https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 03 Aug 2026 12:36:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-246907 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 10:12:47 +0000 Trailmix 246907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been pretty open about vaguely mentioning starting a family sometime after our two-year anniversary, so I'm guessing most of our family and friends won't be shocked when (if?!?!?) it finally happens...</p> <p>Now that we're 6 cycles in (sob), I've confided in most of my closest girlfriends because I am definitely someone who looks for support from others when I'm down and always feel so much better after I've talked things out with someone. I'm cool with them knowing and since only one is also TTC, there's less worry and pressure from/with them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-246813 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 09:21:42 +0000 nana87 246813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we aren't trying yet but I've already talked to my parents and a few close friends about when we plan on ttc. dh isn't one to talk to people about such private matters, but it really helps me to be able to talk about, especially because I'm impatient! it doesn't feel like pressure at all with the people I've told, it's more like support. </p> <p>however, we aren't telling his parents yet because that would feel like pressure on us. it's gotten awkward too with them, because his mom is pressuring us to get another dog, and the main reason we don't know if we want one is because of a potential baby. so she keeps asking "whhhyyy" and I don't want to tell her the real reason is I'm not sure I could handle 2 dogs and a baby in a nyc apt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-246790 Fri, 03 Aug 2012 09:14:48 +0000 wahine08 246790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think our family and friends know we're close and it's on our mind but I don't plan on telling anyone to the extent of our TTC process but I've already told people that we'll be trying "soon." I'm just worried it'll cause me more stress and we've only JUST begun. I had to mentally prepare for a couple months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-245674 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 18:45:47 +0000 DigAPony 245674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will tell my best friend when we start trying. She's pregnant with her second right now and is the closest thing I have to a sister. We talk about her pregnancy and my baby fever all the time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-245404 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 16:25:36 +0000 Running Elley 245404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We weren’t planning on telling anyone but I got pregnant right away and miscarried pretty early. We ended up telling our immediate families (parents and siblings) about the miscarriage along with our close friends. So they automatically assumed that we were trying after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-245394 Thu, 02 Aug 2012 16:21:55 +0000 Charcole2011 245394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I will tell my 2 BFFs but that is IT. Definitely not our parents - which is funny, because I am super close to my mom, but she already is soooo ready to be a grandmother, I don't think I could handle her constantly asking how it was going (which I am sure is what she'd do)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242446 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 17:11:47 +0000 SleepyMonkey 242446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm totally the type that is an open book and i spill the beans about most things in my life to friends. it helps immensely for me to be able to talk to people about it, and sometimes, it helps other people talk about it too - especially if we can go through it together. so i told a lot of people! my family, friends, some coworkers who were trying too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242312 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:56:45 +0000 savanarunner 242312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone but were very lucky and it didn't take us that long. I imagine if we had trouble I would want more support of family and friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242311 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:56:17 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 242311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>other than our BFFs no one really. I didn't want to tell family and always have the "and?! are you pregnant" question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242274 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:42:57 +0000 CarrieLouWho 242274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell ANYONE. We just didn't want the added pressure. And it took us almost 16 months to get pregnant and it was the one thing I was really glad that we hadn't blabbed about. Once we had been trying for about a year I did tell a few close friends b/c I needed some support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242251 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:33:32 +0000 mrsjyw 242251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our family and close friends knew... and we lucked out that no one bugged us about it while we were trying :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242237 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:25:34 +0000 Smurfette 242237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told like 3 girlfriends. So far only one knows we had success last cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242232 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:22:02 +0000 MsLipGloss 242232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - not a soul. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242230 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:21:07 +0000 Weagle 242230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one knew we were NTNP the first time. When we lost that baby they obviously knew we would try again asap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242199 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:53:22 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 242199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone at first. Once we knew we were dealing with infertility and that my husband needed surgery we told our parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242185 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:44:34 +0000 Bookish 242185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I ended up telling my SIL, because I needed someone to ask panicky questions of lol. My sisters think that we are starting in December, I didn't tell them that we moved up the date because I didn't want the pressure! Oddly enough...my boss/friend knows &gt;.&lt; I posted some status that vaguely alluded to the future, and he guessed. AGH! I got nothing but knowing winks the rest of the week! I almost wish I hadn't told ANYONE, but it's too late now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242176 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:40:25 +0000 Foodnerd81 242176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister knows- she's my BFF and we are super close, so she practically knows the day we will start trying. Other than that, maybe half a dozen people know roughly when we would like to start (like, fall, as opposed to, the last week of August). For most other people, it's more like, soon, not too much longer but not yet type answers.<br /> I won't tell my parents unless we are trying for a while and it doesn't happen. Already my dad asks me if I have "news" almost every time I see him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242165 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:38:32 +0000 Shutterbug 242165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My drs and my BFF. Now that it hasn't happened yet (we're on our 5th cycle) I wish I hadn't told her. She hasn't told anyone, and she's not being pushy or asking, but she's not doing a very good job of playing it cool if people ask her if we're trying. I'm starting to really feel the pressure, even though no one really knows - mostly because we've been married 3 years and are nearing 30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242159 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:36:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 242159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It wasn't a huge secret that after our trip we would start trying sometime, however few knew we were going to be trying on it (and then succeeded.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242156 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:35:10 +0000 JoJoGirl 242156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's sort of come out more and more as we've been trying for longer (cycle 5 now). That's a long time to keep a secret from people! Both sets of parents and a handful of my friends know, mostly because I see them right around POAS time. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242147 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:31:24 +0000 Meridian 242147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of our friends know since this is a constant topic of conversation amongst our group of friends. Both sets of parents know as well, because they've been on our case about starting a family... we had to let them know that we're working on it, otherwise they would constantly be bugging us more! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242138 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:28:21 +0000 Adira 242138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my two best girl friends, but that was it. I didn't want to tell family because I didn't want to get their hopes up at all if it took a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242134 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:26:44 +0000 chibee 242134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>some people know we will be trying "soon" but I won't actually tell anyone when we do start (hopefully this month) I just don't want to deal with questions and pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242124 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:21:52 +0000 MrsCastro 242124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we decided not to tell anyone...but i ended up telling my sister...i needed some support in knowing i was doing the right thing in TTC after finding out my dad was diagnosed with leukemia </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242102 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:13:48 +0000 MrsBrewer 242102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we decide to start trying, we are going to tell a single soul. We don't want any added pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242097 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:12:06 +0000 mrs. bird 242097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my 2 BFFs know. SIL has an idea that we aren't preventing, but only because i'm supposed to be in her wedding &amp; i wanted to give her a heads up that maybe by then i'd be preggers by then. my dr &amp; acupuncturist obviously know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-when-ttc#post-242086 Tue, 31 Jul 2012 13:08:38 +0000 MrsTiz 242086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who knew/knows you are TTC? </p>