https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 20:24:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92705 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 13:22:02 +0000 Ms.SK 92705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are all the best!!! Plus my hormones are maing me cry at everything. I went to the Dr. today and will know if I need bedrest this week, so it's just going to get harder. Yikes! Thank you all for the comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92536 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 10:39:22 +0000 LuLu Mom 92536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have always been super independent but my mom told me right away that the best thing to do is start asking the hubby for help now so he gets in the habit of it for when the baby (or in your case babies) come. </p> <p>He's definitely picked up the slack on laundry, cooking, and housework when I'm too tired to do it. It's been so nice to not have to do it all myself like I normally do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92535 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 10:38:37 +0000 mrs. wagon 92535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms.SK: I'm 21 weeks TOMORROW! hurrah! almost due date twins. Except mine's not twins. !! :) congrats.</p> <p>The only thing I will say to your question is... let it go!!! You will have to anyway once the babies come or at some point along the pregnancy, so why not start now, as soon as you've recognized the need? It's only going to get tougher and you will only be more tired and uncomfortable as you go. I know it's tough (I'm an independent chick too) but you will see with every time you ask your hubby for help, how much closer it brings you and how much your trust in him will grow. I look back so fondly of the times Rob Sr. would put my shoes and socks on for me every single time we left the house. He also trimmed me down-there (TMI) before I was due because I wanted to be neat for the delivery. Yes, I cringe at all of that, but I also am so thankful that I could depend on him for those things that I literally could not physically do myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92530 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 10:35:14 +0000 tequiero21 92530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm pretty independent, but i've let it go! i'd rather not be in pain! so if my husband offers to massage me, i'll take it! if he offers to take me to the bathroom (he's offered to CARRY me and i'm over 150 pounds! - k, haven't let him do that yet, i don't want to fall! lol), but i'll take him up on most of his offer. it's your HUBBY! that's his job! to help you through this. i can understand someone else, but let your hubby in! it's only beneficial to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92226 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:42:25 +0000 aunt pol 92226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Be very careful of that independence lark at this time.<br /> My SIL came home from hosp last August with baby, after a difficult long labour followed by an emergency section. We had to nearly tie her to the bed to get the rest she was ordered to have. Her DH was doing fine minding the older kids, on top of the housework etc, but she was mad to help him. What she couldn't see was, while she stayed in bed he could relax and get on with the chores etc, without having to worry about her. When she got up and started trying to do stuff, he couldn't get anything done because he was terrified she'd collapse and burst stitches or god knows what, so not only was she delaying her recovery to do stuff he was perfectly able and willing to do, she was terrifying him as well!<br /> The moral of the story is, let him help you- if you yell in pain rather than warn him you'll need help to the bathroom in a couple minutes, he's probably half expecting to find you on the floor! Lecture over:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92218 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:35:01 +0000 Penny Lane 92218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What @banana: said...</p> <p>You could also look at it as your DH wanting to be a part of your pregnancy as much as he can... If the only way he can do that now is helping you to the bathroom then so be it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92196 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:18:22 +0000 banana 92196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't usually like asking anyone for help if it's something I can handle on my own. But when it came to pregnancy and parenting, I took all the help I could get because this isn't the time to assert your independence. For your sake and for your baby's sake, it's just better to get as much help as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92195 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:16:31 +0000 MamaMoose 92195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been there but I'm bad about asking for help too so I know the feeling. Just think of it like this, you aren't asking for help for yourself... you're asking for help for your babies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-just-have-to-let-it-go#post-92176 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 15:50:43 +0000 Ms.SK 92176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 21 weeks today, expecting twins and have been having severe back problems for weeks now. It finally came down to this morning when I couldn't walk to the bathroom alone. My husband has been wonderful and gets annoyed when I don't has for help but rather yell out in pain. But I am so independent I just want to do it myself, like I used to...how do I let it go and take the help I know I need. Did you have to ask for help? </p>