https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 05:22:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484448 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 19:41:45 +0000 lomom 484448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not close with my coworkers and none of them rubbed the bellies of the other two pregnant ladies in the office so I'd find it strange if any coworkers tried. </p> <p>I'm mostly concerned with strangers and my family members. Luckily I'll only see my extended family once more before the baby is born, which will be at the baby shower. I will probably do my best to endure it at the shower since they are being nice and coming, but it really makes me uncomfortable to be touched, especially on my stomach (I'm plus sized and have always carried excess weight in my stomach, so someone touching my stomach is very uncomfortable given that I've always struggled with my weight and body image.)</p> <p>I may make a few subtle comments about how he won't move if he feels a hand on my stomach so they realize they won't feel him kick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484431 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 19:35:40 +0000 prettylizy 484431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When she was kicking I would ask family and a few friends if they wanted to feel. My dad was so cute, he got all misty eyed when he felt her kick for the first time :) I didn't have one single random stranger try and touch my belly though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484413 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 19:27:34 +0000 cyndistar3 484413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally let people touch my belly, I didn't mind at all. Close people always just touched it but strangers always asked nicely and told me how beautiful I made pregnancy look so I couldn't deny them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484382 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 19:12:44 +0000 jaguar 484382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Family and friends - totally fine. Randoms? Weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484222 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 17:01:40 +0000 heartonastring 484222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 100% fine with family and friends touching my belly, in fact, I think it's kind of sweet. What I don't like is random people (e.g. one of the cleaning staff at my office) touch my belly.....weird! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484208 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 16:52:29 +0000 Mrs. Pen 484208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lol yeah that article sounded awful. It would make me mad too. It's your body/baby you get to choose! Just like those that say just cause you have a baby you need to let everyone hold the baby. My friends baby was hospitalized at 3 months because of a virus contracted from being passed around at their church. For her next child she said you don't care about people being offended when you know your child's health is at stake. She let her mom, her husband and me hold her baby and that was it!!</p> <p>Oh, and I let my family/close friends touch my belly. I always be sure to ask my friends first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484174 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 16:16:43 +0000 birdofafeather 484174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i didn't have a problem with it, but honestly, it's only been in the last few weeks that anyone has asked! and they ask, so i'm okay with it. i thought i would hate it, but it's not random strangers, so i've been good. i definitely understand the feeling though and i am kinda surprised that i've been fine with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484153 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:57:08 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 484153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: just say "now I get to rub yours" (with a smile). Everyone gets the picture and no one does it a second time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484148 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:55:02 +0000 MamaMoose 484148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you need this shirt : ) </p> [attach=1787/13/mg824z.460x460.image.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484147 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:53:47 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 484147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Trailmix: @lemondrop: It worked really well and I have great memories of it without feeling violated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484134 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:42:49 +0000 lemondrop 484134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was fine with it if they asked, poetry much everyone was polite and asked first. I loved my belly!</p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I like your system! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484076 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:08:55 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 484076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much anyone.<br /> People usually didnt ask before they rubbed, so what was I supposed to do? Tell them to get their hands the F off of me? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-484067 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 15:00:39 +0000 MrsStar 484067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one ever rubbed my belly without being invited to first, so only a few people ever did. They just wanted to know what the kicking feels like, but LO always stopped kicking when someones hand was on my stomach. Only person who did without my permission was MIL but I held my tongue on that one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483914 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 13:19:27 +0000 hellobeeboston 483914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I liked people touching my belly, but more towards the end like 7/8/9 months... I totally let my co-workers, but they always asked first. I loved my belly and knew it wouldn't be there much longer.... Glad no strangers touched it though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483911 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 13:17:57 +0000 JerricaBenton 483911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People ask me a lot and I always say yes. In my experience, people were just excited. Also, she is pretty active and a lot of time these days people can see her moving through my shirt - and they just get so excited they have to touch. I don't mind it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483907 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 13:11:41 +0000 heffalump 483907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let people feel lo kick. I think my mom, dad, fil, mil, sister, sil, and grandma all felt lo kick. It was exciting for everyone, i didnt mind. My grandma did tell me once to make lo move so she could feel. If only I had that kind of power. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483899 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:53:23 +0000 Trailmix 483899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsJacks That just made me laugh so hard!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483897 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:51:42 +0000 lovehoneybee 483897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much only family ever touched my belly, and I didn't mind. My BIL/SIL were really funny about it...when they first saw me with a big, full belly (7 months as opposed to 4 months), they both dropped down to their knees to kiss and coo at my belly (with SIL it happened at an airport, lol). </p> <p>I only had one stranger touch me. I was about 7 months along, we were driving home from a family beach vacation and stopped to get food. The place was packed, so we got it to go, and as we were threading out through the crowd one of the cashiers comes out from behind the counter (leaving a huge line of people unattended), grabs my arm to physically stop me from walking, slaps her hand on my stomach and informs me that I was going to have a little girl. DH grabbed my other arm and growled at her to "let go of (my) wife" and pulled me out. I didn't react at all--she caught me off guard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483871 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:31:46 +0000 ALV91711 483871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So far only DH has rubbed my belly. I think I would be ok with family touching my belly, especially now that the baby kicks up closer to my belly button. But I think people should ask first, I would never go up and just start rubbing a pregnant ladies belly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483870 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:31:10 +0000 sslm 483870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has really tried without asking. I actually asked my mom to put her hand there so she could feel the kicks! Same goes for my sister, and obviously DH has felt it numerous times. One of my coworkers asked if he could (he's a middle aged man!) and I felt weird saying no so I let him... it was awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483863 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:27:15 +0000 BlueWolverine 483863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has tried to touch my belly without asking. I'm wondering if I'm giving off a "don't even think about it" vibe, because that's absolutely my attitude. I'm happy to have DH, close friends and family touch my belly, but strangers? Not for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483828 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:14:07 +0000 Springtime 483828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Certain people only if they asked. I hated it when people touched my belly without asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483825 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 12:12:03 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 483825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My deal was that they could rub my belly if I could rub theirs. That left only one friend who wanted to rub and we would giggle so hard while I rubbed her belly that I didn't mind :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483816 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:59:45 +0000 Adira 483816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't WANT people to rub my stomach, but I let them because I feel awkward telling them off. Only Hubs family has rubbed my belly though. I think if it was a stranger or anyone else, I'd feel more comfortable telling them off, but I just don't know how to tell Hubs' family to cut it out without coming off like a bitch.</p> <p>I HATE it though - it's MY belly and no one should touch it without my permission!!! It's crazy how entitled people seem to feel that just because you're growing a baby, somehow that gives them access to your personal space and can just TOUCH you! Honestly, I think it's super creepy when Hubs family touches me, but I don't know how to tell them to stop without hurting feelings. Luckily, I've only had to see them a couple times during the pregnancy, so I don't have to deal with it all the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483799 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:45:53 +0000 Bao 483799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just DH and a few close family members </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483798 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:44:31 +0000 autumnlove 483798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let DH and a few close friends and family members rub my belly. 1-2 strangers rubbed it but I didn't say anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483797 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:44:19 +0000 blackbird 483797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't mind if DH does it, but I dislike it when other people try to do it. I once had a stranger do it and I was REALLY uncomfortable with it. I've had my MIL give me a pat and that I didn't mind so much, but it's the gratuitous rubbing that feels like it's violating my personal space. I mean, you're talking about the space between my crotch and my boobs. So uh...no thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483796 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:43:47 +0000 photojane 483796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not too many stranger have rubbed my belly, but I always let them. I don't love it, but they mean well. My poor mom rubs my belly all the time in hopes of feeling a kick, but still hasn't felt anything. Baby girl is shy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483793 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:42:04 +0000 mrskc 483793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first it made me really uncomfortable when anyone rubbed my belly. But towards the end I didn't care anymore. But only close friends and family ever rubbed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-let-anyone-rub-your-belly#post-483788 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 11:38:52 +0000 HLK208 483788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom did, it was her way of bonding with each baby. DH's mom and grandma would talk to my tummy and feel kicks. A few stranger came up to me to touch my belly but I never said anything. I feel rude saying "no" when people have good intentions. </p>