https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 05 May 2026 23:49:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804361 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:32:04 +0000 Rockies11 1804361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca same! I found #1 way more stressful because I had no idea whether I was fertile or how a baby would change our life. With #2 it's harder to do logistically, and I have the added complication of still bfing and wanting to have the baby soon. That said, I am finding ttc #2 more exciting and fun than the grim mititary execution of ttc#1 plan, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804307 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:10:26 +0000 anonysquire 1804307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Equal pressure with both! But I am alwys pressuring myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804294 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:06:43 +0000 travellingbee 1804294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Feeling a little more pressure with #2 because of certain work/timeframe constraints, b/c of my age, and b/c it didn't happen right away like with #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804293 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:05:59 +0000 littlek 1804293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't TTC for B, he was a happy surprise. We definitely TTC for this LO and it has stressed me out. When we go for #3, it will be relaxed and not about timing intercourse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804285 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 18:01:54 +0000 Tidybee 1804285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel any more pressure for #2. Before miscarriage #1, we weren't even trying and we didn't get any comments from families....especially because they all know about our struggles to conceive DD. Once we had that miscarriage and then next, they are more supportive than pressuring. I think everyone will just be happy once we have a sticky baby. I'm feeling a little pressure from myself because I have no idea how long it could take to get said baby.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1804104 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 16:44:07 +0000 Boogs 1804104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way more for #2 because I wanted to conceive during a certain window of months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1803821 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 14:50:56 +0000 snowjewelz 1803821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not with #1 but I know everyone and their mother ask about #2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1803810 Thu, 07 Aug 2014 14:48:16 +0000 Starfish 1803810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel a butt-load of pressure from no one other than myself - TTC#1 and not getting any younger :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799852 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 16:39:07 +0000 sandy 1799852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in some ways yes and in other ways no. I didn't have a chance to feel pressure with LO bc we got pregnant our second cycle. If it had taken longer than that I'm sure I would have felt the pressure </p> <p>With the second I didn't feel a lot of pressure bc I already had LO but after the 6th cycle I started to feel a lot of pressure. I was getting older and I wondered if LO would ever have a sibling and I didn't want my kids 10 years apart so I wondered how long I would keep trying before giving up or pursing other options...but always in the back of my mind I had peace bc I had LO. My heart goes out to those ladies who are still waiting for their first baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799825 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 16:19:24 +0000 cascademom 1799825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Self induced pressure here. I don't want another August baby. I want to get pregnant sooner than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799754 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 15:33:30 +0000 duchessdina 1799754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I felt more pressure to conceive with #1 but I am under some pressure with#2 just because we want them close together and it took a long time to conceive dd. I know it's supposed to be easier with #2 but I just find myself worrying it will end up taking as long as the first time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799366 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 13:02:27 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1799366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#2 for sure, though it's more self-induced. LO #1 will be 2 in September, and I'll be 34 then as well. With the multiple miscarriages before and after, I'm worried I'm getting started a little late with a RE and am in for a long journey for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799354 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 12:58:15 +0000 travelgirl1 1799354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Self induced both times, but especially now with my age and fertility issues and recent loss. No one else would ever put pressure on me but I feel it daily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799308 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 12:44:58 +0000 Alivoo01 1799308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely did with #1 because I just wanted it to happen, and it didn't happen as easily nor quickly as I thought it would. DH would like #2 to be close in age to #1, but it's not like we absolutely want 2 under 2. We're NTNP/TTC right now so if it happens soon - yay! if not, no biggie unless it doesn't happen within a year then maybe I'll start freaking out again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799155 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 11:51:26 +0000 meredithNYC 1799155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm feeling more pressure with #2. I conceived LO #1 on the first cycle, so was just very, very lucky. Only on third cycle with TTC now, but I get myself stressed out thinking about what if it takes a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799035 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 11:02:44 +0000 Radish 1799035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Self-induced with #2! The child spacing issue (particularly in regards to grade level difference) really put the pressure on me. With #1 I was still a little unsure if we were making the "right" decision to try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799030 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 11:01:26 +0000 dolphin 1799030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No pressure for #1, but lots of self induced pressure for #2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799029 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 11:01:10 +0000 septca 1799029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 because it was so uncertain. TTC #2 is frustrating because the actual trying is harder to fit in, but I'm not as worried as I was with #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799025 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 11:00:10 +0000 Springtime 1799025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely more pressure with number 2 due to the age spacing I wanted. With number 1 there was no pressure at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1799013 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:55:45 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1799013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't feel any pressure for either one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798901 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:25:33 +0000 blackbird 1798901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More people asked about #1....nobody's really been like, "when are you having another?" in a stressful way. People ask (friends) but it's more like we are all in the same boat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798899 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:24:18 +0000 hellobeeboston 1798899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 for me for sure. </p> <p>This time around I would like it to happen sooner rather than later but mentally prepped myself for it taking up to a year to conceive. Also not too worried about spacing, I just wanted to have a couple years between the two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798885 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:19:45 +0000 hilsy85 1798885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely #2....with #1, there was no major timeframe. With #2, I have an idea of the season I'd like to have LO2 in, and the age spacing I want, so there is definitely more pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798849 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:06:13 +0000 Corduroy 1798849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm feeling more pressure with #2. DH and I are pretty private and don't like talking about TTC because of the pressure. Nobody knew we were TTC #1 but now that LO is 18 months it seems like everyone assumes (correctly, in our case) that we are TTC #2. Work, friends, family, all talk about it like they know we're TTC. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798845 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:04:57 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1798845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually felt pretty pressed for both because I was super concerned about my fertility. Luckily it all worked out. The second time was a bit more of a todo with weaning and all that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798836 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 10:02:43 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1798836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: I just wanted to say :goodluck: :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798807 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 09:50:23 +0000 LuLu Mom 1798807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With #2, only because it didn't happen the first month like it did with LO, so I started to psych myself out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798806 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 09:50:21 +0000 Adira 1798806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt more pressure with #2 because I REALLY wanted them to be under 2 years apart and I was worried that if it took as long or longer, we wouldn't get the age gap we were looking for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798779 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 09:34:40 +0000 sorrycharlie 1798779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>with #1 for some reason! no one else knew we were trying either time (well, IRL!) so it was kinda laid back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-feel-more-pressure#post-1798772 Tue, 05 Aug 2014 09:33:31 +0000 mrsjyw 1798772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>while TTC #1? or TTC #2?</p> <p>I don't feel outside pressure now, and didn't with DS either. but now that we're TTC, I feel more self-induced pressure to have #2 in a given time frame (considering our overall family plans). </p>