https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 17:55:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31681 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 20:34:58 +0000 sulli301 31681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents were never good about giving allowance. I remember it would sort of come &amp; go...same with my chores! My parents did not teach me to manage money well &amp; spoiled me quite a bit by always giving me money whenever I needed it, even in high school &amp; college when I had jobs. My DHs parents just gave him &amp; my BIL money when they needed it &amp; that backfired for my DH since his brother will ASK for things &amp; my DH won't. I am not sure what we will do for DD but we will give some sort of allowance &amp; have some sort of chore chart as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31641 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 19:40:43 +0000 Rubies 31641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got an allowance but if I needed money I had to explain why I needed it. If it was reasonable, then they'd give it to me. I was forced to save all monetary gifts in the bank.</p> <p>I'm not going to give my children an allowance and they will be expected to do chores for free. But if they want to make money by doing something extra around the house, then I'll encourage that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31600 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 18:20:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 31600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, I guess I'm one of the only ones that got paid for chores, haha! We got our "base" allowance (I think it was $20/week in middle school?) and then my mom had a list of household tasks with dollar values next to them. If you did the whole list you could earn like $100! Our friends were allowed to "work" too and got paid. It got household chores done without complaints, but I don't think it taught us the right values... all of us are super messy and lazy!</p> <p>Starting sophomore year of high school, I got a part-time job of my own volition, and so I didn't get allowance any more. My parents still paid for things I needed, like toiletries and new clothes for school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31559 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 15:44:25 +0000 Meridian 31559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in middle school I got $5/week, but I had to remember to ask for it on a certain day of the week otherwise I wouldn't get it. I would forget alot and forfeit my allowance that week :T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31467 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 01:55:06 +0000 ladyfingers 31467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got an allowance weekly until I was in high schoolish, then I just got money (within reason) when I needed some, $10 here, $20 there for movies, mall, dinner w/friends, something at school. However, I never did any chores. Seriously. I am an only child and I was pretty damn spoiled in that regard. I think I turned out OK, but it's only been recently that I learned how to manage money, and I'm 31! My dad didn't want me to have a job in high school because he wanted me to focus on my grades. I did get a PT one my senior year to save up some spending money for college. I've never been a good saver, though.</p> <p>We've discussed it and our kids will get a nominal allowance but will have to actually do stuff. Then probably as they get older, some spending cash on a case to case basis, but they will get a PT job in high school and pay for things themselves that way. Unless, I said, their grades start slipping ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-31452 Sun, 11 Dec 2011 00:17:31 +0000 mrsjyw 31452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got $20 on Sundays, for lunch after Church... and we also got lunch money for school during the week. I'd save that, but we didn't really get an "allowance." I remember doing random chores and getting random money. I started to tutor kids in high school for gas money, but my parents always gave it to me when I asked for it sometimes too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30945 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 21:01:30 +0000 L2sweetpea 30945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got an allowance and got money when I asked for it, but we also opened a savings account, and were expected to make regular deposits. Also when I got a job the allowance stopped and when I got a car I was expected to pay the insurance and gas. This definitely began teaching me about budgeting, and I'd say I'm pretty good at it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30936 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:51:04 +0000 sorrycharlie 30936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got an allowance, but if an event came up or the girls were "going to the mall," Dad would give me a $20. I then learned on my own how to budget that money! Especially with friends who's parents set up their own American eagle credit cards (?!).</p> <p>I learned to manage money by watching my dad pay bills. Also by getting myself into a credit card hole. That taught me a TON! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30925 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:47:24 +0000 cyndistar3 30925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not get allowance and the only miney I ever really got was from birthdays or christmas. I think when the kuds get older we will have them work for money aka make a list of chores that they can do each week to earn money and they will get paid for what they did. We wont give them money for all chores just certain ones. I hope to teach them that in life you do have to work to get things and you should also do things just because. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30910 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:41:17 +0000 MsMini 30910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got $1 per week for each year of life, but I was expected to put 1/2 into savings, which my parents had to approve me to access to get into. Once I got a job in high school, my allowance stopped, but I was still expected to put 1/2 of my earnings into savings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30892 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:35:12 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 30892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No allowance for me. My parents believed that we shouldn't get paid for contributing to the household. They felt that since we were all apart of the family we all had to work. We had assigned chores and if they were left undone we got in trouble. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30843 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 20:08:01 +0000 photojane 30843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we were absolutely spoiled, and i think it's the reason we're all three in debt now. yuck. </p> <p>but, hey, at least it was a lesson learned! i'm really hoping to teach my children better money-management strategies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30823 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 19:37:12 +0000 skibobrown 30823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: I really like the idea of a matching savings plan. I hadn't ever thought of including that as part of allowance, but now I think I would seriously consider doing something like that. </p> <p>I did get allowance as a kid. It wasn't a lot, but enough that if I saved it I could eventually get myself something nice. I do remember that my mom gave me a larger allowance if I was purchasing school lunches. When I brought lunches from home then my allowance was less, since I didn't need the $$ for food. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30794 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 18:50:38 +0000 mynoahbear 30794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got an allowance starting in middle school. I don't remember how much it was though. We also got extra money for doing certain chores around the house. But my mom always bought everything for us. In high school, she always gave us extra money if we were going out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30678 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:59:33 +0000 HabesBabe 30678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did in high school and would save it all for prom and other school dances. It didn't teach me much about money because I am HORRIBLE at spending. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30614 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:33:44 +0000 Mrs. Armbender 30614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No and no, chores were not a "job" it was our contibution to the household. Our job was school and we got paid for grades. We actually didn't get any of that money, it was paid to us in savings bonds or into our savings accounts. We got control of those after high school. I still have not touched that money, now it sits in a Roth just waiting for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30609 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:31:45 +0000 mediagirl 30609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an allowance but I don't remember how much it was. I was hooooorrible with money and would spend every dime I had. I was also not thoughtful and spent it all w/o realizing things like Christmas or birthdays were coming up. Ugh, I regret that. Unfortunately I was never taught to save or why I should save money (even though my parents are SO GOOD with their money). I really hope my husband and I can instill a good sense of how to spend money wisely to our children. I'd like to see them save at least a little of every bit they get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30608 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:31:29 +0000 yoursilverlining 30608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. My dad was very vocal growing up that he “wasn’t going to pay his own children to do tasks that we should do as part of a family” (ha!). When we needed money, we had to ask, give our reason, and then we would either get it, or not. Birthday and holiday money was divided up, with a small portion being given to us to keep in our piggy banks, and most of it going straight into our college funds.</p> <p>I don’t think not getting an allowance played a role in my money managing ability. I got my first “real” (aka, not babysitting) job when I was 15 and have been working almost continually since then so I’ve had a source of money since I was a teenager. I was horrible with money in my early 20’s – only learned to manage my finances after really falling and seeing the long term consequences for myself. </p> <p>I don’t know what we will do for allowance yet – probably won’t give one. What we’re most concerned with is making sure LO learns to give back, both financially and in terms of time/resources. Its important for us to donate at least 10% of our income to charity, either through $ donations or in-kind (buying food for the animal shelter, etc.). We plan to start with LO giving to charity as early as possible (with LO using our money, obviously). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30605 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:29:21 +0000 mekarual 30605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a small allowance (can't recall the amount) that was not linked to chores. We could however earn extra allowance if we helped with bigger house projects.</p> <p>I think for our daughter we will do $1 for every year of age, every week. We won't give her actual cash, but write it down in a book where she can save and make withdrawals if she wants a special toy. </p> <p>I think it's really important to teach kids from an early age that money doesn't just magically appear, it's something that we (Mom and Dad) work hard to earn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30602 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:27:46 +0000 heffalump 30602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't. My mom tried making me do chores for one but it didn't work because 1. They gave me money when I needed it and 2. I always hated the chores and I think my mom just got too tired to fight with me about it every day.</p> <p>We haven't discussed what we'll do, but I assume it'll be chores for allowance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30595 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:26:11 +0000 eupenmalmody 30595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents tried to give me an allowance of $20 a week when I was 8 or so - but that failed miserably as they always just gave me $ when I needed it. In college however, they gave me $80 a week allowance. I lived in the dorms and had a meal plan, so the $80 just went to fun stuff (my parents bought me my clothing on school breaks etc), but that $80 a week, really helped me to both have fun and learn to manage my money. Only once did I have to call my mom and say that I had no money in my checking account and needed more - that was a lesson I've never forgotten and have made sure to never repeat it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30591 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:24:38 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though we had an allowance, it didn't help much with knowing how to deal with money. I'm 28 and in debt. ;)</p> <p>But It did make me clean more! which is what my parents wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30578 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:16:20 +0000 mrbee 30578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an allowance for a year or two, and saved almost every penny of it. Once I turned 10 though, I got a job delivering papers and the allowance stopped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30576 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:15:50 +0000 tequiero21 30576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: wow your parents are very financially responsible and seems to have taught you well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30575 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:14:34 +0000 DillonLion 30575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was little I used to get $1 a week and saved $104 dollars that way!!!</p> <p>My mom was on disability, so every month she'd get a check for herself and an additional check for me. While I was in high school, she would just deposit that money into my bank account for spending money for the month. It was about $600 a month. I paid for all of my "expenses" that way: gas in my car, going out with friends, etc. Honestly, I wish I had saved even some portion of it, but instead I just spent all of it each month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30572 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:12:52 +0000 chopsuey 30572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: good call not paying for household chores and to help out! gonna have to figure this out with the hubs<br /> @tequiero21: we're going to teach our kids to tithe 10%, save 10% and they can do what they want with the rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30569 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:11:20 +0000 tequiero21 30569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i actually did get an allowance. i can't recall how much, but in high school, i think it was about $20/week or so. maybe a bit more because i had to buy metrocards and all to get to high school. and also pay our carpool when i hit junior and senior year. i don't think i got it in elementary school. in jhs, i may have gotten like $10 or so a week so i'd buy snacks and lunch and all.</p> <p>i want to give my kids allowance but not sure how my hubby feels about that. i don't think he wanted to. </p> <p>i do want to teach my kids about saving, tithing, etc. though. something i was never really taught. (my dad used to give me $1 for church) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30568 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:11:05 +0000 Maysprout 30568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I might think about it when she's in middle school before she's old enough to start working but is old enough to have her own tastes and want a little independence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30558 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:06:48 +0000 Mrs.KMM 30558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents gave all of us an allowance growing up. We got $1 for each year old we were each week (so when we were 6 years old, we got $6 a week, etc).</p> <p>This allowance was not tied to chores or helping around the house. You do those things because you are a part of the family and help out, not to earn money.</p> <p>We were required to save at least half of our allowance (although we usually ended up saving most of it). Once we started getting a decent chunk in our savings accounts, our parents helped up open mutual funds. Also, whenever we deposited or withdrew money, my parents helped us fill out an account register (which we had to balance) so we always knew exactly how much we had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-an-allowance-growing-up#post-30552 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:04:34 +0000 chopsuey 30552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got allowance growing up. My husband aka child of privilege, got $100 a WEEK!<br /> We'll probably give our kids money if they do chores around the house or wash our cars? </p>