Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 00:41:29 +0000 periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698630 Thu, 16 Feb 2017 08:42:12 +0000 periwinklebee 2698630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @lazypanda: Thank you :heart: I am so, so sorry for your loss :crying: I know what you mean about finding support. Everyone here has been so wonderful and I think I would feel very alone without this community, as I don't know many people IRL well who have been through TTC. I really hope you get your rainbow baby soon. Thank you for the encouragement. lazypanda on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698584 Thu, 16 Feb 2017 05:48:16 +0000 lazypanda 2698584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm sorry for your loss again. ❤️ It took me 21 months of actively TTC to be able to get my DD. She's my awesome rainbow baby & I'm hopeful that it just means I'll have another awesome rainbow baby after this one passes. While I was TTC for my first, joining the IF boards was helpful for me as it provided the support I needed which I didn't feel was possible with friends/co-workers who were getting pregnant all around me. I had/have a pollyanna-ish outlook of trying to find silver linings to everything and rationalizing why a loss or AF's arrival was a good thing. I also attribute going to acupuncture as being helpful with managing my stress and anxiety of TTC. I do hope the best for you and know that in the future, when you hold your LO (in whichever fashion it happens), you will look back and feel that it was all worth it, the heartache, tears, anger, sadness, it was all worth it to have your LO in your arms. ❤️ periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698360 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 17:11:38 +0000 periwinklebee 2698360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Coral: I'm so sorry you had to go through two losses in a row, and so glad you finally got your rainbow baby :heart: Thank you, these are great suggestions! Coral on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698182 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 14:16:07 +0000 Coral 2698182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm so sorry for your loss. Having it drag on just adds insult to injury. :heart: My first two pregnancies ended in loss, so when I found out I was pregnant the third time, I was really angry and assumed I would lose it, too. I honestly couldn't even fathom the idea of getting past 12 weeks with a pregnancy. That third pregnancy is now my son. :heart: During the "waiting game," I redecorating my living room, avoided social media as much as possible, let myself really feel my feelings as they occurred. I also got on a low dosage of an SSRI that I stayed on for the duration of my pregnancy (and beyond) and made therapy sessions a priority. Hoping this season of life is over for you very, very soon. :heart: periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698133 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 13:19:30 +0000 periwinklebee 2698133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @azjax: @Banana330: @winniebee: @mrsjd: Thank you, these are really good suggestions and super helpful! This got me to thinking of some great day trips nearby once the snow and ice melt :happy: mrsjd on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2698050 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 11:41:46 +0000 mrsjd 2698050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It took us two years to conceive our daughter. I struggled greatly and really sunk into depression about it. I ended up going to see a therapist and going on a low dose of medication for a few months to deal with anxiety/depression. I cannot tell you how much it saved my sanity and helped me cope with our situation while waiting to TTC again. (the drugs I was on were not recommended while actively trying to get pregnant). winniebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697977 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 09:26:51 +0000 winniebee 2697977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Our first took 8 months to conceive and we had a miscarriage at the 4 month mark. It was very hard because all of my friends were having babies and no one seemed to struggle. We planned a few trips - ones that I knew I didn't want to be pregnant for! And I did practice self care in the form of working out a lot, enjoying alone time with husband, going out with friends. It is very hard, especially when trying for that first baby. Hang in there! Banana330 on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697961 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 08:54:44 +0000 Banana330 2697961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Distraction and being busy helps! Find a project that will take some time and channel energy in to it. I definitely think it's easier in the summer to keep busy but i find when I'm bored I get lured back to the focus of the boards. azjax on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697954 Wed, 15 Feb 2017 08:41:08 +0000 azjax 2697954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @erinbaderin: I love the happiest moment of the day journal! What a great idea. Getting off of social media helped my mood tremendously! Also, planning girl's night out, date nights, etc really helped me focus on the joy that I do have. periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697855 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 21:01:00 +0000 periwinklebee 2697855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrskansas: @Nutella: @bhbee: Thank you :heart: great ideas! bhbee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697805 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 18:21:21 +0000 bhbee 2697805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ lots of great ideas above! I also have a private blog that I used as a journal. it really helped me to get my feelings out and ramble . . . I kind of work through things that way. I would write as often as I wanted to (or not), and definitely when I was feeling down, or when something exciting happened. it's also been interesting to go back and read different points in my journey now that I've had success. Nutella on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697801 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 18:11:04 +0000 Nutella 2697801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I found making little appointments for things like massage and pedicures or whatever were just nice ways to be treated when feeling cranky. mrskansas on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697791 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 17:39:43 +0000 mrskansas 2697791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I had to step away from social media and online forums for a bit. It was painful to see other people announcing pregnancies and getting BFPs while I was mourning my losses. It helped my mental state tremendously. Other than that, having plans to look forward to really helped. We also started remodeling our bathroom which is a big distraction. Hugs :heart: periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697782 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 17:12:10 +0000 periwinklebee 2697782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Revel: There's a Reddit TTC board? Hah hah, JK, yeah, I should probably stay away! @erinbaderin: I found a blank journal and love the idea of writing down the happiest moment of the day - such a great idea, thanks! Revel on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697720 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 15:02:28 +0000 Revel 2697720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ This is a strange recommendation to make on an online forum but stepping back from the Internet and social media was helpful - this included less time on facebook and not participating in the monthly POAS boards here, not browsing reddit ttc boards etc. Tough at first but really helped me - i know this may be an individual thing as a lot of people find so much comfort in online support. I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope there is an uneventful pregnancy just around the corner for you. periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697719 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 15:00:34 +0000 periwinklebee 2697719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @erinbaderin: These are all really great ideas - thank you so much for taking the time to write them out! erinbaderin on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697707 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 14:52:30 +0000 erinbaderin 2697707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Here are some things that I found helped: I made a list of things that made me happy. Little things like a cold glass of wine, a new magazine, spending half an hour in a bookstore. And when I started to feel really sad I would do one. I planned vacations. It gave me something to look forward to so I wasn't always living from month to month. I made a list of things that I was going to miss when I was pregnant/a parent - things like impulsively going to a movie, sleeping in, spending a whole day on the couch watching Netflix, eating cereal for dinner. I added it to it as I thought of things. I started keeping a daily journal of the happiest moment of my day. It only takes a minute before bed, it forces you even on sucky days to think of a bright spot, and it's so great to be able to look back through it and remember little moments. It's hard - I spent five years trying to get a baby, and my first pregnancy also ended in a miscarriage. I'm crossing my fingers for you! periwinklebee on "Did you do anything that made TTC easier to get through than it otherwise would have been?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-do-anything-that-made-ttc-easier-to-get-through-than-it-otherwise-would-have-been#post-2697697 Tue, 14 Feb 2017 14:45:08 +0000 periwinklebee 2697697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Did self-care strategies help? Or did certain perspectives help you to be more patient or optimistic or upbeat? I feel like I’ve hit a TTC low the past few weeks. I did get pregnant but an SCH cut off the nutrient flow to our embryo and it couldn’t grow. The heart continued to beat though for a full month after this happened, and I found it pretty draining to lose hope bit by bit as things kept on looking worse. I’m still waiting for a D&E. It feels like we've already been in this game for awhile - between trying and desperately wanting to start trying - and I also have a feeling this isn’t the end of loss for us, though maybe it’s just the weird pregnancy dreams I’ve had lately about loss speaking. In any case, the end point of having a healthy baby seems so far away, though I know we haven't even been trying that long compared to many others and compared to how long it may ultimately take us. My husband tells me I just need to work on being more patient, but I'm not sure how. I guess I’m just looking for any suggestions or perspectives on what made the TTC journey easier to get through for others. Thank you for listening to me ramble :heart: