https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 20 Jun 2026 14:22:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-858139 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 10:08:32 +0000 plantains 858139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: don't mind me, just being sensitive for no reason! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-858130 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 10:05:56 +0000 MarieJ 858130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh &amp; I both wanted 4 children. Then when I had DD, I took it down to two. I'm pretty sure we'll have 3. We'll officially decide after #2 is here in a couple of years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857993 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 09:25:42 +0000 rachiecakes 857993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always, always talked about being one and done. But now that DS is here I want another soo badly. I don't think it's going to happen but I had no clue how much I'd really, really love being a mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857826 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 08:35:50 +0000 Andrea 857826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: Around 18 months, it dawned on me that DD was super fun and a lot easier! LOL. So I wasn't so afraid about going through the crazy baby stage again. I also felt like our family wasn't complete. I am an only child and DH has a small family, too. So I thought about that a lot and I started to really want DD to have a sibling. We don't live by our families so it's lonely. I really hope that my 2 girls can be a good support system for each other!</p> <p>I really enjoy having 2 and I'm so glad I changed my mind. I also really like the age gap (2 years, 9 months) because DD can help me with her baby sis! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857805 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 08:27:02 +0000 edelweiss 857805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: what made you change your mind? i always thought two, but after having LO, who is almost 5 months old, i vacillate between one and done and just avoiding thinking about the whole subject altogether. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857777 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 08:14:11 +0000 Mrs. Twine 857777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks; I was one and done. We have two kids. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857773 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 08:13:24 +0000 Koolbreeze 857773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were never one and done, but we might be two and through. Even though our plan was to have 3. For now we're both leaning toward no more though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857748 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 08:04:22 +0000 cheert16 857748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hergreenapples: same!</p> <p>I wanted 2 and DH wanted 4, after having DS I think we both are seriously considering 1 and done!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857535 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 05:48:36 +0000 Mrs. Pen 857535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the opposite! I was up for 4-5 kids! Both DH and I came from big families and loved it. </p> <p>But after not loving pregnancy, a traumatizing birth and a difficult adjust to parenthood, I am ok with 2. MAYBE 3. We'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857533 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 05:39:07 +0000 Boheme 857533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we are in the two and through camp, but my pregnancy, labor, and delivery were all so hard w LO I wouldn't mind being one and done, but DH does. He hated being an only child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857529 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 05:26:57 +0000 Andrea 857529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NavyRN2012: Hmmm, maybe I'll change my mind about the 3rd, too .... :-)</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Glad he changed his mind! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857524 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 05:10:26 +0000 Andrea 857524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: awe I am sorry! It was in jest. I am an only and everyone thinks singles are horrible, but it doesn't bother me. People can be messed up no matter what their birth order! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857200 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 21:50:20 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 857200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mr. Jacks was one and done. We have two children ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857197 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 21:49:31 +0000 NavyRN2012 857197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always thought we were one and done. But now LO is 3.5 months old! And we might have a 3rd. We shall see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-857011 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 21:14:28 +0000 MamaMoose 857011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to want three... Then realized how expensive kids are and leaned towards two. When LO was born the first couple of months were really tough for me. I had some baby blues/post partum anxiety and I just didn't think I could go through that again. But once she turned about four months we were in our groove and I was so much happier and now I have total baby fever (well.... I miss having a newborn, but I'm not actually ready to get pg again!). I have a feeling when my secon outgrows babyhood I'll probably be begging hubs for a third! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856999 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 21:12:33 +0000 plantains 856999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why do people think middle children are messed up? I'm a middle child and I'm perfectly fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856979 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 21:06:21 +0000 heartonastring 856979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Other way around: always thought we wanted two, but now that we have DD we think we'd be quite content to be one and done. We'll revisit in a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856470 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:29:44 +0000 T.H.O.U. 856470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was little I wanted four. Now seeing how expensive kids are we are two and through. Unless we win the lottery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856348 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:07:13 +0000 Andrea 856348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: aww, it progressively shrunk! i think it would have to be 4 in order to avoid having a messed up middle child and 4 is A LOT!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856339 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:05:33 +0000 Rubies 856339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Before I had LO I wanted 4. When I was pregnant with LO, I said 3. After I had LO I think I said we were done but really knew deep down we'd have a second. But that's it! No more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856338 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:05:15 +0000 PurplePeony 856338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still pregnant with #1 but at this point I feel like I could definitely be one and done. DH really wants at least two. We've agreed not to make that decision ahead of time, but just to start with one and see how we feel about having a second as time goes on -- but I really wouldn't be surprised if we both end up flipping our positions on it, haha. I guess we'll see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856334 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:04:05 +0000 Andrea 856334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: wow, I didn't know you wanted that many! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856329 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:02:52 +0000 Rubies 856329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not one and done but I'm definitely two and through when I thought I'd gave 3-4 kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856323 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:01:26 +0000 immabeetoo 856323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, we were going to be one-bio &amp; adopt more but plan for 2 bio &amp; then foster to adopt once they are old enough to semi-understand what that means or what the process might look like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856321 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:00:44 +0000 Ra 856321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did. DH didn't. Yet... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856319 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 19:00:39 +0000 lovehoneybee 856319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, when my LO was 6 or so months old. DH isn't on board for #2 yet, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-change-your-mind-about-being-one-and-done#post-856316 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 18:59:48 +0000 Andrea 856316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did! My 2nd is now 5.5 months. :-) </p>