Hellobee Boards Topic: If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty

Hellobee Boards Topic: If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 04:22:02 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047370 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 12:14:20 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2047370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am not sure how it will all work once lo gets here but while I am on maternity leave I will try and do all the night times if he is working. Once I am back at work too we will have to find some kind of compromise. Guessing it iwll mostly fall on me though since I am BFing. Meridian on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047257 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 11:05:54 +0000 Meridian 2047257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No, I would never have survived!! We have taken shifts every single night since LO was born. I go to sleep from 10PM - 2:30/3AM, and DH is on baby duty. Then I get up to take over, and DH sleeps from 3 - 7:30AM before he goes to work. It works since we bottle feed. During our "shifts" we usually get another 1 - 2 hours of sleep as well while LO is sleeping, so we both average about 5 - 5.5 hours per night. ShootingStar on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047146 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 10:22:27 +0000 ShootingStar 2047146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH took a 6 week leave, so when we were both off, we would both get up for most of the wakings. He would do the diaper and reswaddle, then I'd feed. I'd spend a lot more time awake and a lot more time trying to get DS back to sleep, so in the morning DH would get up with him around 7 and feed him a bottle and I'd sleep until 10. That allowed me to get 3 solid hours of sleep. For the 4ish weeks I was on leave by myself I would try to do the wakings by myself. When I went back to work I mostly handled them myself. I was still BF-ing, and by then DS didn't poop overnight. But maybe half the time I'd have DH either get DS and bring him to me, or take him from me after I'd fed him. It was always great the wakings where DH would put him back to bed, because I'd just lay there and nurse in the side-lying position so I could just drift back to sleep and not have to get up again. blackbird on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047082 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:59:44 +0000 blackbird 2047082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Only when I was on leave because I got to nap during the day and didn't have to function the way he did. But we both work, so this rule is pretty much non-applicable to us. We trade nights off when E's sick or whatever. If i'm tired, my husband will pick up some slack and vice versa. We help each other out. Corduroy on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047071 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:54:10 +0000 Corduroy 2047071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I did all the wakeups for LO1 until 16 months or so when we weaned. Then DH took one morning per week. LO1 only napped while being worn or in a stroller so i never got a nap. That pleasure cruise is ending for him with #2 though. Staying home with a kid or two is way harder to do tired than work. I WOH. oliviaoblivia on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047068 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:51:52 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2047068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @daniellemybelle: it's one of those things I can un-see. Rockies11 on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047067 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:51:45 +0000 Rockies11 2047067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have this rule when I am on mat leave, because I consider it part of my mat leave "job". Both of us have WOH jobs that require a lot of concentration, and are very challenging to do with little sleep. When we are both working, we split it a lot more - he tends to get up early with her, and I do the MOTN stuff. I was doing everything when I initially went back to work, but once I got pregnant again and sick, it was impossible to do. daniellemybelle on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047065 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:50:34 +0000 daniellemybelle 2047065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: I would have never thought "late baby" = "dead baby." It took a second to understand what you were saying... But maybe it registers that way for those who have had a loss. I do nearly all wake ups though thankfully LO STTN now. Always have because I have the boobs. oliviaoblivia on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047056 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:43:21 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2047056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've always done the night wakeups. I have long maternity leaves and great sleepers so it's never been so bad that I've needed his help. He is so cranky without sleep that I'd rather handle it myself. It doors drive me nuts when he complains about being tired and then takes a nap, it's not like I didn't watch him sleep all night. :bummed: On another note... Can we change the title so it doesn't ask about dead babies. Maybe late wakeups instead of late baby. MrsKoala on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047038 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:32:51 +0000 MrsKoala 2047038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sort of? I have a couple crazy weeks where I work 70+ hours and my husband picks up the the slack during those weeks. Alternatively, if I'm off and he's working, I pick up the slack. During the regular work week, I'm the one waking up with the baby. I'm a light sleeper and he is a very heavy sleeper so he just doesn't wake up. Mamasig on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty/page/2#post-2047034 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:32:23 +0000 Mamasig 2047034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ During maternity leave and now that I'm back at work, I handle all of the night time wake ups. With my 1st I got annoyed I was doing it all. I thought everything was supposed to be 50/50. Yeah right. My husband works 12 hour shifts outside alternating a week of nights, then days, then off. He needs his rest for safety reasons. But sure he sometimes wakes up from the noise but I generally handle the baby. He's not even home for plenty of the wake ups! Orchid on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046995 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:05:05 +0000 Orchid 2046995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ As a stay at home mom I used to try to handle MOTN by myself, that is, until I realized I worked all day too. LBee on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046993 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:04:29 +0000 LBee 2046993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I was on maternity leave, yes. My husband protested, but I was breastfeeding and it felt like there was no sense in him getting up since technically we both had to get up in that scenario anyways. Now we do shifts since I go to bed earlier than my husband. LuLu Mom on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046991 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:03:24 +0000 LuLu Mom 2046991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It depends, when I'm on maternity leave, my "job" is to take care of our newborn, that is why I'm off of work. So I take the majority of the night wakeups/feedings/ect. However, if I'm needed a break DH would step in and take a night so I could sleep in. Weekends it's on him, that's my time to catch up on sleep and he gets to do middle of the night duty. When I go back to work we have a system that it is every other night (no matter if baby wakes up or not) so one person is always getting a full night sleep (ideally.) If you get lucky and baby SSTN on your night then you get off the hook! mrsjyw on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046990 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:03:00 +0000 mrsjyw 2046990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I was on maternity leave, for the most part I did night wakings because I was BF. It was quicker and easier for me to do and I just napped when the baby napped the next day when I could. DS started STTN just before I went back to work, but when he did have random wakings after I went back to work, we took turns! Smurfette on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046989 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 09:02:05 +0000 Smurfette 2046989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ During maternity leave, she was still in our room, so he helped til like 2/3 and then went to the guest room to get a solid 4/5 hours. But once we were both at work, we both helped. I mostly got up since the boobs were the quickest way to get her back to sleep. artsyfartsy on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046982 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:58:35 +0000 artsyfartsy 2046982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Right now I SAH and DH works a very physically demanding 10 hour job that starts at 4am. I handle all the night wakings at the moment just because I feel like I should. DH is great to always take over on the weekends without me asking or if we're having a particularly rough weeknight, he'll take turns with me anyway. When I go back to work we will probably take turns more but I'm more comfortable doing most of the baby duty. DH being exhausted at work can be dangerous for him but I can push through my desk job. :) looch on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046975 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:54:28 +0000 looch 2046975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not surprised I am an outlier, but yes, when I was at home and my husband was working out of the home, I dealt with all of the night wakings because I could nap during the day and I didn't want my husband to be an a situation where he got into an accident while driving because he fell asleep at the wheel. catomd00 on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046949 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:33:45 +0000 catomd00 2046949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. I work part time and more often then not my husband helps on the nights I have off the next day so I can take advantage of it and be more rested. I tend to do most night time parenting because I'm nursing anyways so he can suck it up and be tired at work sometimes too! Cole on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046948 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:33:42 +0000 Cole 2046948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Since I nurse (and sah) I do night wakeups unless it's a really awful night and I am at my wits end- which typically means she is screaming so it's not like he's sleeping anyway. On days he is off he usually plays with her for her for her one hour wakeup in the morning and then he goes back to bed with her. ElbieKay on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046945 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:33:13 +0000 ElbieKay 2046945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both work M-F. So that rule would result in the baby being ignored completely. So, no. mamimami on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046942 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:32:10 +0000 mamimami 2046942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ HAHAHAHAHAHA no. ;) Grace on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046935 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:29:38 +0000 Grace 2046935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When she was a newborn and DH was working, I didn't get him up because me and baby would sleep in. As she got older, I still did overnights because I'd be back asleep in 2 min and DH would be awake for an hour trying to get back to sleep. Bubbles on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046904 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 08:16:49 +0000 Bubbles 2046904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes… I think looking after a baby all day is just as tough as most jobs, but my DH drives 2 hours each way to and from work so I never felt comfortable with him being sleep deprived for the drive. illumina on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046829 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 07:17:20 +0000 illumina 2046829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Cherrybee: this made me laugh "Sorry E, we are both working tomorrow...can't deal with you tonight! bye!" It's irrelevant now because we don't really ever have to deal with LO during the night, but when she did wake it was for feeds and I was EBF so I dealt with it. Oh, apart from the first couple of weeks when we both didn't know what we were doing and both got up together with her in the night! MrsRcCar on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046811 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 06:18:04 +0000 MrsRcCar 2046811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH gets up too! I am a WAHM (part time for my dads company) but full time toddler wrangler and nursing an almost toddler momma. My job is just as important as his. We share the kid duties day (when he is off) and night. Charm54 on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046810 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 06:16:37 +0000 Charm54 2046810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I was on maternity leave (I had a year) I did the night wakings. If one was particularly terrible or we were having a rough night he would come take over. Now that I'm back to work she rarely wakes up. If she does we trade off. wonderstruck on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046809 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 06:12:18 +0000 wonderstruck 2046809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ With DS#1 I would try to not wake him if he had to work in the morning, but it certainly wasn't a rule because sometimes on terrible nights you just need the help. Now that we have two under two, hell no, this doesn't happen. I'll be up just as early and working just as hard as him, it's not like when there's just one and you get down time when they nap. mediagirl on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046806 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 06:05:24 +0000 mediagirl 2046806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both work outside the house. Typically whoever is least tired gets up. Haha. Rocker2014 on "If you or your spouse is working the next day, are they exempt from doing late baby duty" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-or-your-spouse-is-working-the-next-day-are-they-exempt-from-doing-late-baby-duty#post-2046805 Fri, 30 Jan 2015 06:03:52 +0000 Rocker2014 2046805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We both WOH, but I do all the night wake-ups since nursing is the best and quickest way to get LO back to sleep. But the tradeoff is that DH does all the cooking and cleaning during the day so I can go to bed earlier and generally relax when not on baby duty. It is an odd spit, but it works for us because my husband can't tolerate not getting his sleep and I hate chores!