https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 05:13:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-130335 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 16:56:17 +0000 Maysprout 130335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't that judgey before or after. But now I do look at the people who say childbirth isn't that painful like they have 3 heads. , but i guess more impressed then judgey. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-130257 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 15:49:24 +0000 Honeybee 130257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: So true. Just when I think I've got it figured out, I realize I how little I actually know. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-130249 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 15:42:39 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 130249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything about having kids is a crapshoot. What worked for one of my kids didn't work for the other... I find myself humbled on a daily basis! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-130145 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:56:58 +0000 Andrea 130145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I was judgey before or after either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-129982 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:06:50 +0000 heffalump 129982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: I was judgey about other things! I think I felt judged for wanting an epidural though. But even when I talked to people who are big natural birth supporters, I stuck to my ground and acted proud of my decision, even though I didn't feel it. Now I do feel proud, it was the right decision for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-129973 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 14:02:41 +0000 Honeybee 129973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol, you guys are so sweet! I hate to admit how judgey I was before giving birth... Now that I've done it, I am much more (genuinely!) open-minded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-129969 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:59:37 +0000 chopsuey 129969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pretty open minded beforehand too. Labor went the way I expected it would (minus the 2 hour pushing and 3rd degree tears!). I try not to be judgey when it comes to how people decide to do things. To each her own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-129926 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:36:16 +0000 heffalump 129926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I was pretty open minded before. My birth was everything I wanted it to be, but not everything I thought it would be. I actually expected something to go wrong, and it didn't. Guess I watched too many baby stories before giving birth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-find-yourself-more-or-less-open-minded-after-birth#post-129921 Thu, 19 Apr 2012 13:33:27 +0000 Honeybee 129921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's so interesting to me how birth/having children affects all of us so personally and individually. When I was pregnant with my first, I did so much reading and so much research; I really thought I understood everything about labor and birth! I was pretty set in what I thought was right, and I have to admit I was kinda judgey towards people who didn't share my opinions.</p> <p>However, birth with DD didn't really go as planned, and it took me a little while to get over that. I think that experience really opened my eyes to the fact that there is no single "right" way to have a child. All of the options are valid and it really comes down to personal preference on what is the right way to deliver a baby. Having DS, I find myself even more accepting of differing opinions; I made some decisions with DS that I didn't make with DD, and it made me a lot less likely to judge others' choices.</p> <p>I also have a good friend who had such a terrible labor/delivery experience; everything that could go wrong did go wrong, and she still feels horrible about the whole thing. I think her birth experience has actually made her feel more strongly about her original opinions. She's much more defensive now about about her opinions, whereas I don't think she was quite as vocal, before.</p> <p>What about you? Did birth make you more open-minded or confirm your original thoughts/opinions? Did your birth go as you expected, or was it different than what you had planned for? </p>