https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 02:48:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2312208 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 22:35:05 +0000 GrapeCrush 2312208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With #1, I don't regret finding out.<br /> With #2, while pregnant I didn't regret finding out, and loved knowing we were having a girl. but now knowing we are more than likely done i do sort of regret not being team green. I would have loved that experience. If by some chance we do end up with a 3rd, we will 100% be team green. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2312185 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 21:48:33 +0000 jlm22 2312185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved being TG! At first I wanted to find out, but DH didn't, so I ended up going with what he wanted and I'm super happy I did! Only annoying thing was people asking what i was having and then acting like I had 2 heads when I said we weren't finding out. (I started to answer with "a baby. I am having a baby") If we are blessed with a second, I'm going to be TG again :)</p> <p>ETA - I felt in my heart I was carrying a girl even though everyone said I was having a boy (so many experts out there) It was fun finding out that my gut was right :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2312174 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 21:32:11 +0000 lawbee11 2312174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Noooo. But TG does not sound like fun to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2312166 Tue, 06 Oct 2015 21:08:57 +0000 pastemoo 2312166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and trying so hard to convince my so that this time we should wait </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2308371 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 23:18:06 +0000 sapphire 2308371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Having a baby comes with enough surprises! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307756 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 14:11:48 +0000 snickers 2307756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't regretted finding out at all, as others have said its a nice half way surprise and also I like organising so it was great to get things ready!</p> <p>In saying that, we have a 2y old boy and I am 4 weeks away from my due date with a girl. If we do decide to go for #3 I would be temped to go tg :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307745 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 14:00:21 +0000 Tidybee 2307745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lovehoneybee: We found out this time for the same reasons. I just needed to be prepared for what life was going to be like with 2.<br /> I was TG with my first and we found out for the second. I voted "sort of" because I think it definitely helped me bond with her sooner than I did with DD1, but maybe that was just the shock of being a mom and having a baby and all of the anxiety that comes with it. i will say that despite the connection, I was a little bummed to not have the same anticipation, beautiful mystery, and shock and joy when she came out. If we get pregnant and give birth to a third child, we'll be team green for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307736 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 13:48:34 +0000 Mae 2307736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope nope nope. I needed a carrot of something happy half way through pregnancy to keep my spirits up lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307720 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 13:34:10 +0000 avivoca 2307720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about this too. I loved knowing H was a girl and I felt so connected to her. I'm afraid I wouldn't feel the same with potential baby #2, but I also think I'd like to have the TG experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307715 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 13:32:21 +0000 JoJoGirl 2307715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: OMG ME TOO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307713 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 13:32:05 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2307713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I initially read the post thinking TG = transgender. I was so confused! :happy: I loved knowing - I think it helped me connect with her more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307692 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 13:21:11 +0000 Aandmklover 2307692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out with DS 1 at our 20 week ultrasound and I wasn't a bit surprised he was a boy. We were :teamgreen: for our second and after that experiance we want to find out for our (hopefully) third child. I didn't feel as connected to the second baby as I did with my first. Calling it (or shim. Lol our little nic-name for him) and not knowing the name really prevented me from enjoying it. I don't know, maybe I'm weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307605 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 12:13:01 +0000 BKCaribBaby 2307605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TG and loved it! I never regretted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307597 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 12:08:23 +0000 mrsrain 2307597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out and were able to name her at 20 weeks. When she was born it was like we already knew her! Definitely going to do the same this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307544 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:36:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 2307544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG for our first and I loved it. There was no big announcement in the delivery room- frankly dh and I both forgot to check until the nurse reminded us, but it was great to find out when we actually had her in our arms. </p> <p>This time, I had already promised dh that we could find out, since he had wanted to the first time. Plus I really wanted to find out, and he had a preference. So far no regrets on finding out, and it's given him time to process the idea of two daughters, plus makes the name conversation a lot easier. </p> <p>I am really happy to have experienced both, but I do think TG once is pretty awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307528 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:26:17 +0000 Reese 2307528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets! I will find out with the next one as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307514 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:20:15 +0000 jhd 2307514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We found out at 18 weeks at our anatomy scan. We invited both moms and it was really special. I had extra ultrasounds so it might have been harder to be TG in that situation anyway. It made naming easier (I had zero girl ideas!) and it was fun to shop for boy stuff before he came. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307500 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:12:21 +0000 lovehoneybee 2307500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really. We were TG with our first and it was really exciting and the imagining and guessing and anticipation leading up to hearing "It's a boy! Honeybee we have a SON!" (the best, clearest part of my L&amp;D) was awesome, and I don't regret it even a little bit. </p> <p>But I am glad we found out with this one. I think (I hope) it's made it easier for our toddler to think about having a sibling when I call her "baby sister" because he has classmates at school that have baby sisters and brothers. Plus, it'll be the first girl for D's family in 78 years, so everyone is having fun shopping for her. </p> <p>That said...knowing that she IS a girl, I do wish a little bit that we could have had that shock of "It's a girl!" in the delivery room, but I would still make the same choice again :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307497 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:10:19 +0000 MRSJX3 2307497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were TG and it was a lot easier than you'd think. (Except the ignorant things people say to you regarding it.) It was so awesome!</p> <p><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/aaron-gouveia/reasons-not-to-find-out-the-sex-of-the-baby_b_5637953.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.huffingtonpost.com/aaron-gouveia/reasons-not-to-find-out-the-sex-of-the-baby_b_5637953.html</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307494 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 11:06:21 +0000 skipra 2307494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! We meant to be TG with my first but had a ton of ultrasounds at the end and one doctor kept saying "he" despite the fact we didn't want to know and then had the screen shot of his goods while measuring fluid. I was so mad to find out that way and so close to the birth too!</p> <p>We assumed I would have a similar experience second time around so we found out early. From the moment we found out I wished we had waited. If we have another we will definitely be TG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307479 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:52:13 +0000 Corduroy 2307479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to be TG with #1 but we ended up finding out at 30 weeks when DH admitted he knew we were having a boy based on the US - wrong. Even though it wasn't my plan to know I wouldn't change how things worked out. We found out for #2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307470 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:46:10 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2307470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love knowing what I'm having. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307465 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:44:36 +0000 Applesandbananas 2307465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: I have zero gender preference this go round. With our first, we both really wanted a boy but obviously still would've been thrilled either way. This time, we both honestly don't care either way. We would love another boy so our son would have a brother but would also love a girl and getting the chance to have one of each and for our son to have a sister, so either way we will be happy and a little sad. That's why I'm so inclined to be TG this time lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307463 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:42:23 +0000 regberadaisy 2307463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, we have no interest in not finding out till birth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307448 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:33:11 +0000 lamariniere 2307448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I found out for both of mine, I couldn't wait! I have one of each, but if we were to have a 3rd (which we aren't), I might consider being TG since I have zero preference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307443 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:31:18 +0000 travelgirl1 2307443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it's still a surprise whenever you find out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307441 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:30:41 +0000 Ash 2307441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green both times and it was the best experience! I couldn't imagine finding out sooner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307437 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:29:30 +0000 rachiecakes 2307437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>TG is not for me. Too much pressure.<br /> I wanted to see what was on the ultrasound screens (I had a lot because of PIH &amp; pre-e). </p> <p>I've also had multiple TG friends where their doctors or a tech spilled the beans late in the game and were really sad they didn't get the "delivery room surprise". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307431 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:28:15 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2307431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No regrets!<br /> Love having that mid point surprise to look forward to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-regret-not-being-tg#post-2307424 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 10:25:29 +0000 nana87 2307424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I didn't regret it at all. I wanted to know as much about my baby as soon as I could! I'm impatient, lol. But I mostly purchased gender neutral gear and such anyway, just because that's my personal preference (though somehow at 18 months LO has a lot of pink that's crept in...) </p>