https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 09:58:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/3#post-1986620 Tue, 16 Dec 2014 12:17:17 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1986620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He gets 2 weeks paid paternity leave plus he gets a little over 4 weeks of PTO for the year so he can take more if he wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/3#post-1983889 Sun, 14 Dec 2014 11:39:43 +0000 AmandaB8 1983889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH got 10 weeks paid. </p> <p>Seriously.</p> <p>I got 12 weeks unpaid. :\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983444 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 18:45:37 +0000 sarac 1983444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nothing specifically, but he can take his PTO. So, he'll probably take 2-3 weeks of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983417 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 17:42:57 +0000 ValentineMommy 1983417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - he doesn't get anything :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983389 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 16:48:33 +0000 spaniellove 1983389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: What we've learned with NJ is that there are a lot of family-friendly mandates (IF, paying for alternative formulas, hearing aids, parental leave) but they leave room for individual employers/insurers to decide their own policies. We were so bummed because of our situation living in NJ and not benefitting from any of the mandates. DH ended up using vacation time and was the first employee in his company to take more than a day off...apparently he set the example for others because a coworker in a similar position took a similar amount of vacation time a few weeks later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983365 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 16:24:01 +0000 ChitownRo 1983365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol - no. My husband can barely take his vacation. He works at a hedge fund and people are intense there. Most of the men take 4-5 days off for paternity leave. But since they don't really use their 3 weeks of vacation, it is all sort of the same thing </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983249 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 12:09:40 +0000 yin 1983249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no maternity or paternity leave available at my DH's company. He could only use vacation or 12 weeks of unpaid FMLA. He used a week of vacation for both kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983230 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 11:27:29 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1983230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: exactly what I was thinking. We women often have waiting periods, so it makes sense it goes both ways. I don't know anyone around here with paid paternity leave, so it is awesome that they offer paternity leave at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983145 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 08:52:40 +0000 Mae 1983145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A whole two days. grumble. (he just used his vacation time, but even then he asked for 3 weeks and was told unless me or LO had serious health problems they would only approve 2. of HIS time. grumble). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983130 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 08:19:50 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 1983130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he had to take vacation time. I want him to take more time if we have another child, even if it's unpaid I think it's worth saving up for. I wish his company was more generous. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983122 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 07:58:56 +0000 Mamasig 1983122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - never actually heard of anyone having paid paternity leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983120 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 07:55:34 +0000 anonysquire 1983120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He was going to take vacation time. But 1 day into it, I made him go back to work because he was treating it like an actual vacation and wasn't helping me a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983114 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 07:23:46 +0000 regberadaisy 1983114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sucks that he won't make the waiting period but that same rule applies to a lot of ladies with maternity leave unfortunately. I think it's pretty amazing his employer offers paternity leave at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983111 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 07:16:01 +0000 FaithFertility 1983111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH totoo FMLA and it is 100% of his checks because of all his aquired sick leave! So he will bw off for 6 weeks with me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1983107 Sat, 13 Dec 2014 07:06:47 +0000 marionberry 1983107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. DH could use FMLA to be home with us unpaid but he typically just uses PTO. Last baby, he had just started a new job so he only took off 4 days! With twins coming I'm banking on two weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982876 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 20:11:42 +0000 Adira 1982876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He can use FMLA, but that's unpaid. For both Xander and Logan, he just used his PTO to stay home with us for 4 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982768 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 17:31:00 +0000 rattles 1982768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He gets 3 weeks. He took 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982669 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 16:01:50 +0000 Greentea 1982669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think so. A waiting period makes sense- I had a waiting period of one year for my unpaid maternity leave at my previous employer, so it makes sense that the same would go for men (? maybe?)</p> <p>DH might at his new work place but I am unsure. He gets to save up to 8 days of paid vacation for the following year, so we might save a few extra days just in case. Where he was working when we had LO he took 5 days paid, it was either vacation or sick leave, I can't recall. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982658 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:50:07 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1982658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he had to use PTO to cover the 2 weeks he took off work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982656 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:49:21 +0000 Mama Bird 1982656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: it's possible they don't know because they're in NY! I only know because a coworker lives in nj. He's not eligible as he works in NYC, but I think his wife took the extra leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982631 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:31:08 +0000 LindsayInNY 1982631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: That's what I've been trying to look into (no one mentioned it). From what I read, it sounds like there is a 12 month requirement with your employer but what stinks is that by working in NJ, he pays into it. And his former employer was NJ based too so he's been paying into it for 3+ years now. I don't think us living in NY makes a difference either. But this part seems to address what you said, I think?: "A claimant must have had at least 20 calendar weeks in covered New Jersey employment in which he/she earned $145 or more (called "base weeks"), or have earned $7,300 or more in such employment during the "Base Year" period." He would definitely qualify for that then. He started in September and I'm due in June. I don't know if he could double dip vacation time with this because it only pays a max of $600 per week. But I'm trying to look into it more! His HR may be NY-based and not know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982623 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:25:23 +0000 Mama Bird 1982623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: I haven't read all the responses, so maybe someone mentioned this, but is your husband eligible for the nj family bonding leave? I think that's only a five month waiting period. Here's a link <a href="http://www.njtimetocare.com/our-agenda/family-leave-insurance" rel="nofollow">http://www.njtimetocare.com/our-agenda/family-leave-insurance</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982598 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:16:42 +0000 mediagirl 1982598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. He used vacation time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982592 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:15:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 1982592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's company officially offers 2 weeks paid to the "secondary caregiver" and 8 weeks paid to the "primary caregiver." He took 3 weeks off and they didn't ever end up deducting the 3rd week from his vacation. His company is really great about that stuff. His boss came back part-time for 2 months after maternity leave at full salary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982573 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:08:32 +0000 LindsayInNY 1982573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: Nope. He just started there in September. Funny, they sent all sorts of benefit info over ahead of time but there was NO mention of maternity/paternity/parental leave AT ALL. And no one on his team has had a baby in recent years either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982545 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 15:02:56 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1982545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsKoala: to be clear, my husband has to take pto first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982527 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 14:54:36 +0000 PawPrints 1982527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Will your DH be through the one-year waiting period by the time you're due?</p> <p>My DH gets a month at full pay, and he can take as much of his regular vacation as he wants (he accrues 4 weeks per year). So in theory he could peace out of there for two solid months at full pay. That's a lot better than I'm getting, and I'm the one having the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982509 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 14:43:27 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1982509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gets 6 weeks vacation/sick time to use each year. It isn't considered paternity leave, because he had to dip into his vaca/sick days but he took three weeks off with both kids. </p> <p>He works for the federal govt and I was surprised to learn that they don't have paternity leave (but we don't complain bc his vacation time is incredible). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982508 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 14:43:13 +0000 sera_87 1982508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We can split up to 35 weeks between us out of 52 in any way we want to. 5 of those weeks are at 70% of pay; the rest at 55%. </p> <p>I don't know if it'll work out that hell get to take any. He did take a week vacation (paid) when LO was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-so-get-paid-paternity-leave/page/2#post-1982505 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 14:40:34 +0000 MrsKoala 1982505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he had to take PTO. </p>