https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 19:27:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues/page/2#post-650353 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 15:42:12 +0000 yoursilverlining 650353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I’m pretty much exactly the same situation as you. I saw my OB soon after LO was born and was put on Zoloft for PPD and also saw a therapist. I still take Zoloft and I feel like I could definitely get off of it now (and could have gotten off of it a few months ago), but my OB advised the PPD can strike within the first year so I’ll take it until LO is over a year old just to be on the safe side. </p> <p>I've had depression in the past, and there was absolutely no way I was going down that road again so I was extremely proactive about talking to my doctor about what were “baby blues” and what was PPD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues/page/2#post-650330 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 15:34:16 +0000 lemondrop 650330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I think what I went through was fairly normal for being a new mom. I had my ups and downs (early days in the NICU and breastfeeding mainly) and was very stressed and overwhelmed at times, but nothing a little time and support couldn't take care of. I was definitely concerned about the possibility of it happening, and feel very blessed that it went as well as it could have.</p> <p>ETA- we said no to most visitors except for our parents and siblings for the first 3 weeks. That would have stressed me out too much </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues/page/2#post-650305 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 15:25:23 +0000 Mrs. Twine 650305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T-Mom; I know many people do. The fact that it is a cultural tradition was what saved us. That was the only way they would let us take it. I think it's an awesome tradition-- the idea of something growing right along with baby and nourished by the same source... so fitting. I would have done that had I not thought that dehydrating it/eating it would be a good idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-649788 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 12:33:41 +0000 DillonLion 649788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first week I cried constantly. The second week I cried most of the time. The third week I asked my doctor for a Rx of Zoloft. I've barely cried since then. But now I don't know if I would have felt better on my own around that same time, or if the Zoloft is just doing its job. But I feel like things ain't broke, so I'm not going to rock the boat right now. </p> <p>My mom had severe PPD and I'm very cautious about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-649772 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 12:29:24 +0000 mrsjyw 649772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yep, second wk, i'd just have tears fall down my face a few nights in a row. for no reason.</p> <p>i cried the day we had to give DS formula while my milk came in.</p> <p>i also cried when i saw our yorkie because i felt guilty that i hadn't given him attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648630 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 20:13:55 +0000 prettylizy 648630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was all over the place emotionally and had more than a few breakdowns. When my sister booked her train ticket to go home I had a complete meltdown and she changed her ticket for stay one more day! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648628 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 20:10:33 +0000 T-Mom 648628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had PPD with my first. It was a rough first 6 months and I'm glad I finally got help. With #2, I didn't do anything differently except know what to expect and cut myself a lot of slack, and I don't remember any kind of baby blues at all.</p> <p>@Monkula: we actually did bury the placenta in our yard, haha. It's a tradition in DH's culture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648396 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:42:53 +0000 sarac 648396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I said no. I should note, though, that when my daughter started doing some truly terrible wakeups at about 7 months (5-7 times a night), I had them then. And now that I get to sleep all night, I see how badly it affects me when I don't. Interrupted sleep is a huge depression trigger for many people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648357 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:14:29 +0000 Kemma 648357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JerricaBenton: yup, that's about how I felt!</p> <p>I definitely remember getting the day two blues, I sat in my hospital bed with DD crying my eyes out and eating chocolate biscuits at 6 in the morning! I was also really emotional and irrational on days when I hadn't eaten enough or had enough food for about three months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648345 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:08:19 +0000 Rubies 648345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and was diagnosed with post-partum depression. I was prescribed medication but I opted (after much thought, prayer, and counselling) to not take it. I believed that it had to do with a colicky newborn, high expectations on myself to be a great mom from the get go, and a tough recovery. It lasted for about 3.5 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648280 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:24:39 +0000 Ree723 648280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so but if so, they were very short lived. Three hours after giving birth, we'd just moved to our postnatal room and DH left to go get the baby's bag from the car. As soon as he left, DD started crying and I just lost it. I was sobbing uncontrollably, wondering what I was supposed to do with this baby, and feeling so incredibly scared. DH came back and took the baby for the night so I could sleep, and after one good sleep (six hours with one quick wake to feed DD!) I was completely fine. I don't know if I got it all out then or what but I didn't have any baby blues after that. Hormones are some crazy, crazy things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648145 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 14:23:39 +0000 autumn865 648145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsjets: I felt the same way! People would tell me in the beginning to "enjoy every moment" and that made me feel like garbage because I was just so overridden with anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648111 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:41:51 +0000 BananaPancakes 648111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: Ugh, visitors were the worst sometimes. And we had a couple just drop by, and I literally could not handle it. Full blown meltdowns. I would have to leave and go sit outside by myself to calm down. Though crying uncontrollably was the quickest way to get my FIL and his awful wife to leave, so that was a plus. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648109 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 13:40:43 +0000 Mrs. Twine 648109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did both times. I had stressful births, and with my first I had a low milk supply and had to supplement, which I felt awful about. I wanted things to be different the next time, so with daughter #2 I actually dehydrated and made smoothies with my placenta. We had a heck of a time getting the hospital to release it to us, but finally we said we wanted to plant a tree over it, and they thought we were weird fringe people, but they gave it to us. It helped big time, at least that's how it seemed. Even though that birth was more stressful in many ways I had an easier time. It does also help lots to have a supportive partner, which I had the second time around but not the first. Also, the placenta is supposed to help with lactation. I can't say if it did for sure, but I did not have to supplement with my second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648048 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 12:58:17 +0000 Maysprout 648048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily no. I felt loopy from being sleep deprived and def hormonal but I almost felt like I had adrenaline surges. I was really lucky though and had family who brought meals when they came, we had lots of meals frozen, DH took 2 weeks off of work, it was super nice weather (not to hot or cold) so we got out of the house a lot, baby started sleeping 6 hour stretches pretty early on, and I had decided not to work for awhile so I was in a really non-stressed frame of mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-648002 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 12:21:35 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 648002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i definitely had baby blues and like @JerricaBenton: said i think it was a combo of the sleep deprivation, stress, AND hormones. I know from being in school for years and pulling all nighters what effect sleep deprivation can have for a few days, never mind weeks! I look back on those first 6 - 8 weeks and they are a blur. I think the fact that they are a blur is the only reason i want to have another child! It was hard!! Luckily, like you, I had DH attend the class with me and he was VERY supportive, kind and understanding and did everything within in his power to make things easier for me. I think his goal was to not let baby blues turn into PPD, and thankfully it didn't. One thing that helped for sure was that L started STTN at 8 weeks. I can't be sure how long i would have felt that way if the sleep deprivation continued for months like some people have to deal with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647935 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 11:34:38 +0000 owlmom 647935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is definitely not a new phenomenon. My grandmother had debilitating postpartum depression - it was so bad that my grandfather had to take leave from his job with no pay for several months, and that was in the 1950's. I had some mild baby blues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647916 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 11:22:42 +0000 pinkb 647916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep I cried everyday when the sun went down like pp have mentioned. I had no control over it so I just cried as long as i needed to, DH was very supportive and understanding. Mine only lasted about a week but that was a tough week to get thru. I couldn't even really tell you why or what was going thru my mind cause it was just a completely overwhelming feeling of everything that was going to happen/ change. It seemed to really help to get out of the house and get some sun. So i would walk a few houses down and back or sit on the back patio in the sun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647853 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 10:45:56 +0000 photojane 647853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I was under the impression that every new mom experienced it to some degree. The hormones are out of control. I felt like I had no control over my emotions. For the first two weeks the highs were really high, and the lows pretty low. I cried a lot. I was worse when I was alone - I wept in the shower. Thankfully by week three I was mostly back to normal, but I'm still more emotional than ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647834 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 10:35:30 +0000 cascademom 647834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had bouts of it since LO was born. The worst was when MIL visited. It was all about her drama, etc. I felt like I had no one in my corner, not even my husband. Nobody seemed to take into account that I was 8 weeks postpartum and breastfeeding. When the drama ramped up, LO's and mine's health suffered emotionally and physically. I'm fearing our upcoming trip for these reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647823 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 10:29:30 +0000 Springtime 647823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cried a lot the first week. I was so overwhelmed with being a new mom and the changes it brings. I was sleep deprived and in a lot of pp pain down there. I remember wanting to go back to being pregnant bc I couldn't handle having a newborn. It took me scout 2 weeks to get over it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647821 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 10:23:25 +0000 rachiecakes 647821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>everything stressed me out. breastfeeding, visitors, calming DS when he cried, the lack of sleep. I cried and cried.<br /> It took about 4-6 weeks for me to be happy. I never thought of it as the 'baby blues', I just chalked it up to learning how to do everything and being physically exhausted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647809 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 10:19:06 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 647809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bree72: I'm with you. I basically cried every day for a month or more. Visitors stressed me out like crazy and I just wanted to be alone with my little family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647769 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:53:52 +0000 Mrsjets 647769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I was emotional - I loved the baby but I wasn't happy like my DH and family for the first couple weeks. Happiness creeped in slowly and by 3 or 4 weeks ppd I finally felt like we were so blessed. </p> <p>What was the worst was other people's advice or helpful hints on being a mother - they always made me feel like I was being judged. I would excuse myself and cry in the bathroom after those conversations. Even though I knew I was being irrational, I couldn't help the tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647731 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:36:03 +0000 birdofafeather 647731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but lots of hormones running around definitely cried with the enormity of it all. It wasn't daily though and very intermittent. But it's a huge change so I can't totally understand how and why it hits others harder! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647710 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:25:39 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 647710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: I thought going from 1-2 was initially a much harder adjustment than 0-1.... But it got easier fairly quickly (though it may have played a role). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647700 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:21:14 +0000 travelgirl1 647700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I'd class what I felt as baby blues, but I was very teary. I remember welling up leaving the hospital, just because someone told me how cute A was, ha ha. I felt very happy and totally over the moon, but I used to feel guilty if I forgot to do something, and it would make very tearful. I never classed it as baby blues though as I never felt sad or scared or anxious. We also had a lot of health issues with A that gave me plenty to cry about, no family in the same country for support, and DH had just lost his job, so there was good reason to cry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647698 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:19:43 +0000 JessiBee 647698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. I cried almost every night the first couple weeks, about breast feeding, being a mom, lack of sleep.... But by 2-2.5 weeks after birth, I was basically fine. My husband was amazing! I had had him read up on PPD, and basically said to him, "tell me if I need to call someone, and I will. If you think I'm ok, I trust you." He was great, and at 5 weeks, I'm fine (and the breast feeding and sleep deprivation are MUCH improved!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647691 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:15:43 +0000 Honeybee 647691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: DH thinks I probably had PPA with DD because it lasted quite a while and it was pretty bad at times. With DS, I had a hard time in the hospital, and then I was fine. It was a whole different experience.</p> <p>I know going back to work with M was much harder since you didn't get that bonding time in, plus getting a baby is a really big adjustment! And going for 1 to 2 is a lot of work, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-have-the-baby-blues#post-647672 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 09:03:28 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 647672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: I didn't know that! I thought I'd have it really badly with #1, but I had just 2 really good cries and sailed through the rest. WhT shocked me more was the blues I experienced with #2. I had no idea that there were such strong hormonal shifts in adoption! Going back to work right away didn't help. That took a little longer, but after a couple weeks I was fine. I don't know that I even cried. I just felt shell-shocked. </p>