https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 15:54:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070923 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 17:24:49 +0000 sweetiek 1070923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get asked this with my first. I did with my 2nd but I got pregnant at 9 mo postpartum so I guess I didn't think it was rude. I mean that isn't much time between kids, and does seem a little crazy :) He wasn't exactly planned either, my period hadn't come back so I didn't really think I could get pregnant. Maybe that's why I didn't think it was rude. I am pregnant again now with #3 and my other kids are 3 and 1.5, and I have got the question a few times. But again I think having kids close together like that causes people to wonder if you really wanted to have that many little kids at once, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070919 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 17:14:17 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1070919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: oh that's a good one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070761 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 15:37:56 +0000 PawPrints 1070761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say "Are you kidding? I'm still trying to figure out who the father is."</p> <p>(We've been married over 3 years.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070377 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:44:16 +0000 Mrsbells 1070377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: a few people asked me and i found it to be a bit off putting that they would ask that. Why does it matter to anyone if my baby was planned or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070358 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:34:21 +0000 HabesBabe 1070358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, by my MIL after we told them about LO#2! We're in our early 30s, LO#1 is almost 14 months old... I mean, it doesn't seem like it was an accident to me! LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070307 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 12:18:22 +0000 nana87 1070307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not yet, but we haven't told many people yet and most of the ones we have told knew we were trying. Dh's family didnt know we were ttc but we've been married 3 years so they were wondering if it would happen soon, and mil had a feeling i was pregnant before we told her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070250 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:45:01 +0000 californiadreams 1070250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: we were also in our early 30s.</p> <p>i was taken aback by the question. partly because our pregnancy wasn't planned perhaps? we ended up telling alot of people it was "semi planned" how else do you explain NTNP </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070244 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:43:20 +0000 californiadreams 1070244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, we got asked by every single person we told except for 2 people. lol, but i am sure those 2 people were thinking it, it's just not in personality to ask such a question and i had fun never telling them. and we were also together 6 years, married over 1, living together for about 2... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070237 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:42:00 +0000 littlek 1070237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I think because I was 32 and DH and I had been together for a long time, no one was surprised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1070209 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 11:30:55 +0000 PurplePeony 1070209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but we've been married a few years and were open about the fact that we wanted kids at some point. I think people tend to assume we were trying because the question I've gotten most often is whether it took us very long to get pregnant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069938 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 10:00:24 +0000 MamaMagpie 1069938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got it so much! From people who were virtually strangers! Um, hello, I'm 30 years old and have been married for nearly four years! And what the heck do people expect you to say, "nope, it was an accident"?! Yeesh, this really surprised and annoyed me... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069929 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 09:57:23 +0000 Anagram 1069929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: nope. Prolly cause we are old and had just gotten married. People probably assumed the opposite, that we were desperate to start trying because of our age! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069921 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 09:54:50 +0000 BananaPancakes 1069921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much by everyone we knew. I think we were so private about the concept of us even having kids, that people were genuinely shocked when we announced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069875 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 09:37:53 +0000 avivoca 1069875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe a few times? Never by anyone I actually know. More often than not, I heard, "We thought you guys were never having kids!" since we waited five and a half years after getting married to get pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069759 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 08:54:49 +0000 autumnlove 1069759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, lots! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069703 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 08:31:16 +0000 Mrs. J 1069703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, including by my teenage students!!!! I got "when did that happen" and "was it planned" from the same kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069700 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 08:30:34 +0000 blackbird 1069700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, often. When I was having a teeth cleaning, even the dentist said, "uh, is this a good thing?"...</p> <p>next time, my stock response is going to be, "that is really none of your business and shame on you for asking" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069698 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 08:30:05 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1069698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: LOL - I started a thread for the same thing a few weeks ago. I'm still stunned that people will ask that question, like it's any of their business! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069692 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 08:26:46 +0000 GrapeCrush 1069692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For both yes! I got pregnant 3 months after our wedding and them again at 6 months pp. so you know for the second one I was asked it a lot more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069572 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 07:36:34 +0000 MrsTiz 1069572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah a few coworkers did, and my FIL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069564 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 07:33:19 +0000 MrsRcCar 1069564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was pregnant with N people asked because I was in college if he was planned. Most people don't know that we are expecting number 2 yet so I am sure people will be asking a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069502 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 07:06:43 +0000 edelweiss 1069502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>one person did, but it didn't bother me too much. if everyone was asking i would probably get a bit offended--that can be very personal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069494 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 07:03:21 +0000 Tundra Daisy 1069494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a good answer is 'well you can never really plan these things' Lol! My friend once told me she was asked by a co worker in a not nice work place and that's the answer she gave! Thought it was a very clever answer.. doesn't give much away! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069490 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 06:59:35 +0000 Dandelion 1069490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It didn't happen when I was pregnant with S. I haven't announced this one, yet, so we'll see how it goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1069485 Fri, 06 Sep 2013 06:56:08 +0000 lamariniere 1069485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first, yes. DH and I had only been together, ahem, a few months when I got pregnant. But I knew from day 1 that he was it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1068828 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 20:25:06 +0000 beachbee 1068828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I was pregnant with multiples so I didn't get the "was it planned" questions too often, instead I got "did that happen naturally" and "does that run in your family" ALOT. To the point where I was super annoyed and would respond with all sorts of things that would throw them off. To me, asking someone if their pregnancy was planned or if they had to use interventions is so rude, but I've come to realize most people have no filter :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1068699 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 20:04:02 +0000 Bao 1068699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes several times. It doesn't usually bother me though. It's just kinda nosy lol ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1068698 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 20:04:01 +0000 Boheme 1068698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was asked twice. I was nice about it once ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1068693 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 20:03:37 +0000 Pink Champagne 1068693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such a weird question. I was 31 and married for over two years when I got pregnant, so no one asked me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-get-asked-if-your-pregnancy-was-planned#post-1068683 Thu, 05 Sep 2013 20:01:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 1068683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only once I've read about it on here so much I actually expected it more </p>