https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 17:32:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93532 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 15:49:13 +0000 Goldilocks1107 93532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't start to feel any sort of connection until around 26 weeks into the pregnancy. At 30 weeks, it's still not as strong as I expected, but I've accepted the fact that I'm not a great lover of being pregnant and it doesn't indicate how much I'm going to love Baby Girl after she's here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93425 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 13:11:33 +0000 lemondrop 93425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Glad to hear that it can be different the next time around. I definitely love being a mom, and look forward to going through it again... well parts of it ;)</p> <p>@tequiero21: my SIL had a hard time bonding with her twins, she was very high risk though and had some problems during the pregnancy, but once they were out as crazy as they can be sometimes, she totally bonded with them.</p> <p>It is nice to hear from other moms that they didn't automatically bond with their babies, definitely makes me feel more normal- it worried me in the beginning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93338 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:34:05 +0000 ecogirl 93338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't feel that connection until each one was born and was able to really interact with me. I felt really guilty about that at first but my doctor said it was perfectly normal. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93333 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 11:27:35 +0000 tequiero21 93333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't feel 100% connected to either of my babies. i think maybe it was because this pregnancy was pretty uncomfy. i don't know. i really hope it clicks when i see them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93063 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 04:41:49 +0000 mediagirl 93063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel connected to her. I know I'm growing a human in me but I'm waiting to meet her to be able to connect with her. We have a name but don't call her by it because she's not here yet. For now she is BGH (baby girl Hopkins) and will continue to be until she's born. </p> <p>I love feeling her move and seeing her in the ultrasound. Both are amazing experiences but no, there's no real connection there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-93028 Wed, 14 Mar 2012 00:27:56 +0000 cupcakemama 93028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't cry or anything at ultrasounds but I did feel a deep connection quite early. By 8 weeks I felt it. I can't explain it very well but by that stage I had deeply bonded with LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92493 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 10:06:10 +0000 BananaPancakes 92493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 34 weeks along, and still don't really feel connected to the baby. I just feel like I don't know him yet, and it's hard not knowing what he looks like. I'm hoping that seeing him will change that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92395 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 08:17:03 +0000 mrs. wagon 92395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: lol!</p> <p>@lemondrop: it definitely took me by surprise. The decision to TTC was totally logical and not emotional at all both times, so I wasn't expecting this kind of excitement and emotional connection this time around either. It could be that we found out the gender this time, or that I know more what to expect, but it's definitely so different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92351 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 22:35:51 +0000 lemondrop 92351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: @blushink: very cool that the second time around the connection came earlier for you guys. I hope that the same happens for me when #2 comes along, I want to enjoy it as much as possible now that I know more of what to expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92350 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 22:19:00 +0000 BSB 92350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry, completely off topic. Did anyone else think this thread was about 'connecting with your unicorn baby'? Haha. Sorry. I'm weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92343 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 21:20:53 +0000 mrs. wagon 92343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no for the first. I definitely already feel connected with this second one though. I wasn't emotionally or mentally ready for RJ (even though he was planned! I didn't know how to ready myself at all.) but I definitely am for this one and I can't wait to meet her and hold her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92329 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 20:22:20 +0000 doogerdog 92329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to say thank you for writing this post. I'm only 10 weeks along but I've been feeling the same way. I haven't told anyone because I didn't want to sound like a "bad mom to be". Its like Sorrycharlie said, you don't even feel like there is a baby aside from the symptoms. I'm hoping I'll feel more connected when I get my first ultrasound and when I can start to feel the baby move.<br /> One thing I've been doing to try to help me connect is to write in a journal. Each entry I end by saying "love mom" or something like that. I've been writing about how I've been feeling emotionally and physically, how our families have reacted to the news of baby, possible names for baby, ect.<br /> I hope to show the journal to LO when he/she is older or maybe when they become parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92287 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 19:31:41 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 92287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think for me, seeing I wanted a girl so bad that getting the news automatically made that connection. I talk to her, she kicks me.... I can see the love already ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92244 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 18:18:14 +0000 banana 92244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really feel connected until I felt him move. Before then, I wasn't even always sure he was in there! I just saw my stomach get bigger but that was it. I think you should give it a little more time. Maybe once you feel the baby kicking and hiccuping, you might feel more connected? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92239 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 17:51:35 +0000 MsMamaBear 92239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sure did, AND I was Team Green. I talked to Baby Bear and could tell her personality already. I could tell she was a spunky girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92232 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:49:47 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 92232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was pregnant, I would have said I was connected, but it wasn't until she was born that I really understood that she had a very distinct personality in utero that was consistent even after she was born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92225 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:41:50 +0000 lemondrop 92225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: same here, now that he is smiling and reacting to us, we are getting a real connection. </p> <p>I had a small connection with him before he was born, I think I was mostly scared to get too attached during pregnancy. The ultrasounds and kicking really helped me start to get to know him, and I loved him, just not as extreme as now. </p> <p>When the doctor put him on my chest right after he was born, I really didn't know what to do with him, I don't think that I cried, everything was very surreal the first few hours and days. Now he gets more personality every day and I love him more and more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92075 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:23:43 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 92075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm in the minority here. I didn't really connected to her until a few weeks after she was born. Sure it was cool to feel her moving in the womb, but that mother-daughter bond wasn't there until I could interact with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-92019 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 12:03:09 +0000 anbanan15 92019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt connected but not as much as I thought I would have while I was pregnant. I had an anterior placenta and a very hard time feeling DS's movements, so I think that played a major role in how connected a felt. I was constantly worried that I wasn't getting enough kicks, punches and jabs that I should have been (I didn't learn until I was 40 weeks that my placenta was anterior, which explained A LOT). Granted if something was wrong while I was pregnant I would have been devastated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91993 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:32:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 91993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cried when I saw my baby on the ultrasound and it was moving it's arms and legs and I saw the heartbeat. But I don't really feel the connection yet, I'm hoping once I can feel it move and know the gender that will come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91991 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:30:17 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 91991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I started feeling connected in third tri and it was pretty gradual process for me. Definitely after the birth I felt bonded, but I think it took until LO was about 2 months old to feel a really strong " I can't live without him" bond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91989 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:28:29 +0000 skibobrown 91989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm still in my last weeks of pregnancy, so I can't comment yet on how my experience during pregnancy will compare with after the baby is born. But... I can say that I do finally feel connected with my baby. It happened gradually though. Being able to really feel her move around a lot helped to cement our connection I think. These days I can usually feel her anatomy. I can feel her back and her butt lying usually along my right side, and I can feel her little feet and hands when they poke me in the left side. Actually feeling her outline and her different body parts makes her so much more real to me. At this point I can't wait to actually meet her, since I really can tell that there's an entire person in my belly. I also talk to her when she's poking me, and sometimes I walk around and try to rock my belly when she's being so active that it's painful. So, yes, I do finally feel very connected to the baby at this late stage of my pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91985 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:22:11 +0000 jennylynn 91985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm somewhat connected to her, but not as much as I thought I would be. Sometimes, it's still hard for me to grasp that there is a real live human baby in my belly, and what that means. I'm hoping it'll really sink in that I'm a momma when I hold her in my arms, and I'll feel the stronger connection I've been hoping for then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91980 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 11:17:30 +0000 yoursilverlining 91980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t really feel that connected to her yet. I don’t think of a fetus as being the same as a baby, especially early on, and this was no different for my own fetus. I knew she was alive in there, but honestly, I didn’t feel like I really “loved” her, or felt any sort of connection. She was just “there”. It’s neat to see her move around at ultrasounds, but I’ve never cried at an ultrasound.</p> <p>Now she moves around tons which is nice. Sometimes if she goes hours without moving I will poke myself where she usually kicks to see if she will respond and I really like feeling her popping around in there, but I dunno…..I still wouldn’t say I feel that connected. I feel more like an incubator, to be honest!</p> <p>I like to feel her and talk to her and stuff - maybe I'm just not a very emotional person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91943 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 10:09:02 +0000 chopsuey 91943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I connected with my LO as soon as I found out I was having a girl (around 20 weeks). Loved her and felt bonded the moment I held her in my arms for the first time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91911 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 09:22:49 +0000 Maysprout 91911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never cried when I saw her on the ultrasound. Before we went to the hospital to deliver I kinda had a feeling of really? is this what I want? (like I could change my mind then, and I've wanted to be a mommy for a long time but it didn't stop doubts from arising). </p> <p>But when I saw your question I thought yes, I bonded with her. We played games while she was in my belly. Games with her kicking that she played after she was born too and she made me laugh with her antics in my belly. Even after she was born though I think it took about 24 hours for me to go from - cool baby to wow, this is my daughter. </p> <p>Try not to think of your feelings as abnormal, adjusting to mommyhood is a different process for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91909 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 09:20:37 +0000 winniebee 91909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm connected, but truthfully felt like the pregnancy wasn't real until my 19 w ultrasound and when I knew it was a boy. Honestly, even after my 12 w appt., I still felt like something was going to go wrong (worry wart, having had a prior loss). Soon after my anatomy scan, though he started moving around and that helped w/ my connection. I talk to him every day (call him buddy or buppy) when he's moving around in there or if I'm alone and I think that helps with the connection. I also share a lot w/ my husband re: the baby's movement (whether he's really active that day or being lazy, lol) and DH talks to him sometimes too - but more in a playful way. I think that helps make it all feel more real, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91907 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 09:18:41 +0000 MsMini 91907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely feel really connected to my LO. </p> <p>It is a weird feeling though, because I know he/she is only really "real" to me if that makes sense, because I am the only one that is in constant contact with him/her. I know people are excited for the arrival, but I think that feeling our LO move, talking to him/her throughout the day, etc makes it way different for me than for other people. </p> <p>I really felt connected starting at our 11 week ultrasound, because there baby was, kicking and bouncing up a storm in my belly. I was addicted to remembering the ultrasound/looking at pics, until baby started moving a lot at 16 weeks. I had a pervious ultrasound at 6w7d, but although the heart was beating, there was no movement or anything else really to see, so it didn't really click for me then.</p> <p>Now that I am 32 weeks, I sometimes feel lonely when I haven't felt LO move in a while, so I will give him/her a nudge to get them going (LOL). It is a good thing that I have a really active baby, so not feeling movement is rare (because DH hates it when I bug the baby LOL). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91893 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 08:49:38 +0000 Mrsbells 91893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seeing her at the 11 week ultrasound was the first time I really thought of her as a person because thats the first time she really looked like a person, I was in awe of how active she was in there and her profile almost looked like she was pouting. since then i had few more ultrasounds and seeing her on the screen, plus feeling her respond to my movements really helps me feel connected all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-connect-with-your-unborn-baby#post-91891 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 08:41:27 +0000 sorrycharlie 91891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is probably a silly question - maybe it should be a spinoff? But when did you guys feel connected, if at all? I know I'm only just shy of 12 weeks, but I'm not feeling like there's even a baby in there! (Aside from the nausea, and of course, the ultrasound). Does it get better when they start moving/you start growing?</p> <p>I know that we will be bringing a baby home in September (hopefully!) but still haven't connected the dots in between, if that makes sense. </p>