https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 12:55:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419983 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 16:36:23 +0000 irene 419983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Don't bother reading, just watch the DVD ! Oh man I wish I can send mine to you because we have no use of it anymore!</p> <p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Happiest-Baby-Block-Crying/dp/B0006J021C/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1354138570&#038;sr=8-2&#038;keywords=happiest+baby+on+the+block" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/The-Happiest-Baby-Block-Crying/dp/B0006J021C/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&#038;qid=1354138570&#038;sr=8-2&#038;keywords=happiest+baby+on+the+block</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419788 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:46:27 +0000 Andrea 419788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way would I do CIO with a newborn. If I were to do it, I would wait until at least 4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419767 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:41:14 +0000 prettylizy 419767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not that early, at 3 weeks the only way they have to say they need something is to cry, so I was always there fairly quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419763 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:39:49 +0000 junebugmama 419763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I disagree with CIO ever. I've read to many psych studies and mental development studies to ever do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419747 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 15:32:10 +0000 travelgirl1 419747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Ah I have heard of that book, I'll check it out, thanks!</p> <p>Thanks everyone, I was starting to think I was too soft after the Facebook 'let her cry' campaign...... there's no way I could let her cry it out when she's so young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419443 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:05:30 +0000 Chastenet 419443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I disagree with using cio before 3 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419438 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 14:04:27 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 419438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hell no!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419391 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:56:43 +0000 sera_87 419391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>a 3 week old can't self soothe, so CIO doesn't work. I don't think a lot of people know that - they just hear off-hand about the CIO method and think it applies no matter what age. </p> <p>I let him "CIO" in the car seat when I'm driving alone. It's not like I can do anything in that position. He usually falls asleep once he's done. (and he's 3 months, not 3 weeks, just to be clear). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419287 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:33:40 +0000 irene 419287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Actually I agree with everyone though - although we did CIO we didn't do it until he was 2-3 months old.</p> <p>Then we also didn't let him CIO if he woke up in the middle of the night. I usually wait 10 minutes to see if he would go back to sleep and if he didn't, I'd go and breastfeed him. That happens from 0-7 months and then he slept through the night on his own. Our pediatrician actually pressured me to let him CIO so he "sleeps through the night" but I didn't listen. And I am so glad I ignored him haha. So basically we just CIO when we put him down for naps and sleep (ie we don't rock him to sleep).</p> <p>To put your LO to bed, Maybe try a different type of white noise? We have a library of white noises on our iPad LOL. There is only a specific few works. At the end my husband has to record the sound from a hair dryer, make it into an mp3 and loop playing it.</p> <p>If playing white noise doesn't work, how about if you operate a real hair dryer or a vaccum cleaner? </p> <p>Then I am not sure if anyone suggested "The Happiest Baby On The Block" to you. It was a lifesaver on calming a newborn and putting him to sleep :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419278 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:30:21 +0000 sarac 419278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! A newborn is crying because they need something, period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419272 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:27:46 +0000 Mrs. Pen 419272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't do CIO until 6 months and even then it was only because I was desperate... NEVER would have done it earlier - especially not at 3 weeks! Honestly, at 3 weeks old, I would go as far to say that is neglect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419268 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:24:09 +0000 mediagirl 419268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. It hurts me too much to hear her cry. I also don't think it's right to let a baby that young, who really doesn't know what's going on, to cry it out. At tihs point, she is 5.5 months and I know her cries. She has one that is just a pitiful, "I'm tired and miserable and just want to be asleep" not a "Mommy, I need you!" cry so, we'll give her a few minutes with that one and normally, she puts herself to sleep. Never at 3 weeks, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419265 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:23:25 +0000 Running Elley 419265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't let our 7 week old CIO, just because we aren't comfortable with it while he's this young. He was an only sleep while being held baby too. To transition him we started putting him into his crib once he's really deeply asleep. If he woke up we'd go in and pay his back while shushing him. If he was really upset we'd take him out and do that with him on our shoulder until he went back to sleep. We did it with both naps and at night. At first it was quite a process to get him to stay down but it got better as he got used to it. Swaddling helped/helps a lot too. His arms and legs distract him if he isn't swaddled. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419241 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 13:14:47 +0000 mrs. wagon 419241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we never tried CIO until either baby was at least 4 months old and able to self-soothe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419169 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:44:26 +0000 brownie 419169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son did CIO (we didn't do CIO as a sleep philosophy) as a newborn. He cried 12 -15 hours a day/night. At about 3 am we were too exhausted and we just put him down because he cried with or without us. It made him not trust sleep and we are still trying to work through those issues at 18 months old. He hates to sleep and he hates being alone to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419139 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:31:39 +0000 purrpletulips 419139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started with DD when she was 5w old and would only let her cry for about 10 min before checking on her and restarting the clock. With DS we started a little earlier probably about 4w because of our experience with DD. I have to say that it was so very hard for me to do but neither would fall asleep in our arms and were too young to self-soothe, wouldn't take a pacifier and were swaddled.</p> <p>Both are great sleepers/nappers and do not seem to have any emotional/attachment problems as a result. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419134 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:28:16 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 419134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: It's not just an English thing. I had plenty of people tell me to do it, but I learned from this site that a baby that young has no way of knowing how to self soothe. That takes time, and usually starts around 6 or 7 months. So I say to just nod and smile to the people that told you to let your baby CIO ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419129 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:24:04 +0000 travelgirl1 419129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: lol, you're not horrible people! Yeah we tried white noise, worked for two nights....</p> <p>I wonder if the crying advise is an English thing then... It's all my English friends telling me to do it. I bet they're all tutting at how soft I am and how I'll learn :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419120 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:20:49 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 419120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't let her CIO until around 6 months, and that was only because she was waking about 4x a night. Up until that time, they really don't have the ability to learn to soothe themselves. I wanted nap/bed time to be something she looked forward to, not have anxiety towards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419116 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:15:49 +0000 keiki_mama 419116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we didn't let our baby CIO until he was 5 1/2 months old. 3 weeks is way too young! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419112 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:14:12 +0000 runsyellowlites 419112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. DD is 7months and I've never done CIO nor will I. We co-sleep &amp; co-bed dream feeding through the night (some more than others) and DD has recently, all on her own, begun putting herself to sleep without any tears. (TBH it made me kinda sad she doesn't need me to fall asleep anymore). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419108 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:12:44 +0000 irene 419108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah. We are horrible people.... but not at a few weeks old....</p> <p>White noise usually do the magic when LO was just a few weeks old. Did you try that? It is when he grows older (like 2 months), still hasn't learned to self soothe to sleep and the white noise is not as effective anymore that's when the trouble starts....</p> <p>I wasn't a believer in rocking the baby to sleep, or let him sleep on me, or cosleeping... We do offer the white noise, the mobile (that hang above the bed) and swaddling when LO was 0-6 months (I think we stopped swaddling around 3-4 months). That usually works but there are nights that it fails.... I still remember there was one night he cried for 1-2 hours (we put him down at 6:30 but he cried until 8!) I just couldn't take it anymore, I shut his door and I bang my head on the wall while he cried in the room :(</p> <p>But the result is, LO learns to self soothe and he is a pretty good sleeper now. He falls asleep within minutes we put him down, and even if he didn't fall asleep immediately, he'd play quietly in his crib until he's tired and falls down.</p> <p>So that was my experience... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419101 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:09:11 +0000 littlek 419101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! At that age when they are crying they need something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419095 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:03:11 +0000 winniebee 419095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I felt more comfortable letting him squak a little bit when he was a few months old. Only let him cry a little at 4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-ever-leave-your-newborn-to-cry#post-419088 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 12:00:06 +0000 travelgirl1 419088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted yesterday for advice on transferring my sleep on mummy baby to a Moses Basket and got some great tips. I just posted the same question on Facebook and can't believe how many people said to let them cry it out. She's three weeks old! There's no way I'm comfortable with doing that, but I appreciate it works for some.</p> <p>Did you let your newborn CIO? Did it work? </p>