Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 11:55:08 +0000 My Only Sunshine on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2513233 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 18:10:47 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2513233@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh my lord my MIL was deeply deeply annoying my first pregnancy. Less so but still annoying with baby #2. She wanted to know about every prenatal appointment in detail. I remember threatening my husband that the next time she asked I was going to reply, "Fine thanks, how was your last Pap smear?" The low point was when she told me at like 30 weeks pregnant, "Your baby is all I think about." I was growing the kid and she wasn't all I thought about!! Cherrybee on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2513179 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 16:31:29 +0000 Cherrybee 2513179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I spoke to DH about it tonight and he thinks that, yes, my hormones are a factor but that she's also being particularly over the top at the moment. She's winding him up a ton too! :happy: SugarplumsMom on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2513173 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 16:21:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2513173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I remember MIL bossed me around and ordered me to carry a heavy watering can (the big ones) full of water when I was in my 3rd trimester. I was way too nice ... travellingbee on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2513149 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 15:45:11 +0000 travellingbee 2513149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes yes yes! We get along fine now! It was so weird, both pregnancies! Christy412 on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2513075 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 14:37:36 +0000 Christy412 2513075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Cherrybee: My MIL lives in a different city, only about 1.5 hours away (not far) and she has made a comment more than once that she's afraid my baby won't know her. This is because her other two grandchildren live literally on the same street as her and she sees them all the time. Btw, my SIL is pregnant also (her 3rd my 1st) and we're due at the same time. I had to put her in her place and tell her it was ridiculous. I'm terrified she will be in town constantly when the baby is born. It may be really hard if she stays at our house. I'm trying to keep my hopes up but I don't want her to try and tell me how to care for my child. Alba4 on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510711 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 16:06:54 +0000 Alba4 2510711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL tends to be careful with her words around me, so I usually don't have too big of an issue. My mother, on the other hand, is driving me crazy with her constant emotional drama. Sigh. littlebug on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510701 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:57:40 +0000 littlebug 2510701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yep. It was almost like a pregnancy aversion. Then it just became a total BEC situation. winniebee on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510700 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:55:05 +0000 winniebee 2510700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. Don't forget, she had awful morning sickness and hiked the Grand Canyon in her first trimester with her second child. birdofafeather on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510691 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:38:43 +0000 birdofafeather 2510691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh yeah! But more the second time around! mrsrain on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510659 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 15:00:29 +0000 mrsrain 2510659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have s great relationship with my MIK but find I have less patience with her since I became a mom two years ago. Stuff she says/does really gets on my nerves, but I'm pretty sure it's more an issue of my perception than anything, so I try not to show it! Astro Bee on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510652 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 14:53:09 +0000 Astro Bee 2510652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Before I was pregnant I had a great relationship with my MIL. After I got pregnant I realized that her lifestyle choices could seriously affect our child. I found her louder, more selfish, and much ruder, as a result. My feelings haven't really changed since then, and LO is almost one, so I probably can't blame it on the hormones anymore, although I'm still breastfeeding, so who knows! I am careful not to let my feelings show, but I do vent to my mom and SIL (it's also her MIL, and she feels the same way, so perhaps it's really not just me!). :silly: Maysprout on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510557 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:40:19 +0000 Maysprout 2510557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a much shorter tolerance for most people when pregnant. I'm less likely to carefully phrase or patiently deal with someone else. Not that I snap at everyone, I just feel myself getting annoyed and so am a lot less chatty. Luckily somehow my DH (and usually my kiddos) escapes this and somehow doesn't annoy me but most other people I just can't deal with even a little bit of their drama. Mrs. Sunshine on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510550 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:38:35 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2510550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. I actually blew up at her in front of the entire family about how she needed to mind her own business and what I was saying to my daughter was none of her business. I'm not proud of that but thankfully she's a forgiving woman. I find her mildly annoying already but nothing that deserved treatment like that TrailRunner on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510549 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:38:15 +0000 TrailRunner 2510549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My MIL hasn't really bothered me much. She occasionally asks how I'm doing, but she knows I'm a keep to myself kind of person and has respected that. My mother tho? Good lord. She has given me so much "advice" on my own health that doesn't even make sense. jh524 on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510548 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:38:10 +0000 jh524 2510548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Cherrybee: I remember you talking about this during our last pregnancies. Lol. I totally understand! My mother has been driving me batty and Im trying to be nice but she makes me fiesty. I just want to argue with her. Just choose your battles carefully and focus on the fact that we are hormonal and can get away with more ;) FancyGem on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510533 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:23:40 +0000 FancyGem 2510533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No because she annoyed me before I was pregnant. lol She toned it down some because my husband told her to. Chillybear on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510522 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 13:18:16 +0000 Chillybear 2510522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ i remember when i was pregnant everything that came out of her mouth annoyed me and i had to really hold back the internal eye rolls from becoming external. It had nothing to do with what she said either, it was all in the way i was reacting. avivoca on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510488 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 12:53:02 +0000 avivoca 2510488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really toward my MIL because I don't see her much, but definitely toward my mother. She's driving me nuts right now. Cherrybee on "Did you find your MIL difficult to cope with during pregnancy (like, more than usual)?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-your-mil-difficult-to-cope-with-during-pregnancy-like-more-than-usual#post-2510469 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 12:41:19 +0000 Cherrybee 2510469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a great relationship with my MIL but I'm finding her very, very difficult to be around in pregnancy. Everything she says and does winds me up! The only thing keeping me going is that I remember I had a huge issue with her last time I was pregnant (I felt like she wanted to dictate everything and steal my baby!), which all seemed so silly and overblown once the baby was here! My friend is also pregnant and is also having MIL drama. I remember when she was pregnant last time, she was really stressed out about her husband's family, feeling like they were trying to take over..... I'm wondering if its a hormonal thing!? Perhaps its the mothers drive to protect her offspring (from overbearing grandmas!). Did you feel smothered or irritated or in any way negative towards your MIL when you were pregnant?