https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 22 Jun 2026 10:18:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519793 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:32:42 +0000 winniebee 2519793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@petitenoisette: I think you're probably right. He's a pretty perceptive little kid. I'm guessing that he knows on some level and is just waiting for us to tell him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519792 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:32:05 +0000 winniebee 2519792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaG: Ty is the same. Excited about EVERYTHING!! Maybe I will have some cupcakes made for when we tell him, and then if it's pink inside it's a girl, blue inside boy. He might still cry, but at least he'll have a cupcake :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519765 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:11:25 +0000 Truth Bombs 2519765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was upset for a hot second "but I wanted a girl baby! I don't want a boy baby!" and got over it very quickly and was then fully on board for her baby brother. But I will say now that he's 4 months old she has asked a couple times to have a baby sister too. Sorry girlfriend, it's not happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519760 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 12:06:28 +0000 MamaG 2519760@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any specific advice as C wanted a sister and that's what she got. I do think doing a fun little reveal for the kids might be worth it. C is a little older but the sun being out is a cause for celebration in her world. We aren't reveal type people either, but I think even just with the boys it could be fun and done simply. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519691 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 11:06:45 +0000 petitenoisette 2519691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure about the gender disappointment because I haven't yet experienced this, but his comments kind of sound to me more like he knows about the baby and is trying to draw out the info from you? Like testing you with his comments. Hopefully he'll be excited either way when you let him know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519664 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:48:08 +0000 Periwinkle 2519664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a bit soon for me to answer this, but we had been talking with our son (almost 3 1/2) for a long time about babies before we were even pregnant with this baby. His automatic response from the beginning was that he wanted a "girl baby" but that was mostly based, we think, on the fact that 3 of his little friends all have baby sisters. He would also bring this up out of the blue, so we were worried what his reaction would be when we eventually found out and then shared that news with him.</p> <p>Fast forward to two weeks ago when we found out what we are having (a boy!) and told our son that he was going to be a big brother. He seemed to immediately forget that he had ever "asked" for a girl and is now SO excited to share with people that he is getting a baby brother! </p> <p>I imagine it's bit different for your son who already has a brother, but I also think that children of this age can be pretty flexible when it comes to things like this. I will be wishing you all the best though, as I know you want to protect his feelings, no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519639 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:30:11 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2519639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: So cute! I am sure he will get used to the idea if its a boy. I hope its a girl though! not to add to the pressure lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519615 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 10:14:22 +0000 Shantuck 2519615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm anticipating disappointment. My son very much wants a little sister (even though he doesn't know I'm pregnant yet.... just talks about it a lot). My husband and I are planning on having a little gender reveal party with just the three of us with a cake so he can find out in a celebratory manner. I'm half expecting to see his face fall when we find out it's a boy (don't know why I'm so convinced I'm having a boy!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519514 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 08:55:22 +0000 Silva 2519514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My three year old wanted a girl- she was very clear about this when we told her about the baby. She is 3. We are team green. We have talked a lot about baby brothers, and talked about her friends that are boys, and who has little brothers, etc.<br /> I know its not the same since your son already has a baby brother- but our daughter has totally come around and seems pretty excited about either outcome at this point, and I"m about half way through my pregnancy now.<br /> Maybe you can find some books or stories about groups of brothers? We have read some Stella and Sam books and talked about how she is such a wonderful big sister to her brother- that kind of thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519486 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 08:30:19 +0000 autumnlove 2519486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, they really wanted a boy baby but they got over it pretty fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519473 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 08:24:07 +0000 babynumber1 2519473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter would have been super disappointed if our second LO was a boy. She wanted a sister so bad. I think making the reveal fun for him will be a step in the right director and enforcing how awesome brothers are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519446 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 08:03:52 +0000 HappyBaker 2519446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think something that may help too is once you know to find books about getting a baby brother/sister specifically to sort of reinforce that's what you are getting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519430 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:47:51 +0000 sslm 2519430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. My daughter was and still is super disappointed to be getting a brother. She really wanted a sister! She's almost 3yo and baby will be coming in a month or so. We just keep talking about how a brother will be awesome, and I just assume (hope) that she'll be fine with it once he's here!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519429 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:45:02 +0000 whiskers 2519429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD1 is consistent in wanting the baby to be a girl. I think it is easier since she already has a sister, I won't feel bad in not being able to give her one. Honestly, I kind of am okay with disappointment happening at this age, because it prepares them for the world. </p> <p>Hopefully it turns out to be a girl and is a non-issue for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519418 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:31:21 +0000 PinkElephant 2519418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the same boat - my almost four year old DD already has a little sister, but is going to be pretty miffed if this baby is a boy. She's been obsessively asking for a little sister recently even though, like your kids, mine don't officially know. I'm exoecting her disappointment, so I won't be hurt if it happens. I had a thread on gender reveals for kids a few days ago and soneone suggested gifting my daughters boy baby dolls if appropriate to help warm them up to the idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519417 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:30:05 +0000 skipra 2519417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also expecting our 3rd and LO1 insists it has to be a another boy. We are going TG so he will just have to accept his new sibling when s/he is born. But I am really feeling boy so it probably won't be an issue.<br /> My friend recently had her second boy and her son insisted that it was a girl the entire pregnancy! I haven't seen them much to know how he's adjusted to a brother but he seemed ok with it. I guess kids tend to have a strong preference and are not afraid to hide it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519412 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:24:46 +0000 winniebee 2519412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: hmm maybe... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519411 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:23:45 +0000 hummusgirl 2519411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't do some big reveal - I think this is a case where you shouldn't try to force him to be happy if he's not. Just validate that it's ok to be disappointed and acknowledge that he really wanted a sister. By the time the baby comes he hopefully will have gotten over it, but I think trying to tell him he shouldn't be upset will just make it worse.</p> <p>ETA: To answer the original question, my DS1 seemed a little disappointed that DS2 was a boy but now loooooves him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519404 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:16:34 +0000 winniebee 2519404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KayKay: Hahahahah. I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519399 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:13:34 +0000 danda 2519399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friends son had that issue...3 years old and wanted a sister, but baby was a brother. They told him early that it was a boy and by the time baby was born he had accepted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519394 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:08:41 +0000 KayKay 2519394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: K has done the same thing in reverse -- saying she wants another new baby, but a boy this time. so i think it's just normal thinking for that age? to want to balance it out?</p> <p>we also had friends who did a gender reveal for their 3rd. they had 2 girls, revealed it was a boy, and all of the pictures are of their 4yo bawling because she wanted another girl. haha. but she loves her brother now, so i think they get over it pretty quickly, especially once the baby arrives :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519391 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:06:17 +0000 lamariniere 2519391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I'm not really the reveal type either. :happy: I was thinking something simple like cupcakes with a colored filling or a small gift to unwrap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519386 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:03:59 +0000 winniebee 2519386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: everyone we know in real life has a mix! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519385 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 07:03:31 +0000 winniebee 2519385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: we weren't planning on it. We aren't the gender reveal type! But maybe we should. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519380 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 06:59:15 +0000 FaithFertility 2519380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: He sounds so cute! Does he have any friends or family members that have 3 of same gender?! Maybe once he knows about #3 show him some have mixed and some have the same?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519373 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 06:53:39 +0000 lamariniere 2519373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine didn't, but he was about 2.5 when we found out the sex. Are you planning to do some kind of reveal for your LOs? Maybe the excitement of a reveal would help take away possible gender disappointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-child-have-gender-disappointment-with-sibling#post-2519355 Fri, 08 Apr 2016 06:37:36 +0000 winniebee 2519355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, we have not et told DS1 (almost 4) that we're pregnant. However, I'm sure he has overheard us and/or figured it out. We are waiting until after we get NIPT results next week to share with him. DS2 is only 16 months and has no clue what's going on, obviously. </p> <p>But DS1 keeps talking about getting another baby...specifically a SISTER. A few weeks ago, he came downstairs in the morning and said "I heard I'm getting a sister." I asked him where he heard that and he said he made it up. I explained to him that we aren't having another baby yet, but if we do, it could be a boy. To which he responded "But I already have a brother." </p> <p>This week, we were playing in DS2's room and DS1 looked around and started tapping his chin. Then said "Hmmm. Where should we put my sister's bed?" Again, I told him that we weren't having another baby yet, but when we do, we can't choose whether it's a boy or a girl, and it could be a boy! To which he said "well this time I want to choose and it should be a sister."</p> <p>Obviously we don't know the sex of this baby yet, but we will next week. I already have 2 boys and just have a feeling this baby will also be a boy. How would you break the news to your child if they really wanted a specific sex, but you were having the other?? </p>