Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 22 Apr 2026 03:17:40 +0000 travelgirl1 on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2381080 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 21:39:31 +0000 travelgirl1 2381080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not with my first. I needed time to recover from morning sickness and general pregnancy. But after my second, even with the horrendous morning sickness again, I am really excited about trying for another. Now, I have c-sections so I don't want to be pregnant just yet, but I do often feel broody. Silva on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2381072 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 21:25:39 +0000 Silva 2381072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. Baby fever didn't hit me until my daughter was two years old! We had practical reasons to wait. But I also wanted to give my baby a chance to be the baby for awhile. I wanted to savor it. And I wanted to give my body a chance to rebound a little bit. That said, We are planning on 3-4. I'm pregnant with #2 now, and the next ones will have to be a little closer (we waited until my daughter was over two to start TTC, miscarried, and now there will be a 3 year 4 month age gap). I think we will start TTC again when the next one is 16-18 months old. GoGoSnoGirl on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2381064 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 21:21:42 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2381064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think I do have baby fever again already & DD is only 6mo. I'm AMA, so I feel like if we are going to have 2 we'd better get on it, but admittedly, sex is about the last thing I'm ever thinking about these days, so.... I'm going to have to get more inspired than I am. I'm also ebf still & on the pill, so we have some conversations that need to happen at the very least, & them maybe we can set least start ntnp. Not sure DH is ready for the "threat" of 2 just yet, though. He's not nearly as patient or calm with DD, even though she's a fairly good baby. So I just ogle all the other babies I see (& pregnant mamas). :happy: littleblessings on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2381045 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 21:00:37 +0000 littleblessings 2381045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. The day DD was born my SO and I said we wanted another. Major baby fever started at 5 months. Got put on the pill at that time and then found out I was pregnant when she was 9.5 months. LilSprinkles on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2381041 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 20:55:20 +0000 LilSprinkles 2381041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! DS was an easy baby. I was very content with how life was, and had no need to shake anything up. MrsBrewer on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380509 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 14:13:17 +0000 MrsBrewer 2380509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @anonysquire: so sorry to hear about your health issues :-( I hope they get resolved quickly! MrsBrewer on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380508 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 14:12:49 +0000 MrsBrewer 2380508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm in the minority, but yes! DH and I have been NTNP since LO was born. She is now 6 months, I'm not pregnant yet, but hope I am soon! I am ebf so I'm sure that's part of it! MrsKoala on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380205 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:57:06 +0000 MrsKoala 2380205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, I didn't really want to try for another until my LO was 17 months. LAZB on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380204 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:56:39 +0000 LAZB 2380204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @LindsayLou: my baby is 10 months today, and has been a pretty easy baby from the start. I thought I was pregnant when she was 11 weeks old (5 positive tests, but somehow not actually pregnant), and at first I was terrified, but then I desperately wanted another baby. Since then the baby craziness has gotten a little more under control, but I would still be thrilled to have a baby as soon as possible. I am still breast feeding, and no period yet, but look forward to ttc soon. oliviaoblivia on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380201 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:55:45 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2380201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @coopsmama: I think it's the 36 days left pregnant lady freaking out. What if our third is the colicky baby?! Our girls are so easy and have been so lovely, what if I'm upsetting the apple cart? Can I produce a third awesome unicorn baby? raspberries on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380149 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:26:48 +0000 raspberries 2380149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My DS is 4.5 months, and I'm definitely ready for another one - but he's also possibly the most laid back baby I've ever met. I think part of me keeps waiting for his sleep to go to hell, or his temperament to change into a demon-baby, or all of this other stuff my mom-friends are always warning me about, which is keeping us from just going for it. anonysquire on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380135 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:17:46 +0000 anonysquire 2380135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm surprised there's not more people who wanted their kids close. Mine are not crazy close, but they are best friends. My oldest gives the youngest about 5 million hugs and kisses a day. She is always trying to hold him. And he think the world revolves around her. He thinks she's the greatest thing in the world. Even going on 9 months of my sons colic, this has been the best!!! And I would have been trying for another already if I wasn't having health problems. [attach=1857/15/nyzx9m.450x600.image.jpg] coopsmama on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380133 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 11:15:59 +0000 coopsmama 2380133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @oliviaoblivia: It cracks me up that you said that knowing what you know now you wouldn't have made the same reckless decision because mine two are still the easiest kids ever. I really consider this the easiest age gap - and having talked with a couple gals I've met who have had the same age gap and who have other gaps as well, they agree it's a breeze and SO much fun, too. :) You will be just fine. :) :heart: To the OP, yes. I felt like I was ready to get pregnant again the month after I delivered my first. We NTNP from the get go and I got pregnant a little before 4 months PP. The kids should have been about 12.5 months apart but I carried until 42 weeks putting them at solidly 13 months apart. :) It has seriously been the BEST. I seriously considered doing the same thing after my 2nd was born just because I knew our family wasn't complete and I loved the age gap that much but I knew my body needed some time to heal. We just started NTNP again last month and I found out I'm pregnant again a week ago. 2 and 3 will hopefully be 25 months apart. littlebug on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380091 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:51:56 +0000 littlebug 2380091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh.Hell.NO. And D was a super easy baby. But my recovery wasn't great, and sex still was painful/uncomfortable for a good year-plus after delivery. No. Also, because D was so easy, I was (and still am, to some degree) so afraid that a 2nd would be a nightmare, and I didn't want to mess up what we had. But that's me. Everyone's family chooses to do things differently and that's their choice. Only you know your family (and your body!) best. daniellemybelle on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380084 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:48:45 +0000 daniellemybelle 2380084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Noooooooo. I had a hard time even being open to the idea of having another for a while. Even after the hard newborn stage passed, I felt like - I finally got this, why mess it up with another ornery infant, haha? LuLu Mom on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2380073 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 10:45:27 +0000 LuLu Mom 2380073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, our first got sick around 4 months, so we spent 4-12 months running endless tests, going to doctor's appointments, ect. so there was no time/thoughts of another baby we were trying to get our first one healthy. I knew I wanted a 2 1/2 year age gap as well. Modern Daisy on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2379970 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:35:17 +0000 Modern Daisy 2379970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No. I was in complete shock and was convinced we were done! Mrs. Pickle on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant/page/2#post-2379962 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:32:49 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2379962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD is 8 weeks old and she makes me want all the babies! I know I'll have another baby one day somehow. We are waiting until she's a year old to even plan our next transfer. She has to be weaned before I can go back on fertility meds and I want to have some time with just her before (hopefully) getting pregnant again. BKCaribBaby on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379949 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:28:53 +0000 BKCaribBaby 2379949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, but I had a harder infant, and I started a new job when she was 5 months. SeptMomma12 on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379933 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:22:19 +0000 SeptMomma12 2379933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: Haha it took me close to a year as well! I really could not understand how anyone would ever choose to do that again. But I'm almost 7 months in with #2 now and having the same experience as @Truth Bombs: She's a dream baby and I can't describe how amazing it is to see them interact with each other....ovaries explode daily :shocked: We are 100% done though! snowjewelz on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379930 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:20:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2379930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No way! I absolutely did not have baby fever back then! Between breastfeeding and DD not being a great sleeper, we had our hands full. Now that she's a year old, I definitely have the fever but we're still gonna wait to stick to our plans. We're looking for a 2.5-3 year gap. MenagerieMama on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379929 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 09:20:41 +0000 MenagerieMama 2379929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. I do have baby fever but I really want to give my body time to recover and give the next pregnancy the best chance at success. Most of the evidence points to 12-18 mo between pregnancies to reduce risk and I could never forgive myself if I went into preterm labor and maybe could have prevented it! When I had gastro last month I definitely reinforced waiting longer because it took everything out of me just to take care of LO and I knew I'd feel better in a couple days! Alivoo01 on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379906 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 08:59:58 +0000 Alivoo01 2379906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! Even when we got the okay to DTD again at 6 weeks, it didn't feel right down there and when we tried (even with lots and lots of lube), it was super uncomfy. I love all things pregnancy/baby related too! lamariniere on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379860 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 08:12:25 +0000 lamariniere 2379860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Ha ha. No way! Our first was a high needs baby and didn't STTN until just after a year. However, if my two had been born in reverse order, I could have maybe entertained the thought of having a 2nd earlier, because my 2nd child was so easy in comparison. Adira on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379849 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 08:00:24 +0000 Adira 2379849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Sort of. We knew we wanted two fairly close in age, so I wanted to start trying with LO1 was 6 months. AF returned around 9 months and we started NTNP. But it wasn't really baby fever - it was more just trying to stick to our plans. hellobeeboston on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379799 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 03:59:48 +0000 hellobeeboston 2379799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No!!!! Although my husband was like yeah! Let's do it again! I thought he was insane. Haha. LO 1 was a really great baby too, especially looking back, but at the time it was totally overwhelming. We ended up with a three year age gap which is good, it has its own challenges, mainly, the 3-year old :/ 2littlepumpkins on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379792 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 02:17:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2379792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Well we started talking about it at 9 months but waited til about 1.5 to start trying and lo2 wasn't born until lo1 was 3. Lo2 isn't the greatest sleeper (sttn at 5 weeks? What?!) hit compared to lo1 is a dream newborn. He makes me feel like I could try for another NOW if life circumstances permitted. But part of that feeling may be because he is my last. Do what's right for you. I know a lot of people are happy with super close spacing. I really enjoyed he freedom to travel and do other things with my first when she was a toddler. Either is ok! LindsayLou on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379787 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 01:24:27 +0000 LindsayLou 2379787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @anonysquire: Agreed. It's such a personal decision, and what's best for each family is different. anonysquire on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379784 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 00:58:39 +0000 anonysquire 2379784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes! I gave in and it was one of my best decisions. Ya, it might be crazy. But it's your family and only you and your husband should make the decisions on spacing. LindsayLou on "Did you want to try for your second when your first was an infant?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-to-try-for-your-second-when-your-first-was-an-infant#post-2379782 Mon, 07 Dec 2015 00:49:02 +0000 LindsayLou 2379782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Thanks for all of the responses! Definitely good to hear some different perspectives and to hear that there are at least a few others out there as crazy as I am. Honestly, I don't think we'll start trying for another until our first is at the very least 10 months. Realistically, it's more likely to be when she's around 14 months. The baby fever is there, and I think we could handle that gap, but it's not what we want. I don't want to miss the baby phase with my LO and I don't want to feel so overwhelmed when we have another that I can't enjoy it.