https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 12:56:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2608251 Mon, 22 Aug 2016 09:27:36 +0000 combatlibby 2608251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I laughed at your "cold feet" comment in the original post.</p> <p>I feel I'm more open to my good friends about us TTC for #2. My dearest mom-friend C is 11 weeks with her third. Our boys were both born March 2015 so we spend a lot of time together. I asked that she let me know once she got a BFP so we could start TTC because I want a belly buddy.</p> <p>I wouldn't feel comfortable telling my family or in-laws that we are TTC. That's probably a common thing. I see them the most and family can sometimes be pushy about pregnancy ("are you pregnant yet? what about now? and now?" Ugh! No thank you. My mother knows we want another, but not that we are actively trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2451070 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 12:49:25 +0000 dc yoga bee 2451070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Happy Bday!!! We get asked a lot more when number two is gonna come, and the first one is only 8.5months! I've only told a couple of people we are thinking about number 2. We were pretty private about #1 as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2451045 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 12:35:39 +0000 KT326 2451045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Way more people knew when we were trying for #1 only because it was our first time going through infertility treatments and I wanted the support. But for #2, I'm keeping it to just us and maybe a couple close friends. I really want to be able to do a big announcement. I missed out on that with our first one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2451027 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 12:25:55 +0000 QueensBee 2451027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one had a clue about #1 but a few close friends knew about #2. They were TTC too, so it was a common topic of conversation at our girls' brunches. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2451015 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 12:18:16 +0000 LovelyPlum 2451015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: yeah, we are already unionized, so we try to approach it in that way, too. We ARE workers, shittily paid ones at that, and we help this place run. TheRe is no good reason why we should have to tip-toe around having kids. Even still, we have to fight really hard for our benefits, particularly family issues. There's currently a state working group for grad students in the state system focusing on leave, but who knows how long that will take. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2451004 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 12:12:54 +0000 nana87 2451004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: omg I can't believe people are being so hostile! That's terrible. My university is in the middle of a big grad student unionization push, led by a lot of folks in my department, so whenever I talk about parent issues with people it's usually in that context of how we're workers. The university has actually changed to be a bit better with its family policies for grad students since the push, even though they're fighting unionization </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450948 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 11:41:56 +0000 LovelyPlum 2450948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: haha, yes, the same thing happens here, but there's more of us, so it's spread out. Actually, around this time last year, two others in the department said "f-it" and got pregnant and now have beautiful babies (their 2nd and 3rd). There are 4 women in our program with babies, and two of them are waaaay more outspoken than me. But, of course, since there's several of us now, we've had some pushback from other grad students (one in particular) about forming a "mommy cult" and "getting all kinds of special treatment." Say WHAT?!?! We get no special treatment, and the reason we're together is because this shizz is really hard to do in grad school. Any gains we've made is because we have worked our asses off for them, thankyouverymuch. Gah! And, oh PS-no one talks to the MEN with kids in the program like this, so shut it. :shocked: /end rant </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450946 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 11:41:37 +0000 FaithFertility 2450946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope we were not vocal about it, just would say when the ime is right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450945 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 11:41:26 +0000 travellingbee 2450945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More people knew about trying for #2 eventually because of the IF issues we ended up having. But at first no one knew. With #1, we were pretty open with family that we wanted kids asap after we got married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450943 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 11:40:47 +0000 mediagirl 2450943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one IRL knew we were TTC. It wouldn't change if we ever decided to do it again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450937 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 11:38:31 +0000 LovelyPlum 2450937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: happy birthday!!! Hoping for b-day sexy time for you tonight! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450640 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 08:58:14 +0000 Smurfette 2450640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: thanks! I hope so, will find out tonight! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2450628 Fri, 05 Feb 2016 08:55:54 +0000 Applesandbananas 2450628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: happy birthday! 🎉🎈🎂🍷 I hope your DH gave you the present you were hoping for!! Enjoy your day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449810 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 18:55:16 +0000 petunia354 2449810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't talk about it with anyone! I'm guessing some people are expecting an announcement any time now after our loss in the fall but we'll be keeping this pregnancy to ourselves for a while still! I'm super private about my family plans, I don't need anyone analyzing my sex life, lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449762 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 18:11:55 +0000 Finfan 2449762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't tell anyone either time but I think DH told his sister the second time. Maybe even the first. I'm not sure. They are very close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449724 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 17:20:43 +0000 daniellemybelle 2449724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a lot of people have an idea that we are going to TTC soon. We get asked about plans for #2 allllll the time and I use my trip to Spain as an excuse for holding off. So I think it will come as a shock to no one if we get pregnant shortly after I return from my trip. I try to not come out and say, "We will TTC when I get back," but I know DH has :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449475 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 15:02:11 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2449475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell many people we were TTC #1 until I had my miscarriages. When I had my miscarriages TTC #2, I started answering questions about when we were having another baby with letting people know it doesn't come so easily for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449470 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 14:59:53 +0000 pwnstar 2449470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't tell anyone we were TTC #1. And the only people who knew we were TTC #2 were several good friends of mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449459 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 14:52:05 +0000 fancyfunction 2449459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel with #2 I mentioned it on a casual way to people as in we're open to the idea of another baby now whereas we hadn't been prior. We #1 we didn't tell anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449325 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:56:49 +0000 nana87 2449325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I talk about it less, but more people ask me so maybe more people do know?? But they don't know the specifics necessarily. I'm in a phd program, and it's this weird thing where people who want to have kids feel like they can't talk about it openly, BUT because I do have a child, they come to me to talk about it, haha. So I've actually talked about wanting to have a 2nd to more people in this quasi-professional/collegial/friendly way than the first time around...but like, haven't talked to my close friends or parents in the same way that I did when we were ttc #1</p> <p>@LovelyPlum: do you get that too in your program? I'm like the student/mama spokesperson of my department, apparently </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449304 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:41:49 +0000 Happygal 2449304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but #1 took a long time. This time round, I wasn't even really sure we were in the game b/c I had only had 1 cycle postpartum that had lasted 1 day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449296 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:35:28 +0000 mrsjyw 2449296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. It was actually the opposite. People assumed we were or going to try soon after our 1 year anniversary for our first. They weren't as nosy with the second and we didn't really talk about it outside of our immediate family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449282 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:22:36 +0000 blackbird 2449282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People always wanted to know when we we're having a second and I was vague about the timeline "maybe sometime next year". But we got pregnant the first month, so *shrug*. I've always been open with friends about having kids </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449279 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:21:51 +0000 peachykeen 2449279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not trying quite yet (probably mid-year), but I kept it super secret the first time and was really paranoid about giving the secret away - it just felt so personal. But I have been discussing child spacing and whatnot with other parents quite a bit in the meantime, so I don't think I'm being all that private about it this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449272 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:19:18 +0000 Alivoo01 2449272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope and I'm kind of glad we didn't since we lost that baby. People started asking right around the time we lost the baby/during my recovery time from the D&amp;C so they knew we would be TTC shortly again. Otherwise, we didn't tell anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449221 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 13:00:39 +0000 Smurfette 2449221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: He said March but then last night he said something about June, but I am 75% sure he was just joking around. My bday is tomorrow, so I am hoping my present is throwing the condoms away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449200 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 12:50:07 +0000 LovelyPlum 2449200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: thank you! And I hope your DH's cold feet go away soon. Any idea what his new timeline might be? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449198 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 12:49:11 +0000 catomd00 2449198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 we did try for, and 2 we didn't tell anyone we were trying. We don't really see it as anyone else's business try need to know. It happened quickly so it never came up with anyone anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449187 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 12:46:41 +0000 BandDmommy 2449187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 was happy surprise. We tried for #2 for 6 months so lots of people knew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-tell-more-people-when-you-were-ttc-2-verses-1#post-2449183 Thu, 04 Feb 2016 12:44:53 +0000 Smurfette 2449183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: I know the feeling. My time is way less then yours and I think it is hard. I hope this spring and summer go by fast for you!</p> <p>I guess I am just a chatty one! Granted it is still under 10 people, but big difference! </p>