https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 03:52:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2544414 Mon, 09 May 2016 11:13:16 +0000 KT326 2544414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't mind having visitors, I just wish they had waited until the next day to come. LO was born at 3pm, as I was being moved to my recovery room around 5:30pm we had 8 people show up! I was a mess, exhausted and starving. Next time, depending on the time I deliver, I am going to ask people to wait until the next day to visit. It was just too much. Plus I want DS to be the first visitor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2544393 Mon, 09 May 2016 10:56:49 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2544393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a c-section. I was happy to have visitors but I wish I had been more forceful about limiting their time. Everyone who visited stayed for a long time and they were all hanging around my hospital room. Meanwhile I'm on IVs, bleeding, in pain, and nursing around the clock. Nursing was the only thing that got them out of the room - "Ok, baby needs to eat, everyone leave NOW." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2544208 Mon, 09 May 2016 08:43:22 +0000 snowjewelz 2544208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't care either way, but was glad only parents came b/c I was so tired and in such a daze! I felt much better when people came to visit at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543760 Sat, 07 May 2016 19:48:57 +0000 Silva 2543760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved having my parents and brother visit. It was special to share with them, and one of my favorite photos of my mom ever was taken of her holding my daughter. I really treasure it (and the memories- but those are a little fuzzy). My in laws came too. Fair is fair, I guess...<br /> Actually, my in laws brought me a massive turkey club sandwich. I hadn't eaten in like three days and I Inhaled it. So I really liked them coming too :silly:</p> <p>Eta: This was all like- 8 hours after she was born. I didn't want any family there during labor and delivery! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543753 Sat, 07 May 2016 19:22:16 +0000 Ms. RV 2543753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nooooooo. I am a very private person when I am tired and/or in pain and after 27 hours of active labor and a bad tear I barely wanted OH there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543685 Sat, 07 May 2016 16:26:38 +0000 catlady 2543685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not while laboring (in fact, we didn't even tell anyone we were in the hospital until I had already gotten an epidural). Once LO arrived, I liked having my dad and brother visit, and also MIL. I didn't really want anyone else. We had some aunts and cousins visit and I found that awkward. I wasn't in the hospital very long and I felt like between visitors, nurses, doctors, midwives, lactation consultants, and social workers, there was someone in our room like every hour. I barely got any time with just DH and LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543683 Sat, 07 May 2016 16:20:12 +0000 jhd 2543683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and MIL were in the room the whole time during labor and delivery. And we had some visitors after LO was born, a few were even unannounced. He was in the NICU and too critical during the first few days for visitors. I was glad for the support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543525 Sat, 07 May 2016 00:19:12 +0000 MrsLilybugg 2543525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only wanted family to visit at the hospital, but definitely nobody during labor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543484 Fri, 06 May 2016 20:42:59 +0000 irene 2543484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good question.... I actually didn't want anyone to visit other than my husband. My mom was in town so I didn't mind that too. I know a friend was visiting another friend who was giving birth at the same time and I was secretly praying she doesn't come visit me. She didn't. lol. I just was too exhausted to make small talks and think of things to say. Plus I look like a homeless person during my stay at the hospital. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543441 Fri, 06 May 2016 19:36:49 +0000 sapphire 2543441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we were happy to share LO with family and a few best friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543300 Fri, 06 May 2016 15:32:32 +0000 youboots 2543300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes we had about 10 visitors after the birth. Mom visited during my induction but not active labor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543289 Fri, 06 May 2016 15:19:39 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2543289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, and enjoyed my time with my son and DH. Our first family visited at about a week and a half. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543284 Fri, 06 May 2016 15:17:18 +0000 catomd00 2543284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not really. I was fine with immediate family but nothing beyond that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543247 Fri, 06 May 2016 14:44:18 +0000 PawPrints 2543247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! It was a special time for me and DH and LO to be alone and get to know each other together. Our families didn't visit until LO was 4 weeks old, and I'm so grateful we had that time to gain our confidence as parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543245 Fri, 06 May 2016 14:43:46 +0000 avivoca 2543245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't this time. My boobs are going to be on display and I don't want to feel like I have to cover up if my pastor comes by or something. My parent's don't make a big deal about it, but I'd like to rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543234 Fri, 06 May 2016 14:32:37 +0000 brownepiano 2543234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only our friends visited. DH's family lives close enough they could have but they waited two weeks to come see us. I was a little bummed to not be able to show off the first grandchild in the hospital. </p> <p>I'd like visitors again this time, just once I am settled after delivery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543198 Fri, 06 May 2016 13:40:46 +0000 mfa_lady 2543198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't want a soul there during L&amp;D. After that, I know I'm in the minority, but I was happy to have visitors! Being in the hospital was already not super relaxing, so I actually liked getting visits "out of the way" before we went home. The visitors to our home the first couple of days (I was only in the hospital for one day) were more stressful to me than hospital visitors. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543182 Fri, 06 May 2016 13:26:15 +0000 ShootingStar 2543182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did want people to visit, but it was a little overwhelming in the moment. My parents came every day, on top of all sorts of in laws, and then our closest friends too. Some of the time it was great, other times people were arriving just as the LC got to my room, so I had to tell them to go wait somewhere else. And at one point we had so many people coming and going it was hard to BF and DS went way too long without me being able to try.</p> <p>We were there for several days last time, and I'm hoping we have a much shorter stay next time. I think we were there for 5 nights, including an overnight induction. This time I'll have a repeat c in the morning and I hope to only stay two nights. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543180 Fri, 06 May 2016 13:24:19 +0000 skipra 2543180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way during labor but both times my mom managed to drive me crazy.<br /> I thought I'd be OK with family visiting the day after my first was born and my mom was fine but I really did not want my in laws there. I didn't want to let go of my lo and was having trouble figuring out breastfeeding so I just wanted them to leave.<br /> With my second, we were alone a lot - DH was with LO1 and I was bored. I wanted more visitors! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543174 Fri, 06 May 2016 13:18:26 +0000 ineebee 2543174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wanted our closest friends and closest family (5 people total) there to meet the baby after the birth, but no more than that, especially since DS was in the NICU and it was really annoying to escort them in and out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543145 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:46:43 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2543145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: I definitely found have my toddler visit super taxing too! I was worried she was too loud and bother those around us. But i do agree, it's definitely very personal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543133 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:32:10 +0000 DesertDreams88 2543133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope to the nope to the nope. Maybe family, but they were all long distance except my mom.</p> <p>We had visitors pretty much daily for the first week postpartum at home, and then every other day for the first month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543131 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:29:44 +0000 Smurfette 2543131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes. It was boring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543130 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:29:11 +0000 mamabolt 2543130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes would have loved them! With LO1 we had my parents and sister on day one but no visitors day two and I was a bit bored! With LO2 DH was home sick with the flu after I delivered, mom and LO1 came to visit but again I was lonely and bored! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543124 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:24:22 +0000 Foodnerd81 2543124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: I think it's personality- I just wanted quiet time to bond with the baby and relax and rest if I could. I was happy to show them off to the few people who came but when they left I was tired. Even with my second when Dh went home to the toddler, I chatted with the nurses and was fine with the alone time. Especially after Dh brought lo to visit and meet the baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543109 Fri, 06 May 2016 12:12:17 +0000 DillonLion 2543109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beforehand this topic gave me so much anxiety. I didn't really want any visitors. Afterwards, I was so out of it and recovering from a hemmhorage that I was happy to see loved ones to sort of bring me back into reality, but I still struggled with some anxiety when I was trying to nurse with a room full of people or when a family member used my hospital room toilet and it looked like a murder scene from when I had just recently used it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543092 Fri, 06 May 2016 11:47:29 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2543092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't mind one bit! I honestly can't relate to people who don't want visitors at all (aside from complocations). We didn't even get half the visitors with DD2 as we did the first time and it was boring as crap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543084 Fri, 06 May 2016 11:39:41 +0000 rachiecakes 2543084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: that's true! :) My best friend had her son 10 months after J was born. When she invited us to the hospital I made sure to get 1000 pictures of us, the baby, the new parents, etc., because the regret was still so fresh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543054 Fri, 06 May 2016 11:05:47 +0000 coopsmama 2543054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. Not even a little bit. I wanted people to wait until we got home. (My hospital only keeps you for 24 hours for vaginal deliveries so it was hardly a long wait for anyone.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-you-want-visitors-in-the-hospital#post-2543050 Fri, 06 May 2016 11:03:55 +0000 looch 2543050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>During delivery no, but afterwards, I was open to it. I was in the hospital for 4 days and visitors came beginning on day 3. </p>