https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 05:57:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639650 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 11:26:31 +0000 tinyperson 639650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I called and called and called my brother, but finally told my mom to tell him if she heard from him...we're going through some issues with him, and he's only called twice since I got pregnant in March 2012. I'm sad he doesn't want to know his niece :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639563 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 11:06:49 +0000 loveisstrange 639563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest brother lived in another state, so he heard over the phone. My middle brother, I told in person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639560 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 11:06:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 639560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do it in person just so you can stress that fact. Plus, maybe you can buy some time with DH and tell him you want to tell them in person but want to wait until you can get together. Then be really busy for a few weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639543 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 11:02:08 +0000 mediagirl 639543@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on how close you are with your siblings, though! Unfortunately, I'm not very close with mine so I got an email of an ultrasound photo from my brother when they found out they were expecting, but that was it. I let my mom tell my brother I was pregnant after I told her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639537 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 11:00:27 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 639537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should what YOU'RE comfortable with, and not feel pressured to do something that you're not ready to do or feel uncomfortable with.</p> <p>We told our parents and siblings at first, but I didn't feel comfortable telling extended family until the end of the first trimester. That said, there were some blabber mouths &amp; e-v-e-r-y-o-n-e knew before we even heard a heart beat. With subsequent pregnancies, we'll be keeping our mouths shut until we're 13 weeks along :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639524 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:57:59 +0000 illumina 639524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should do what feels right for YOU and not get pressured by your MIL or even your DH. My DH thought I should tell my parents early so that I had support whatever happens but I said we were to tell no one until after the 12wk scan and we both stuck to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639513 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:55:17 +0000 MrsTiz 639513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: This is my biggest concern. I had to sit SIL down last time and tell her "This is not allowed on ANY social media, AT ALL. Until you see me post something first." She announced our engagement before DH was even off our knee. Literally. She had her FB post all typed up and as soon as I said yes she shared it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639510 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:54:23 +0000 pui 639510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on your siblings. My sisters wouldn't care at all if I got pregnant, so a simple text would be fine. My SIL though? She would be DEVASTATED if I didn't tell her in person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639496 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:52:26 +0000 lawbee11 639496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I texted my brother a picture of a bib that said "I love my uncle." And that was that! I also didn't tell him until after our 12w ultrasound because I was worried he'd post something on Facebook about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639487 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:50:58 +0000 Bao 639487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would at least call, but I don't think you need to go overboard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639482 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:49:26 +0000 autumnlove 639482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My bro knew I was pregnant both times before my pee was dry! :-) I called him right away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639480 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:49:11 +0000 cascademom 639480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I called my brother and SIL on the same night we called the inlaws about the pregnancy. Everyone pretty much suspected it, so it was more of a confirmation than anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639477 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:48:49 +0000 Honeybee 639477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't even think I told my sisters. I just let my mom do it, since she was so excited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639473 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:47:58 +0000 Reese 639473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should only do what YOU are comfortable with.</p> <p>If it were me I would tell them in person but only when I was ready to do so. Don't let people rush you into doing something you are not comfortable with. </p> <p>If you really don't want to do it in person I would call instead of text.. a text seems a little too impersonal. Maybe Skype is a happy medium? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-make-a-big-deal-about-telling-your-siblings#post-639467 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 10:46:02 +0000 MrsTiz 639467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 6 weeks and we have already told:<br /> -My mom<br /> -My dad<br /> -MIL<br /> -FIL</p> <p>DH thinks if you tell one mom you HAVE to tell the other, etc. So he is dying to tell his sister and by the same rule, my sister. I don't want to tell anyone other than our parents until we hear a heartbeat. DH is being really unreasonable about this, and actually snapped at me last night and yelled "You just need to get excited about it!" (the baby) because I was telling him I don't want to tell anyone yet. MIL is already all up in my biz already, and my mom thinks we should tell our sisters..buut both of them are huge blabber mouths. I kinda want to just text them and say "We're having a baby in November!" and be done with it. DH insists we have to invite them over to tell them and that just doesn't do anything for me. I don't get all excited over telling family members this, and am very private to begin with.</p> <p>So, who is right here? What did you do? </p>