https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 17:44:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694896 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 08:49:43 +0000 GrapeCrush 1694896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Danizaur: word! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694854 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 08:36:29 +0000 yin 1694854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No episiotomy, and I had a small tear that didn't require any stitches. I didn't tear with my second either, and he came a lot faster than my first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694810 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 08:11:53 +0000 mrsjyw 1694810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I had one. My OB typically doesn't but after pushing for two hours, I was telling them to cut me open! (I meant my belly, but yano, whatever works! :P)... DS was born with 14 inch head. I have no regrets. And healed normally with no issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694802 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 08:06:42 +0000 pmerr 1694802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I tore though. Like pretty bad. DS just slipped right out after his head came. They couldn't have me pause to get him situated! I guess they give episiotomies less often because the body heals better to natural tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694751 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 07:22:00 +0000 ChitownRo 1694751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe I had one but I had bad tearing (extensive 2nd degree and now have perineal scar tissue that makes sex painful. Blah). I hope this doesn't scare you. I am the only lucky one of my friends with this problem </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694702 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 06:11:47 +0000 blackbird 1694702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, my OB said it's only something she does when it is absolutely necessary and rarely performs them. She was VERY good about having me labor down, using hot water and other stuff, and slowly pulling E out little by little so that I would minimally tear (i only tore b/c of her nose, dammit!). Only two stitches for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694676 Thu, 12 Jun 2014 05:30:25 +0000 ElbieKay 1694676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and I barely tore. My OB wanted to give me one stitch and I freaked out (because even after delivering a baby I am still a baby about medical stuff) and so she left me alone. She massaged me with olive oil while I was pushing and so I think that may have helped me avoid tearing. My OB is my new hero. She was amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694606 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 23:29:47 +0000 lilyann 1694606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and I didn't tear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694605 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 23:26:24 +0000 Pepper 1694605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. The OB did a perineal massage in between pushes. I had a between a 1st and 2nd degree tear, though. Nothing awful, though it was the most painful part about recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694585 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 22:54:18 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1694585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had one, and a forceps delivery, and my recovery was a piece of cake. I think because I had an obstetrics surgeon doing my forceps delivery and stitch up, it was very well done. My midwives always seemed very impressed when they checked me down below! I never felt much pain and never had issues sitting for long periods, or any down there stuff.<br /> TMI alert - sex is definitely different since the baby. Feels like the first time!! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694573 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 22:44:56 +0000 Arden 1694573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Yep. I'm not pro or anti episiotomy (I know they are occasionally necessary), but I am extremely pro informed consent. It really bothers me when it happens without permission from the mama, especially in a non-emergent situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694563 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 22:25:01 +0000 bisous 1694563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. My doc told me she very rarely does episiotomies...flash forward to labor and the doc who happened to be in call was begging to give me one. Ugh. I declined and tore naturally. 2nd degree external that was a little painful but ultimately healed up just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694502 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 21:39:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 1694502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: @mrschampagne: I did not realize they "came with the territory" of a vacuum assist? I had a vacuum but no episiotomy- but because I was so freaked out about them I think I mentioned it a bunch of times. </p> <p>@arden: I had a really wonderful birth experience overall but the one and only thing that bothers me is the ob (came in at the end of a midwife delivery bc of heart rate issues) was about to cut me when I managed to push her out. She didn't, so it doesn't mater, but it bugs me a little that she didn't say anything. And that was in a really pro natural birth hospital with midwives and everything. So I agree with your point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694464 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 21:24:05 +0000 mlm2934 1694464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't decide if the feedback has made me feel better or worse about idea, but I appreciate hearing everyone's experiences either way! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694456 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 21:21:33 +0000 birdofafeather 1694456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I pushed for 45 minutes and in my doula's notes, she made a comment about the OB supporting my perineum to help. I had a small peri urethral tear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694440 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 21:12:14 +0000 luckypenny 1694440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No and I didn't tear either.</p> <p>Eta: I remember my doctor saying "these scissors aren't for you!" And I had no idea she even had scissors but it was to cut something for my catheter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694411 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 20:56:23 +0000 mrskc 1694411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't get one and I ended up with a second degree tear. Everything healed up back to normal tho! </p> <p>@nana87: your baby was born en caul ! That's neat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694399 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 20:49:12 +0000 delight 1694399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I didn't have one but had a 2nd degree tear. My recovery was fine, I didn't really notice the tear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694381 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 20:41:23 +0000 hummusgirl 1694381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAZB: My LO had a really pointy head too - my husband was asking the nurses if he needed a helmet on Day 2, the poor thing's head was so misshapen. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694021 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 16:30:49 +0000 DigAPony 1694021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, and I didn't tear either. My midwife used lots of oil and massage to stretch me out as I pushed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1694016 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 16:24:38 +0000 coopsmama 1694016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I did not. I only had a 2nd degree tear despite having a big baby with a big head and recovery was a breeze which I was SO thankful for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693926 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:50:53 +0000 Caly 1693926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't have one, I did tear, though.</p> <p>eta: the recovery was easy, not at all what I had expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693909 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:43:57 +0000 Running Elley 1693909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I didn't have one with either LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693904 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:42:10 +0000 avivoca 1693904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did not have one, but I did have a small 1st degree tear. My birth plan stated that I would prefer to tear naturally. They did a lot of perineal massage to help me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693894 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:36:47 +0000 Kemma 1693894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had one as LO was a ventouse (vacuum) delivery and in my midwife's words - "I didn't want you to wreck your pelvic floor!!"</p> <p>Recovery was excellent and I had several people tell me how neat the stitching was :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693888 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:35:22 +0000 MrsStar 1693888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, and didn't tear thankfully. I had a labial graze though which they usually don't worry about stitches for but because I was a high risk of bleeding they put 2 stitches there for "just in case" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693862 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:23:05 +0000 artsyfartsy 1693862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You all are scaring me! My c-section sounds pretty lovely right now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693851 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:20:02 +0000 loveisstrange 1693851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, because I needed a forceps assist. It really wasn't that bad. The first couple days were the worst. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693822 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:10:03 +0000 Cherrybee 1693822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. That's all I have to say about that!! Except.... I healed fine and its all good. Id have one again if needs be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-an-episiotomy-1/page/2#post-1693804 Wed, 11 Jun 2014 15:04:22 +0000 swedishfish 1693804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My OB wanted to give me one but I refused (several times). R was sunny side up so I pushed for over a total of 3 hours. She finally told me that if I didn't have the baby out soon I was getting one. I got that kid out. I tore naturally (2nd "and a half" degree tear). </p>