https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 23:11:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2512852 Fri, 01 Apr 2016 12:11:50 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 2512852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so stuck right now. Before I had children I wanted a lot, I grew up as an only child and also had some personal tragedies in close friends and family that lead me to want a lot of children...I was up to 9 at one point in my dreams lol I dialed it back to reality after we got married but was always wanting 3 or more and my DH only wanted 2. We compromised on 3 and I thought I was done but I kind of want another now and I dont know what to do about these feelings. Do I even want another one or is it just sadness over moving on past this stage? I dont know </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2508080 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 10:23:53 +0000 BSB 2508080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The same. A complete miracle. After a 3 year struggle with IF and after countless fertility treatments and cycles, we conceived our twins through IVF. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2508078 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 10:21:45 +0000 JenGirl 2508078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband ahs always known he wanted kids. Initially, I think he would have wanted 2-3. I wasn't even sure if I wanted kids. Before we got engaged we agreed on having 1. Now that we've had one, I think my husband has come around and is pro-one-and-done and I'm questioning if we should go for 2. I think we'll probably stay with just our son, but I'm going to get an IUD, so that we can have some time to think about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2508053 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 10:08:41 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2508053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always wanted 2, but a whole lot earlier than we had them. Circumstance gave us the age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2508032 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 09:58:05 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2508032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: LOL! That wasn't a dream, that was a nightmare!! Twin boys, ack!<br /> Three, done at three. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2508010 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 09:41:54 +0000 mrsjyw 2508010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: OMG, so totally random and stalker-ish but I swear I had a dream last night that baby 4 was twin boys! :O :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507993 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 09:31:20 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2507993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always wanted four and are 75% there. DH is currently thinking three is enough but I don't feel like she is my last baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507983 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 09:26:15 +0000 mrsjyw 2507983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were always 2-3. We have two now and will decide about ttc for #3 when ds2 is 1! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507920 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 08:36:32 +0000 avivoca 2507920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted two. Then I wanted three. Now I'm pregnant with #2 and we are most likely done after this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507913 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 08:31:40 +0000 milano14 2507913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have always been 2-3. Right now we have 2. I miscarried this past fall and we're now debating if we're going to stick with 2 or try for another again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507805 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 06:10:29 +0000 winniebee 2507805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were always 2-3 and I'm pregnant with #3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507798 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 05:53:56 +0000 Adira 2507798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always wanted two and we have two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507796 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 04:56:15 +0000 Ms. RV 2507796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both definitely wanted two, probably three but after seeing how hard pregnancy and post is on us, we'll be stopping at two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507752 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 22:14:29 +0000 gingerbebe 2507752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I thought we'd have 3 or maybe a late 4th via adoption or foster parent. Then we had lots of issues TTC and said if we could have one of each that would be grand. Then I had a terrible first pregnancy and an awful newborn with DS, had a surprise pregnancy now with DS2 due in May (this pregnancy not as bad but still pretty hard on me). I feel like physically I'm done with pregnancy and newborns, since they will be 20 months apart, but we may still have a 3rd via adoption or foster down the road.</p> <p>So I guess we will end up with 2 boys in the end, with a possible 3rd later on but not through my vadge of courage unless Jesus has more surprises in store for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507688 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 20:04:38 +0000 ladybee 2507688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really want three but pregnancy and post is harder for me than I expected. I get horrible PPD/PPA and I just can't put my family through that again. Even if I'm willing, DH is not. We are done at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507661 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 19:28:53 +0000 hb3233 2507661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@delight: :heart: :heart: Thank you for sharing. Best of :goodluck: completing your family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507638 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 18:54:30 +0000 arosebyany 2507638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: same. </p> <p> I will be stopping at one, raising a human being is hard damnit! Lol I was always having 2, but that was before the hardest baby ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507579 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 16:43:14 +0000 BabyMats 2507579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hb3233: thanks! :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507578 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 16:39:38 +0000 jaguar 2507578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Fewer because of infertility/loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507575 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 16:35:36 +0000 hb3233 2507575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! @BabyMats: Happy birthday to your twins! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507564 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 15:22:56 +0000 BabyMats 2507564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I got pregnant with lo 1 we said we would stop at 2. No matter the sex . But when I got pregnant the 2nd time it was twins so that choice of 3 was made for us. My twins are 1 today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507553 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 14:53:01 +0000 ShootingStar 2507553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been fairly consistent with wanting two. I'm about halfway through pregnancy with number two and we are done after this, 100%. I can't do pregnancy again and I'm not even sure at this point how I'll handle two, much less three. Even if something tragic happens this time, I'm done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507549 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 14:45:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 2507549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not 100% sure the baby factory is closed, but actually that's exactly where I was before having kids. We always said probably two, maybe but probably not 3. We have two, and are probably done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507531 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 13:53:58 +0000 delight 2507531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't done yet but it will be fewer by circumstance- fertility related. We always wanted 3 and there is no way we will get there. I'd be thrilled with 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507524 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 13:38:30 +0000 Cherrybee 2507524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are stopping at two, after this baby is born. I always wanted three but, after having my first, I realised just how tough having children was - for a while, I wasn't sure we would have another at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-fewer-the-same-number-or-more-kids-compared-to-your-ideal-number-before-ttc#post-2507520 Sun, 27 Mar 2016 13:14:13 +0000 hb3233 2507520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the baby factory is closed...another post got me wondering how closely people's family size corresponds to what they thought they wanted initially...and how often this is a result of choice versus intervening circumstances (financial, fertility-related, unplanned pregnancies, etc) </p>