https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 00:53:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1180434 Mon, 28 Oct 2013 20:03:19 +0000 LalaYes 1180434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have told some of my co-workers, we work in close teams and we talk a lot and it's come up in the year that I've worked with the ladies. It's nice to have their support.<br /> I've also told my mom so that she will stop asking me when we plan of having kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1178319 Mon, 28 Oct 2013 08:54:58 +0000 mediagirl 1178319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. For the most part, I led people to believe we weren't having kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1178312 Mon, 28 Oct 2013 08:50:31 +0000 GrapeCrush 1178312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We only said when it happens, it happens to people who asked if we were trying. I was afraid it would take longer than we had hoped for </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1178285 Mon, 28 Oct 2013 08:42:48 +0000 pui 1178285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first, no. I even feigned disinterest if anyone talked about babies lol. I didn't want anyone to be asking me how it's going or anything.</p> <p>Now that I'm 10 months in to TTC, I've started to open up a bit to a few people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177485 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:36:36 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1177485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With our first most of my friends knew I had major baby fever (for years...timing was just wrong), but only my best friend actually knew. This time around, most of my mom friends know since we all talk at play group about child spacing, and they are getting pregnant left and right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177477 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:28:15 +0000 mrs. 64 1177477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Originally I told my mom, my sister, and one friend. As time has gone on, I've told more people, especially if they have asked. I wanted to be able to surprise people with the big news, but I found that I needed more support than I originally anticipated. So far everyone I've told has been understanding and no one has said anything insensitive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177469 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:26:14 +0000 MrsBrewer 1177469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't TTC yet, but when we decide to, we won't be telling anyone. Probably not even HB! I know! How horrible of me! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177459 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 18:19:04 +0000 ottilie 1177459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really private, and I've only told one person. My husband mentioned to his parents several months ago when we first started trying that we were thinking about it. But nothing definite, just so they'd be aware. I don't think my parents will be that pleased, so I'll wait until I get a BFP (fingers crossed) and then at least am 12 weeks along. Anyway, the one person I've told is my best friend who lives in another country. She's TTC too, so she understands, and can be supportive. Anyway, that's part of the reason I joined here...somewhere to read/talk about TTC since I don't do it a lot in real life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177414 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 17:49:29 +0000 Mrs. Cookie 1177414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, both my parents and DH's parents know. My sister, my best friend, and a few other close girl friends know less details but they know. Most of our friends are expecting us to be trying since I've been vocal about wanting kids. We are not very private people, and we enjoy having the support, it's not been weird yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177372 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 17:14:58 +0000 dc yoga bee 1177372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: complete and utter shock! They'll be over the moon excited, but jaw dropping. Everyone knows I absolutely am not a fan of kids. Just not other peoples kids.</p> <p>I should add I'm not concerned about people's judgments. We have to do what's right for us as a couple, and even though I initially said I'm never never ever am having kids, I've had a change of heart. We want to raise a family, and there is nothing wrong with that. Don't feel embarrassed or anxiety at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177331 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 16:24:01 +0000 lilyofthewest 1177331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DC Yoga Bee: I see some parallels in our situations. How do you think your friends/family will react? Any anxieties about other people's judgements or opinions? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177326 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 16:19:29 +0000 lilyofthewest 1177326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel all over the place about this. My sweetie and are aren't trying yet, but, probably will be soon. </p> <p>For a long time, I was childfree -- and obnoxiously un-shy about sharing it. Then I had an abrupt, 180º shift in my desires. I talked about it with some people, but, not too many. Experiencing this radical, fast, unexpected shift in my wants and identity felt really personal. I was also afraid of all the people who famously like to tell childfree people that they'll change their mind one day would all show up and point fingers.</p> <p>On the other hand, if I'm too secretive about TTC or at least someday planning to TTC, I'm nervous that people will think any pregnancies are unplanned and very unwelcome accidents. I'd find it hard to cope with those kinds of assumptions -- especially since I'm a women's health nurse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177197 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 14:33:56 +0000 googly-eyes 1177197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't but people do sort of know the timelines we are considering for #2 although I doubt we'll say we're actively ttc when the time comes!</p> <p>ETA It wasn't much of a try though...we were actually still surprised. Maybe if we had gone on long enough to be more proactive about it but we were lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1177167 Sun, 27 Oct 2013 14:14:31 +0000 HellOnHeels 1177167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, all! Appreciate the different perspectives!</p> <p>My mum and maternal grandmother were over last night and made comments that they're ready to be a grandmother and great-grandmother, respectively, and for a baby to be around! I'm close with both of them and so wanted to tell them our plan, but just laughed it off. I'm hoping to keep it a secret until we're KO, but if we happen to miscarry or are having other problems I will probably look for support from at least my mum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176362 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 19:25:11 +0000 MrsKoala 1176362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We told no one and I'm glad that we did it that way. No pressure and no questions from anyone about it. And then we waited 12 weeks to tell our families about the baby as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176359 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 19:21:28 +0000 theonewhere 1176359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not just yet, but we don't plan to tell anyone. Well, anyone else. I've told one of our closest friends that we're thinking about it, because he and I are considering forming a business, but nobody else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176215 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 16:48:08 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1176215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were only thinking about TTC when we got KO, but we didn't tell a soul... In fact, we didn't tell a soul until 13 weeks and then only a few people. We finally started telling around 24 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176212 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 16:44:38 +0000 petunia354 1176212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did not tell a soul. For us, it would have just invited intrusive comments and questions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176184 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:59:50 +0000 MamaCate 1176184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone in advance although I hinted to a few friends that it may be on the horizon. We were lucky that we were able to conceive fairly quickly and we also waited to tell family until after the initial 8 wk appt, then went public at 12 weeks.<br /> As a potential cautionary tale, when we told my cousin about our first pregnancy, he mentioned that they were "trying". I think they told a handful of other people. From that point, it took an additional 2 years and IVF for them and now they are finally pregnant and expecting twins. I don't know if they regret it because I never asked, but it did lead to some annoying conversations with my mom, "don't you think they want kids? do you think I should ask them? etc". They did not tell us they were seeking IF treatment or anything, which is totally their choice, but did tell us once they hit the 12 week mark. I am so happy for them but humbled by the struggle they have gone through... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176180 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:55:42 +0000 cavalierkcs 1176180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did, and I wish we kept it to ourselves because it's such a personal thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176175 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:50:27 +0000 Cole 1176175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have told one friend,I don't think my husband has told anyone and if he has it was probably the husband of my friend. I sort of want to tell everyone but potentially having to give bad news month in and month out sounds awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176142 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:21:14 +0000 MrsF 1176142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: I like how you put this. I'm not a teller either :) We didn't tell anyone and people were happily surprised. My sister even asked if we got pregnant on purpose. Um, yes. They were all thrilled for us though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176136 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:14:48 +0000 littlek 1176136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>IRL, we have told no one. I told all of HB that we are TTC. So, shhh don't tell anyone. :) LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176133 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:11:32 +0000 LindsayInNY 1176133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part, no. At least not initially. Now that its been 10 months, some friends know we're at least trying. DHs family knows, mine don't. We won't tell until we're 12 weeks either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176124 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:04:18 +0000 looch 1176124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176112 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 14:52:48 +0000 blackbird 1176112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My close friends knew. But the cat was out of the bag after my first m/c. I'm pretty open with my friends when we'll start trying for a second. We're all at that stage where we're talking kid spacing and what's tough about what age, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176097 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 14:32:04 +0000 SweetMamaM 1176097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were fairly open about it to anyone who asked. We were also open about the fact that I had some reproductive issues and that it could take some time. I think it saved us from a lot of those prying "when are you having kids?" questions that would have been quite hurtful during the couple of insanely long cycles that I had. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176073 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 13:54:43 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1176073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In real life, I told @HLK. That's it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176068 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 13:50:19 +0000 jh524 1176068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my SIL because she asked and I told my mom and sister. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-anyone-you-were-ttc#post-1176055 Sat, 26 Oct 2013 13:41:40 +0000 bhbee 1176055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a teller (in general, not just TTC). I handle things best without people asking about it and offering unwanted advice - to me that is more painful than the potential support people give. of course that does not apply to hellobee :happy: </p> <p>I think it is very personal though what works for you. I am very close to my mom but we wouldn't always make the same choices on timing, etc and for me it's easier to tell when the news is happy and no longer up for debate. similarly we didn't tell anyone LO's name until she was here.</p> <p>with LO we told immediate family at 9 weeks after we'd seen the heartbeat twice (I have recurrent early miscarriages so wasn't telling until the odds were in my favor). at that point I did think I would benefit from support if things went south. everyone else found out after we passed the NT screening. </p>