https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 16:03:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1167329 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 21:00:40 +0000 Mrs. Train 1167329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I had a ton of menus where I was in tears at the thought of having my three boys. As far as the hospital stay goes. I was way more sad about being separated from my oldest before the actual time. Once I was at the hospital I kind of realized I had a job to do there and my son was well taken care of. He may miss me while I am gone but he probably would not remember. It may sound selfish but I also used that time to really bond with my twins. Once we left the hospital it would be about bonding as a family so I made sure to enjoy those quiet moments in the hospital. I know it's really scary to add another child especially when they are close together but I promise you will find a groove!! I also had a mini panic attack the night before I had my daughter. I just kept thinking what did we do? But it all works out. After a few weeks it just becomes the new norma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1167310 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 20:49:19 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1167310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, oh yes. I was like, "Dear god what have we done?"</p> <p>It all worked out ok, and we got into a new groove pretty quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1167281 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 20:33:44 +0000 GrapeCrush 1167281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Honeybee: one DD was here, she fit perfectly! It was like she was always here<br /> Plus, your heart will melt a thousand times over when you see your son interact with her, mine does every day :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1167229 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 19:55:53 +0000 MamaBehr 1167229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: It is a lot scarier in your head than it will actually be. Mine are 23 months apart, so a slightly different experience, but over all it is so worth it watching your children be siblings. Just know that every cry might not be addressed immediately, someone might have to wait sometimes and that is ok! And, have confidence in your second time mommy hood, you have some tricks up your sleeve that you didn't have the first time around and that makes it easier! I'm pregnant with my third, and something that I have decided is really important to me is making sure that I set time aside, weekly, to spend one on one time with my other two. So, maybe that will help too, knowing you still get some time one on one with your DS :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1167226 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 19:55:03 +0000 Honeybee 1167226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually think the worrying was much worse than the actual experience of having two kids. I was very panicky and emotional at the end of my second pregnancy, thinking I had ruined our perfect family of three and thinking of all the adjustments and difficulties DD would have to go through. Once DS was born, though, everything felt so natural and easy; we felt complete. :) and the adjustment period was not at all as hard as I thought it would be. Sure we had difficult moments, but DD was totally enamoured with her little brother, and he was an easy baby, so it wasn't bad at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1166973 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:28:40 +0000 chopsuey 1166973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was really nervous and anxious the month leading up to DS' birth because DH was traveling and I was dilated and effaced a lot at 36 weeks! I had also never been away from DD for longer than a few hours..<br /> Everything went well though and she was fine without me!<br /> DS was born at 3pm and I sent DH home a few hours later so he could do dinner and bedtime with DD. Spending the night at the hospital alone with my son wasn't bad at all. We both slept well and it was nice to have quiet time to bond with him. </p> <p>I could go on and on about the first month of life with 2, but.. try not to worry! Everything will be fine and all of you will adjust to life as a family of 4! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1166907 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 18:00:27 +0000 Running Elley 1166907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarbear: Thank you so much! That actually makes me feel a lot better! I think I'll try to focus on looking forward to things like that. I can't wait until he can be my little helper :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1166847 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:22:27 +0000 GrapeCrush 1166847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was flipping the eff out before DD was set to arrive(as you know mine are 15 months apart). I would think 'what did we get ourselves in to?' But I was so beyond thrilled that we were having another healthy little one. I can assure you, it's not AS scary as you'd think :) there is a huge adjustment period, but it gets easier everyday. Try to involve E with things with his sister. DS knows that after I change her diaper, we need to throw it out. So now he gets so excited to throw out her diaper, like he's helping me. You'll do great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-moments-of-panic-before-lo-2#post-1166832 Tue, 22 Oct 2013 17:14:11 +0000 Running Elley 1166832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm 35 weeks pregnant and I also have a 12.5 month old. I had a lot of contractions (that felt pretty real) last weekend (they've since stopped) and I think that they were a little bit of a wakeup call. She's coming SOON.</p> <p>Since then I've been kind of panicking. I'm excited about baby sister coming but I'm soooo nervous about how it relates to E. I'm going to miss him so much while I'm in the hospital...I've never been away from him overnight and I'm already completely freaked out about it. What if (heaven forbid) something happens to me? I'm terrified of him being left without me.</p> <p>And then I'm scared about how he's going to handle the new baby. DH is only able to take a couple of days off after she's born and then it'll be just me and the two of them. He can be very clingy (obviously...he's a toddler) and I'm scared that he's going to constantly be sad that I can't pick him up right away whenever he wants to be held by me. I don't want him to resent me for having to take care of the baby too... In my head I know that he's not going to remember the adjustment stage later because he's barely 1 but I just don't want him to spend long amounts of time unhappy.</p> <p>Soooooooo since last weekend I've been having moments when all of these fears completely overwhelm me and, as excited as I am, I am so completely nervous!</p> <p>Any reassurance or tips on dealing with the panic are welcome! </p>