https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 07:56:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced/page/2#post-1920934 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 11:01:15 +0000 NorthStar 1920934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work for an accounting firm and with DD, we tried for over a year with lots of stress and disappointments. Well, when I did finally get pregnant, my due date was end of May (after our busy tax season). When I announced at work, almost all of the partners said something to the effect, 'that's awesome that your due date won't interfere with tax season!!'. Yes, I planned on having difficulties conceiving for over a year and made sure to get knocked up to not interfere with you making money..&lt;sarcastic&gt;. Thanks for the support! jeez </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced/page/2#post-1920917 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 10:54:51 +0000 catomd00 1920917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A (older) co-worker asked if it was planned, which isn't necessarily negative, but I did find it odd/rude.</p> <p>My parents were happy but shocked, and you could see my dad counting backwards in his head to see if we were pregnant at my wedding (we got pregnant 2.5 months after it!)</p> <p>Everyone was generally super happy and excited, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced/page/2#post-1920903 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 10:45:23 +0000 78h2o 1920903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKMM: yes, it has been a total lifesaver for me in the nausea department. I have taken it almost every day since about 4 weeks. The one day I didn't take it, I threw up every couple hours. I wish I had taken it with my last pregnancy, as I was miserable for months. It is the same med as what is in Diglegis (Cat A med FDA approved for morning sickness). Unisom is Cat B, but only because it does not have the same volume of research in pregnant women as Diglegis does. My OB said that she feels it is really Cat A though. Just make sure you get the tablet (doxy...something) and not the gels (which are the same thing as Benadryl). You want to take 1/2 tab at night to start (12mg). Or you could even start with even less if you are worried about being groggy in the morning...but after a few days, the grogginess isn't an issue. Diglegis is 20mg and extended release. They recommend 20 mg of Diglegis at night to start, max dose 40mg at night, 20mg am and 20 mg afternoon if needed.</p> <p>Since I've been taking the Unisom for 5 weeks now, I take 3/4 tablet (~20mg) at night and about an 1/8 of a tablet in the am and again in the late afternoon if needed. Like I said, it has made a HUGE difference for me. I still feel a twinge of ickiness, but I can function at work and am not at all miserable. I'm also not throwing up much at all (maybe 1-2x per week). I take 25mg of B6 in the am and pm as well. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced/page/2#post-1920833 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 10:05:36 +0000 MrsKMM 1920833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lol! @jennyg</p> <p>@78h20, Hmm, I'm not, but I appreciate the suggestion! Is there a recommended dosage? Does it help with nausea? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced/page/2#post-1920821 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 09:56:15 +0000 78h2o 1920821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKMM: are you taking unisom/b6? It has really helped me. If you are uncomfortable taking it without seeing a doctor first, maybe you could call your midwife/OB office and ask to speak to a doctor or nurse about it before your appointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1920814 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 09:53:23 +0000 JennyG 1920814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I got so many "Did you plan this?" comments. A friend suggested I just responded that DH and I are just really into sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1920811 Wed, 29 Oct 2014 09:50:53 +0000 MrsKMM 1920811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@redeyedtreefrog, Possibly! The few relationships I had were stable ones, so that's what I'm hoping was implied! :silly: </p> <p>Our ILs expect us to give the first grandchild - we are the only couple, of the numerous cousins, who are married and settled (not to imply you have to be married to have children!), so the pressure's on! And on my side, my cousins and brother are young teens, so again, it's all me! </p> <p>I am thinking I'm going to have to tell work soon. I work long hours and am in and out of the office constantly, and I have felt horrible lately. It's getting to the point where everyone's asking when I am getting to a doctor because I shouldn't feel sick all the time. I just hit 6w today, so my appt isn't for another 2 weeks. I haven't told anyone else yet, and DH doesn't want my work to be the first to know! It's so hard to hide it though!</p> <p>Sorry so many of you got negative reactions! Glad we can all be here for each other on HB though :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916286 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 12:28:58 +0000 redeyedtreefr0g 1916286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKMM: Were they betting in a mean way, though? Maybe it was because you had the stable relationships, you's be in the better position to choose children sooner than others who weren't as responsible?</p> <p>I know that's probably what every thought about me- I met Mr. Frog at 17 and we didn't get married until I was...23? He wasn't old enough to drink at our wedding :P</p> <p>We were expected to have the first grandchildren among my sisters and I... until both my sisters met men and married them in the 12 months it took for us to announce our engagement and actually get married. It was kind of weird, I thought, like they were subconsciously racing me. Both of them are now divorced, but my little sister has 2 kids.</p> <p>I'm pretty certain if it ever happens for us, there will be nothing but happy reactions all around, mixed in with "It's about time!"s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916203 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 09:14:02 +0000 Rockies11 1916203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got lots of negative comments with both from my work, because they haaaaaaate it when people get pregnant, and they have a huge group of married, child-bearing aged women so there are always a couple of people pregnant and a couple on mat leave even though it's a small office. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916167 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 08:25:02 +0000 erwoo 1916167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, surprised at how many negative comments there were for a lot of you. :( @Boheme: Glad she got fired. Soooo inappropriate to say to anyone, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916162 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 08:13:45 +0000 lilyofthewest 1916162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been really afraid of negative reactions, but I haven't actually gotten any. I guess the high school message my father reiterated every time I left the house ("Come home before it gets light out; don't get knocked up!") really sunk in a little too far and I now have a certain amount of shame and anxiety associated with being pregnant. </p> <p>I keep telling myself that I am in my mid-30s and that this is a planned for, wanted pregnancy...but I'm also waiting for someone to tell me how badly I've screwed up.</p> <p>I did get one weird response. My ex-wife said, "Can I see?" before anything else. I don't even know what that means! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916132 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 07:07:49 +0000 Applesandbananas 1916132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916129 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 06:48:55 +0000 Applesandbananas 1916129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MummaColston: it was so weird! We'd been married for awhile, older, established in our careers, it was perfect timing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916108 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 03:19:02 +0000 MummaColston 1916108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: I got SOOOOO many "was it planned?" comments! My supervisor was probably the third person I told and her reaction was "Congratulations? It is congratulations isn't it?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916107 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 03:11:27 +0000 turquoisemama 1916107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom told me that when she found out she was pregnant with my brother, her sister said "You know abortion is always an option." Even though my mom was happily married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916088 Sun, 26 Oct 2014 00:02:03 +0000 anonysquire 1916088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly just on this site. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1916033 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 22:00:34 +0000 Mama Bird 1916033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was less than thrilled. The first thing she said was "how did that happen?!" We weren't married yet, but we already thought of ourselves as an old married couple so I was shocked that she was upset instead of happy... In hindsight, I guess that was silly of me. I'm a little nervous that if we're blessed with more kids we'll get the same reaction, this time because she'll be worrying that we need to move out of our small apartment and that no one in the family can help us with child care again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915945 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 20:12:47 +0000 Mrs.ThinMint 1915945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I told my mom, she didn't say say congratulations, she said, "I'm going to be a grandmother? I'm not sure if I'm ready for that." Thanks for making it about you, mom. . . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915898 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 19:30:19 +0000 snowjewelz 1915898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wasn't too negative but some ppl were like, so soon?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915849 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 18:25:11 +0000 Little Misters Mom 1915849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I told my dad I was pregnant he said "oh, is that so?" Not in a mean way, but as if we'd just told him we bought a new vacuum cleaner. But he's super reserved, so I tried not to take it personally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915757 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 15:09:47 +0000 MrsKMM 1915757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78H2O, that stinks :( I wish all the happiness for your family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915756 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 15:08:42 +0000 MrsKMM 1915756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boheme: That's terrible - I'm glad she got fired!</p> <p>@Espion: When I was younger, my friends told me they were betting I'd have the first baby in our group of friends, which I found offensive. I didn't "get around", and have only ever had 2 serious relationships, one of those being DH. Ironically, I AM the first pregnant one out of the group, lol Oh well</p> <p>Sounds like some bosses didn't know what to say. Maybe they're not sure if you're excited about it? I work with all women, so I am hoping it will go smoothly, although I know my boss isn't overly thrilled that a bunch of us got married within about a year and half of each other and is afraid we're all going out on maternity leave at the same time!</p> <p>@coopsmama @oliviaoblivia - that's terrible! :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915754 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 15:00:13 +0000 MrsKMM 1915754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, what responses! I'm surprised by some of them! :shocked: :bummed: I always used to assume that announcing was fun and exciting all around, but I've realized some people might not share those feelings. I know my in-laws will be excited - they've been bugging us for grandchildren for years! But I'm not so sure what to expect from my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915746 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 14:47:07 +0000 ALV91711 1915746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My supervisor asked me if this was a good thing when I told her. </p> <p>I didn't even know what to say besides yes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915728 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 14:23:40 +0000 78h2o 1915728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told many people about this pregnancy yet, but we're not expecting very positive reactions. My MIL once told me that we shouldn't EVER consider having more children (due to my husband's health issues/depression). I am dreading telling them; we're going to wait as long as we can. My mom had a mixed reaction when I told her. Bums me out, but it is what it is. I understand their concerns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915726 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 14:22:27 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1915726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing really negative, no, but I am often told I'm crazy because I work full time, am in an intense grad school program and don't really have family that lives close by. Wish they'd choose a better word because I feel crazy enough as it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915695 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 13:40:16 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1915695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL didn't acknowledge DD1 was on the way until well into my 3rd trimester, despite staying in our house at least half a dozen times while I was pregnant.<br /> Didn't get a congratulations on #2 from her either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915678 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 13:25:53 +0000 wonderstruck 1915678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boss asked, "Should I say congratulations? Are we happy?" LOL, but I don't hold it against him because a bunch of us were friends and joked around a lot, and during previous conversations I'd said I was sooo not ready for kids, and it's not like I had announced it once I did feel ready and we started TTC.</p> <p>The second time around my MIL said, "Oh, I was hoping it wouldn't happen for you guys so fast (this was on cycle 5), there's a lot of October birthday's, and November would have been nice - you could have had the baby on what would've been DH's grandpa's 100th birthday!" Uhhh wow, thanks for wishing another month of TTC frustrations on us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915666 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 13:15:26 +0000 illumina 1915666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got someone say "oh, okay.." which wasn't negative, but still a little odd! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-get-a-negative-reaction-when-you-announced#post-1915662 Sat, 25 Oct 2014 13:13:59 +0000 Arden 1915662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>FIL said "Congratulations, I guess." :/ </p>