar in opposition, but that's a reaction to the Equality campaign, not just a random statement of their views. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669734 Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:10:07 +0000 lomom 669734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So you support equal rights... For people who agree with you? I don't see the harm in everyone expressing their opinion, whether it's pro-gay marriage or pro-traditional marriage. If theyre expressing their opinion on the same topic as everyone else, I don't see how that's provocation. That's just stating your belief when asked... Everyone seemed to have been implicitly asked on Facebook today to change their profile picture to reflect their view on marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669696 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 23:08:00 +0000 luckypenny 669696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and almost all of my friends in my news feed did too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669641 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 22:06:04 +0000 Running Elley 669641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I didn't. A lot of my FB friends did though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-fb-profile-pic-today/page/2#post-669634 Tue, 26 Mar 2013 21:58:52 +0000 JamieLee 669634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did, and most of my friends from college did as well. I live in a conservative, rural area, so sadly a lot of people I know from around here are against it because of religion. I wanted to show support for my gay friends and to stand up against what I think is the status quo in my area. I shared an image a few months ago that really sums up my thoughts: </p> [attach=2851/13/mkatm5.259x194.image.jpg]