https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 09:18:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1132058 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:15:36 +0000 deactivated_account 1132058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: That is such an awesome story. I am so glad that after 4 years, you two are still doing great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1132041 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 12:08:20 +0000 chopsuey 1132041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: we lived 2500 miles away from each other. I moved after we got married! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1132009 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:55:41 +0000 dc yoga bee 1132009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been married almost 2 yrs and together 4, and I'm still working on,his wardrobe. He's a stubborn one! I may or may not have taken to increasing the tiny hole in the t shirts from 5th grade he still wears ever,so,slightly and,then putting them in the dryer for the dryer to do its magic. When he pulls the shirt out the dryer-huge hole can no longer wear. So, if ithas a hole in it,it will probably have a bigger one gradually :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1131972 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:39:42 +0000 sunny 1131972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I got rid of my husband's gold chain too! Haha</p> <p>@chopsuey: What an amazing love story! Were you already living in the same city or did you have to move to be with your hubs?</p> <p>I made my husband into a saver. He used to love to spend money on little things but I guess he got hooked on seeing his bank account grow. Hubs got me to be way less petty and not sweat the small stuff so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1131948 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:30:54 +0000 TheReelDeal 1131948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been very influential in his life, but I think that's because I make him want to do better things.</p> <p>I did help him with his awful spending habits, and I convinced him that he should not still be wearing that much gel in his hair at 32. Which for me are all superficial things. His core, were all things I loved from the second I saw him :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1131915 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:23:13 +0000 cascademom 1131915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: Wow, that's quite a wild ride!</p> <p>I forgot to add that DH got me hooked on sushi. I never had good sushi before him. He keeps me level headed when I panic and freak out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married/page/2#post-1131892 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:16:03 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1131892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing major, he was in pretty good shape when I met him. But I did get him to stop wearing black jeans and his "lumberjack" shirt. He got me to start eating more adventurously. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131883 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:13:21 +0000 jhd 1131883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no fixing! ;) but i have helped him to branch out &amp; try new foods. and we've traveled a bunch together which is something his family never did when he was young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131866 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 11:08:50 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1131866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, still loves his shorts &amp; tshirts. Where did I go wrong in my teachings?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131826 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:58:59 +0000 cascademom 1131826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, we've been together for 9 years next week. I've definitely help influence him on certain things. He dresses better than when I met him thanks to the removal of some Cosby sweaters and old t-shirts. He also manages his money better thanks to me. I used to be a super saver. I'm a more moderate saver in the past decade, but still savings focused. We both like to cook, but I'm the healthier influence. I can definitely say that I've been a healthy influence on him. I think that he's changed for the better over the years. </p> <p>Some days, I wonder how he would have been if he married his ex-girlfriend who used to be close to MIL. I think it would be a very entangled, lacking autonomy and boundaries kind of thing. I think that my influence on establishing boundaries with his mom and family has been huge for him. Over the years, she had to know all and caused trouble with his past relationships. I'm the first one to put up those boundaries and let us be "us." That's huge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131731 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:33:58 +0000 lovehoneybee 1131731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm...he made me quit smoking and I added some color to his wardrobe (he lives in these black shirts from ON...has like 10 of them, no joke). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131730 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:33:18 +0000 looch 1131730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say no, not that he didn't need fixing in some areas. My husband is at his core the same person, but he's maybe changed his clothing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131720 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:29:47 +0000 nana87 1131720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not really! we've both grown and changed a lot over the past 7 years that we've been together (i was fresh out of college when we met!) but nothing intentionally "fixed." dh dresses a LOT better now than he did then but that was his own doing, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131716 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:28:11 +0000 Arden 1131716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I didnt change him. I did let him know he had more options then just doing what he'd always done, what his family had always done, or what his mother had always told him to do... and then he changed himself. </p> <p>His mother had bought him tighty-whitey underwear his whole life (we were 18 when we started dating). After he moved away, one day he needed underwear. I pointed out that there were many other styles of underwear and that he could try out something new if he wanted. He chose black boxer briefs, and he loved them! He's never bought tighty-whiteys again.</p> <p>Same with new foods, different clothes, political views... I just pointed out the array of options he could choose from besides doing what he'd always done, and he made his own changes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131680 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:13:20 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1131680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: that is so awesome!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131679 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:13:09 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1131679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: awwwww That's so awesome :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131676 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:12:26 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1131676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! No fixing necessary - he was everything I had ever wanted :-) (and he better say the same about me - kidding!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131661 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 10:08:10 +0000 chopsuey 1131661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: @MrsMcD: haha! In a nutshell--We were matched on eharmony in aug 2009. We talked for a month via Skype, text phone. I knew he was the one after we talked on the phone for the first time.<br /> We met in person in September.<br /> Got married in October! Haha. (Eloped)<br /> 6 months later we had a church ceremony and reception with family and friends. 2 months after that I got pregnant with dd.<br /> It's been a wild ride. 2 kids, almost 4 yrs of marriage and still happy as clams :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131609 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:47:25 +0000 deactivated_account 1131609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: I want to hear the story, too!! Good lord... I dated my DH 10 years before we were married!! Please tell your story! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131561 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:32:50 +0000 yin 1131561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are perfect human beings. What is there to change? Hehe. Just kidding. DH was really into gaming when I met him, which I didn't approve of since it's so time consuming. 8 years later, and DH rarely ever plays. </p> <p>I didn't know how to cook when we first met. I was a disaster and didn't know any kitchen basics. Fast forward to having a very hungry toddler, and I figured out my way in the kitchen real quick. I made pasta fagioli last night. That's a huge accomplishment for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131531 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:26:45 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1131531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey: no way! I want to hear this story! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131525 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:25:58 +0000 Cherrybee 1131525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I was looking for a guy who didn't need any work doing! I got tired of fixing up guys only for them to move on - all that hard work down the drain!! </p> <p>If DH had tried to "fix" me, I would have fixed him right in the balls! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131502 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:18:50 +0000 Maysprout 1131502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made him chicken nuggets when he first ate over, he made a meal from scratch the first time I ate over at night. So he taught me to cook and it became a nice evening habit for the 2 of us to cook dinner together. I got him not to eat sausage everyday, he even when crazy with that idea and we eat a mainly vegetarian diet now.</p> <p>We make each other better people but we both had a lot of growing up to do when we first met, some of it was just maturing but we kinda pushed each other in the right direction too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131474 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:09:09 +0000 chopsuey 1131474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahah we knew each other 2 months when we got married, so no time to fix anything! Thankfully we didnt have any fixing to do. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131473 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:08:52 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1131473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had been dating for a few weeks when he picked me up, dressed in khakis and a button down, and took me to dinner. Afterward, we met up with one of his friends (a girl) for drinks. They'd gone to middle school and high school together, and stayed in touch during college too. She shook my hand (first time we met each other) and the second words out of her mouth was "WOW! You sure changed him!!" I've had a had a bitter taste for her ever since.</p> <p>I don't think I changed my husband. I've never told him how to dress or what to eat or what to wear. We've evolved as a couple over the last 7 years, though, and our styles have changed through the years. I would not have married someone that was a "project", though, which is how his friend made me feel! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131445 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 09:00:17 +0000 kjpugs 1131445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've definitely both changed for the better throughout our relationship, with the help of the other. A lot of it are habits- since when you're single your behavior doesn't effect anyone else! So better money habits, cleaning, etc. And we ask each other for fashion advice and sometimes shop together. But I guess I don't see it as changing each other? I think it was more of a natural thing- the way a college roommate might mold you over your 4 years. Since I think we as people are ALWAYS changing! There was very little about DH that I didn't love immediately. I've helped him work through some anger issues he's had (better manage his anger, I guess) and I've helped him buy less blue button downs and more, um, OTHER COLORS! But that is pretty much about it!</p> <p>I kind of love that it's always a "work in progress" and we're constantly helping each other improve. I also love that this post made me remember all the good memories from when we met! :) &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131397 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 08:46:10 +0000 Boheme 1131397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We fixed each other in the money department. We went from frivolous single folk purchases to a firm, sensible budget. I feel that we 'fixed' each other in that we completed each other :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131395 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 08:44:56 +0000 pui 1131395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He started dressing nicer while we were dating. He gave me more knowledge about money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131389 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 08:42:59 +0000 Littlebit 1131389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. He's always dressed ok. I did 'help' him in some areas - mainly money. He was 31 and didn't have a bank account! He also had no savings and had a bunch of credit card debt. Now he has no debt, and he freaks out if the bank account is under a specified amount. </p> <p>Oh! And shopping! The man had never been to a Target before! He loves it now. He gets bored sometimes and says 'Let's go walk through Target!'. Haha. Also, he was not an animal person. Had never had a pet growing up...thought dogs belonged outside only. He loves dogs now! He wants another. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-fix-your-husband-before-you-got-married#post-1131371 Fri, 04 Oct 2013 08:37:13 +0000 swurlygurl 1131371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I changed his diet and his 'style'. He doesn't spend money clothes, but at least it's not old clothes that his mom picked out for him.</p> <p>He changed my spending habits. I have no idea where I would be without that help!! </p>