https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 10:02:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2043402 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 10:43:35 +0000 Raindrop 2043402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a name but we weren't sure... we did share that name if people asked but told them "we didn't love the first name and that it might be different but by default we are going with this name" and of course we went with a different name in the end. Which we were kind of worried about but whatever we can name our kid whatever we want. :)</p> <p>Everyone remembered what we said except one person that wrote "I can't believe you switched the name on me!!" - I bought up the e-mail when she asked and I totally wrote that we weren't sure but here is the front runner / default name. Very weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2043276 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 09:40:01 +0000 Mrs.Lemondrop 2043276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't. We narrowed it down to two names, and then waited to meet her. So when people asked us, we just said that and then didn't go further. We didn't want people's opinions. Also, I'm so glad we waited to meet her, because of the two names (which we used to call her for months), one name fit perfectly and one name didn't fit her at all. So it worked out for us. </p> <p>Although, we also told our very american-mut caucasion families that we were going to name her "Khokha" (Arabic word for "peaches," the name of the Arabic equivalent of Elmo on their Sesame Street) for a few years before we ever got pregnant. They thought we were joking, but couldn't be sure. (They think DH and I are really weird, all because we move a lot) So I think they were just thrilled it was something they could say. Khokha has two of those top of the mouth noises that are really hard for English speakers to say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2043232 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 09:00:54 +0000 Circusbee 2043232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted to keep the name super secret from everyone, but DH slipped to his parents, boss, and a few close friends (total blabbermouth!!), so I felt like I had to tell my parents too. Baby isn't born yet, and I still feel the need to keep it a secret because we've already changed the middle name a couple times since we "decided," and I would like to meet our little one before announcing it just in case we decide that's not his name once he's here. I would hate for everyone to be stuck on a name and then change it once he's here, or worse, receive monogrammed or personalized items as gifts before his birth that may not even apply if we changed it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2043230 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:59:13 +0000 Astro Bee 2043230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mentioned earlier that we weren't planning to share our LO's name until after he's born, but didn't really share why. It's mostly due to strong pressure on his family's (actually his grandmother) side to name him Peter, which I don't like at all, even though it's DH's legal first name, along with his dad, his grandfather, gg, etc., and an uncle on his mom's side. I'm resisting, and DH mentioned he would be okay with naming him something else. If we had a different family situation, I wouldn't mind telling. I'd rather present it fait accompli, which is maybe the coward's way out, but jeez, it's our kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2043216 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 08:50:22 +0000 ShootingStar 2043216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told everyone. I had a neighbor due at the same time as me who refused and it turned out she named her baby something kind of out there. So now that's my impression of people who don't share it - you're naming your baby something weird and don't want to hear the comments, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2042182 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 14:07:29 +0000 NurseDMB 2042182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - I'm not sure if we will for the next baby, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2041939 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 12:01:22 +0000 coopsmama 2041939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared our kids' names as soon as we knew their genders. It wasn't a big deal to us for it to be a secret and it seemed to make it a lot more "real" if that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/3#post-2041931 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 11:58:25 +0000 shellio 2041931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared names both times. They are uncommon but not particularly odd, I think, and no one made any rude comments to us directly. One of my friends who shared the name says they really liked being able to refer to the baby before he was born with his name, and she felt like it also helped her DH and probably the rest of the family to form a bond with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041913 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 11:47:58 +0000 MrsKMM 2041913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@macintosh: I don't have a helpful answer, but am in a similar situation. DH and I have had names picked out for years. So, immediate family knows, and maybe a couple of friends. He doesn't want to put it on FB or tell extended family until LO gets here. I don't really care either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041611 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 08:27:09 +0000 illumina 2041611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really...because we hadn't decided on it until after she was born! We did share her middle name though and a few choices for first name, but honestly they weren't met with the greatest reactions and I definitely wouldn't share anything next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041591 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 07:48:01 +0000 Little Misters Mom 2041591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used a family name, so we decided not to share so it'd be a bigger surprise when the baby was here. I'm glad we did, seeing my uncle's face when he met the baby and learned his name was really special. Deep down, I also didn't tell so I'd be able to change it if I had a last minute change of heart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041533 Tue, 27 Jan 2015 03:54:21 +0000 Kimberlybee 2041533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared it at the baby shower and I started calling her by her name since she was in my womb. We loved the name for her since early on so it was fun to share it with family and friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041488 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 23:54:54 +0000 owlteach 2041488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've told from the moment we named her. Honestly, I was getting tons of naming advice before we announced. Once we did, no one has said a single negative thing about it. </p> <p>Naming her was huge for me though, because that's when she went from being a parasite that made me super sick all of the time, to the baby that we had been working for and dreaming about for over a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041461 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 23:11:24 +0000 fairy 2041461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I shared it but only if people asked. It was surprising how many strangers asked! So it was a little weird that some strangers knew but not some family and friends just because they never asked. It wasn't a big deal to tell people but I just got tired of having the same "how did you come up with the name" conversation over and over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041399 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 22:25:04 +0000 soyjoy222 2041399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were team green and did not share. We actually only 100% decided on a boy name and were unsure about a girl name, so good thing we had a boy. I did tell my mom our boy name and she kept it secret, but other wise no one else knew. Just wanted to avoid comments/opinions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2041015 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 16:43:31 +0000 anonysquire 2041015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did both times with just my family a d both time have gotten negative reactions. So hopefully next time we don't make the mistake sharing again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040837 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:00:59 +0000 NeekieRose 2040837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told both times. We are secure in the choice of the names so nothing anyone said would affect our choice. Also, I'm pretty sure that anyone who is rude enough to say something negative about the name before the kid is born, is just as likely to say it after the kid is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040825 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:55:14 +0000 catomd00 2040825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared the name as a potential name but considering my husband and I couldn't agree on any other names, the name we shared ended up being it! Generally, I don't like to share ahead of time or officially name baby before he/she arrives! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040824 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:55:06 +0000 loki 2040824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: good to hear! i figured once it was associated with a little one they love, they will grow to love it too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040814 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:52:38 +0000 Mae 2040814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loki: they'll get over it :) My mom was a bit iffy on our LO's name. Not so much that she disliked it as she liked our second and third choice better. After we decided she asked a few times "are you suuuure you don't want to call her [second choice name]?" and I'd just say YEP. But once Fiona was a few months old my mom said she had come to really love the name and couldn't imagine her with any other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040792 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:46:43 +0000 Mommy Finger 2040792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last time we told our parents and a few close friends. This time, only a few very close friends know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040791 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:46:38 +0000 loki 2040791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we haven't chosen our name yet (ugh) but i am soooo bad at secrets and i tell almost anyone who asks what our list is! haha. i'm confident enough in my love for the names that other people's opinions don't really affect me. both of our moms don't like our #1 contender but it doesn't bother me really.. they'll love it once they know her, i assume.<br /> i went for lunch with two other preggos on the weekend and both of them know but aren't telling! SO ANNOYING. i said ugh why couldn't u just lie and say you don't know??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040765 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:36:56 +0000 simplyfelicity 2040765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel the need to make a social media announcement, but if someone asks, I don't mind telling them. I guess I don't see it as this big secret but to each their own. Now...if only DH and I could agree... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040736 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:18:40 +0000 Ms.Badger 2040736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We shared when people asked both times. Everyone seemed to love Lucas from the very beginning so it was no big deal. This time when I told my parents what was our leading candidate at the time (and now about 99% sure) both of them seemed iffy about it, but a few weeks later my mom called and told me that she now LOVED the name Jonah and if we changed our minds she would be sad. </p> <p>I like that when they hear the baby was born their first thought won't be judging the name. It was also important to me that the name had been "vetted" so that, even if people just didn't love it, that maybe something weird about the name occurred to others that didn't occur to us would be brought up before it was legal and difficult to change. Plus, our families are pretty easy going and say things more like, "Oh, well I don't think I would have chosen that" instead of trying to change our minds. When we tell people, after they ask, we always hedge our bets and say that it still could change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040712 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:07:28 +0000 LuLu Mom 2040712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First baby we shared, I wanted to "stake claim" because we knew several others having girls within weeks of us. </p> <p>This baby we are keeping it a secret because DH wants some element of surprise. I've shared it only with my other March mommas. However, the name won't be a "huge" surprise as it's one I've wanted forever and before getting pregnant always said how much I wanted to use it &amp; it was a top contender for DD. So, when our friends/family hear it they won't be in complete shock! ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040590 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:20:04 +0000 cascademom 2040590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. His name wasn't decided until after he was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040584 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:17:21 +0000 cranberry 2040584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't vote because we didn't decide for sure on DD's name until she was born, but we did share our top choices with anyone who asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040155 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 09:46:41 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2040155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If people asked, we told them - it wasn't a big secret. No one said anything but positive comments and we got some nice suggestions for middle names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040114 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 09:16:14 +0000 littlebug 2040114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't even have his name decided until the second he was born. But we shared our list of possibilities with my sister and brother-in-law. They loved all of our options, and their favorite was the one we ended up choosing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-share-los-name-before-birth/page/2#post-2040097 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 09:06:21 +0000 Ra 2040097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did! Everyone was really supportive and we never received any negative comments about his name. </p>