https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 23 Jun 2026 04:31:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651507 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 20:40:18 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2651507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have a written plan, but my midwives and my doula were informed of my wishes. My husband and I had discussed it thoroughly as well, so he was there to advocate for me if needed. Thankfully, I wasn't pushed to do anything I didn't want, and everyone was very helpful/supportive/wonderful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651484 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 19:16:10 +0000 SweetiePie 2651484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: I'm just curious why they liked it so much? Because it was short? Or was it the content they liked?</p> <p>I did not have one. I just knew I wanted an epidural and I was willing to wait till I couldn't stand it anymore. That was it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651478 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:40:40 +0000 Cole 2651478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really, I did look for a long time though to find a practice and a place to give birth (birth center in a hospital) that followed all the things I would have wanted in a birth plan as standard practice. So things like skin to skin, delayed cord clamping, no iv, movement etc were all the norm and it made it really easy to slip the birth plan. Technically, they also had us full out a one page both plan but I there wasn't anything earth shattering on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651465 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 18:05:55 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 2651465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope -- with neither birth. Failed induction with my first leading to a c-section (not much to do there). Second delivery will be at a very baby-friendly pro-VBAC hospital so anything I'd want to include in a birth plan is already standard operating procedure there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651462 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 17:55:40 +0000 JenGirl 2651462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! It really helped me think through all the different parts of labor and how I hoped they would go. I was hoping to go unmedicated but realize that things don't always go according to plan and you don't get to decide everything. So, my birth plan included preferences if I went unmedicated, if I got an epidural or if I ended up needing a c-section. It worked out great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651400 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 15:07:32 +0000 catlady 2651400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I wanted a natural birth using hypnobabies, the tub, etc. Of course as soon as I was able to, I ended up asking for an epidural. I'm pretty sure the nurse laughed at me but I didn't care. No regrets either, the epidural was wonderful and my labor and birth was a very positive experience.</p> <p>This time, my birth plan is to get the epidural. That is basically the whole plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651367 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 14:14:42 +0000 snowjewelz 2651367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No... I was induced so I wasn't really sure what's going to go down. My only request was epidural asap haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651214 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 08:53:38 +0000 looch 2651214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of...I had done some research and made a list, but when it actually came down to it, having a written birth plan would have not been useful. I delivered abroad and I asked around and no one does such a thing.</p> <p>It was more for my peace of mind and mental preparations so I knew what would happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651140 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 04:44:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2651140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two. My initial one was for the birth I planned for and then once I had a scheduled cesarean I revamped it. If we have another I will create one with preferences for both outcomes VBAC or cesarean from the beginning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651132 Fri, 11 Nov 2016 02:11:27 +0000 mamainthesun 2651132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an idea of how I wanted my birth to go (if possible of course). Didn't really have to share it because the clinic more or less functioned like that anyway. Less medicated possible, up on a table only for pushing etc. I was very satisfied about how if went, mostly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651119 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 23:55:04 +0000 youboots 2651119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes it was less than a page. Many nurses said it was the best one they had seen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651118 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 23:44:19 +0000 Corduroy 2651118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had one for both births. My HMO asks us to to fill it out. I was really surprised with LO2, they asked me to fill it out during my glucose test. When is that - 20 something weeks? It seemed really early. </p> <p>My labor with LO1 was really long. Everyone that attended to me read it. As they read it I remember them all basically summing up with "ok, unmedicated." I got a lot of grief for having a doula though. With LO2 I was 10cm when I walked in. We walked into the hospital with only my birth plan and a water bottle. Someone threw my birth plan across the room. I delivered. After I met the staff one of them grabbed my birth plan, glanced at it and laughed that I got exactly what I wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651108 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 23:19:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 2651108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first, yes- mostly I just wanted no drugs or interventions, if possible, and wanted dh to tell me the sec. everything else was hospital policy anyway. But I typed it and gave it to the nurse when I got there. </p> <p>With my second I pretty much wanted the same things but knew it was hospital policy and that writing it down wasn't necessary. </p> <p>I never got any grief or eye rolls that I saw! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651090 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 22:23:40 +0000 jaguar 2651090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My plan with both was to not HAVE a plan, haha.</p> <p>This time around, I did tell my OB my loose 'goals' for labour - which was to start natural, then build up to gas, and get epi if I needed it. I was worried as it was an induction. Thankfully, the labour took off and went smoothly (and FAST - super fast!) and we didn't even end up with the epi! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651082 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 22:01:30 +0000 Miss Ariel 2651082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never had an official one or anything written out. But I did know I didn't want an epidural and was successful with that both times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651037 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 20:32:53 +0000 peaches1038 2651037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did and all of my providers were supportive of my choices. Everything went according to my "plan". Drug free, intermittent monitoring, immediate skin to skin and nursing, delayed cord clamping, no bath. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651029 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 20:16:56 +0000 pachamama 2651029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My birth plan was as natural as possible but epidural if necessary! Skin to skin immediately after, no formula anywhere, only certain visitors, etc. My midwife was great and went over it with me, and as things progressed quickly, encouraged me to go natural. I ended up not having time for the epidural, got the baby out in about five pushes (he was 3 weeks early, 5lb) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651021 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 19:54:05 +0000 littleblessings 2651021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my two my birth plan was epidural. That was the only thing I was sure of. This time I want to try unmedicated not sure if I'll follow through though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651016 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 19:50:19 +0000 MrsB2012 2651016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My birth plan was 'go with the flow.' All I wanted was a safe delivery that ended with a baby in my arms and it didn't matter how we got to that point. It worked well for me and I was happy with both my deliveries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651013 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 19:46:25 +0000 MoonMoon 2651013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I shared it with DH, my doulas, and my OB long before labor, and they were all on board. And then at the hospital I had a copy for the nurses, but I don't think they read it! Fortunately, everything went great, I'm glad we were all on the same page. To me, a birth plan is about being informed and feeling like an active participant in birth, not the document of entitlement some people make it out to be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2651008 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 19:43:18 +0000 erinbaderin 2651008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sure did, but it all got thrown out the window when both my kids were breech and I had two scheduled c sections instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2650996 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 19:16:43 +0000 codeitall 2650996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine consisted of an epidural when things got too painful. Everything else was negotiable. Certainly made things easier since I didn't have any expectations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-a-birth-plan-2#post-2650947 Thu, 10 Nov 2016 18:15:00 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2650947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did with my first but was too timid to share it with anyone and since I was induced, it wouldn't have gone according to plan anyway. With my second I had hopes but no plans and I felt a little less shocked by how it went. Did you have a birth plan? </p>