https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 12:48:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you/page/2#post-1115764 Fri, 27 Sep 2013 02:32:48 +0000 imbali 1115764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>like some other PPs, I've never been weighed by my OB! And when I said to her at a past appt, oh I feel like a bit of a whale, she said - when I look at you, all I see is healthy breastmilk lol :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115674 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 23:23:25 +0000 Ree723 1115674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even get weighed at my appointments! I was weighed at my initial midwife appt at 12 weeks so they could get a BMI measurement on file and that was it. Of course I weighed myself at home so I knew what I was gaining, but my midwives said the number on the scale doesn't matter that much. They can tell visually if weight gain is becoming a concern and other than that, having a pregnant woman step on the scale every appointment does nothing but cause anxiety about gaining too much or too little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115671 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 23:21:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 1115671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got lectured a lot starting around the last month or two of my pregnancy, but for the opposite reason. I lost 15 lbs in the first trimester, didn't come back up to my pre-pregnancy weight until well into the second, and overall only put on a gross weight of 4 lbs*. It started with gentle suggestions that I eat more, then graduated to telling me it wasn't healthy for me to diet while I was pregnant because it would hurt the baby. I felt like such a failure of a mother before I even had him...and the kicker was that by that time I would eat things like an entire box of Kraft mac and cheese--the kind with the unnaturally orange powder and no nutritional value--just to try to gain weight. Almost everything made me sick, and even when I was able to eat something it didn't seem to matter.</p> <p>But E was born super healthy, creeping up on 9lbs, and at my first pp visit my midwife, who was a big shocked by how big he was, told me we were a text book example of a baby taking exactly what he needed from his mother.</p> <p>*I always cringe talking about this, because I know a ton of women would have loved this, but since he was born I've put on 15 lbs. Breastfeeding did not make me lose weight at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115666 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 23:09:56 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1115666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 26 lbs with my first and my dr. always said i was on track.</p> <p>With this pregnancy, i have gained 21.5 at 31 weeks so i am going to end up gaining more than i did last time. my doctor mentioned this, but she said since i "look fine" she's not worried about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115622 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:32:48 +0000 Modern Daisy 1115622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Dr. didn't mention weight at all and didn't even look at my chart to see how much I had gained for each appointment. But people in my life constantly asked about weight gain, so much so that I felt like I should get more info in it (since I didn't even know how much I had gained!) So I finally asked him and he just looked at me and said "No, you look absolutely fine so I am not concerned". It turns out I gained about 29 lbs total, which is in the normal range, but of course everyone who asked me about my weight gain only put on like 20 lbs themselves and makes sure I know about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115614 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:28:37 +0000 Running Elley 1115614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained almost 50 pounds with E and the only time my doctor commented was when I gained 10 pounds in a month. He wasn't angry either- just wanted to make sure I was aware. This time he says that it looks good every time but I'm 31 weeks and have only gained just under 13 pounds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115600 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:23:14 +0000 luckypenny 1115600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 70 and OB never said anything to me. I was also only 115 when I got pregnant so I think she thought I should have gained some anyways to be healthier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115589 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:18:34 +0000 HLK208 1115589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doctor never said anything about my weight gain (even though I gained nearly 60 with my first). He yelled at me for doing too much though with my second pregnancy (um hello? How can I slow down with a toddler?!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115581 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:15:23 +0000 Penny Lane 1115581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my midwife never even weighed me!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115577 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 22:13:26 +0000 lemondrop 1115577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, my last ob was super easy going. This new one is fine, but tells me to gain more weight since I am losing weight... I tell him morning sickness is still going... he says that it should be over by now... then why am I still puking every day? </p> <p>I am definitely going back to my old OB when appointments become more frequent, I just wish his office hours weren't on my only work day, so I didn't have to see his coworkers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115428 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 21:04:14 +0000 erinpye 1115428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. Every woman's body is different, and we all handle pregnancy and postpartum weight differently. I would hope that unless there was a real risk, most doctors would understand what a sensitive time it is for women, and not make comments regarding weight gain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115381 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 20:51:53 +0000 ALV91711 1115381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I gained 60 lbs and my OB never said a word about it to me. 6 months PP and I only have about 10 more to lose. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115339 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 20:41:20 +0000 indi 1115339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd gained a good 10lbs by 9 weeks, but half of that had to be vacation weight (we were on our last day of vaca when I found out and MAN was I eating!). So my first few appointments he said that I was "eating well and that's great," or that DH was "sure doing a great job cooking" but now my last appointment I'd held steady so he gave me a prescription for some Buffalo Wild Wings. I'll take it! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115321 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 20:36:43 +0000 heartonastring 1115321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>God no. I had a midwife. I weighed myself and self-reported. She told me she typically worries more about women who don't gain enough than those who gain a little "too much." I gained 45 lbs and it was a total non-issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115149 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 19:57:27 +0000 boots 1115149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No! I would be totally put off if I was yelled at/reprimanded/whatever about my weight.</p> <p>I was overweight before my pregnancy, and never actually gained anything so that may be why. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115022 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 19:30:41 +0000 sslm 1115022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, my midwife never even weighed me!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115018 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 19:30:15 +0000 LovelyPlum 1115018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm super nervous about it. The nurse told me that my doctor is pretty laid back about weight gain, but I am not! I hate seeing the scale go up, and I'm already upset at myself for gaining 7 pounds in the first tri. I know rationally that my body will gain what it needs, but it's so hard to see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1115006 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 19:28:14 +0000 mrsbookworm 1115006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once I had a regular appt on a Monday and I had gained 1.5lbs in the previous two weeks They had me come back that Wednesday for a different test and the same dr looked at my chart and started lecturing me (not in a kind way) for gaining a pound and a half in two days! I corrected her and said that was my weight gain from the last two weeks. She just said "oh" and didn't apologize. I was really annoyed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112849 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:16:48 +0000 deerylou 1112849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only gained about 19 pounds, with about 1/3 of that being in the third trimester (and i went to 42 weeks). My OB made a few gentle comments about my lack of weght gain, letting me know it was okay to indulge occasionally, and reminding me to get my protein. I ate just fine, and had dessert every night, I guess I just didn't pack it on, as expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112832 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:13:15 +0000 avivoca 1112832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two nurses commented: One at the MFM office when the scale said 163 at 22 weeks, she asked me if that was a little high. The second time was at the midwife's office, and a nurse said, "Honey, don't you think you're going the wrong way?" when the scale showed that I had lost 4 pounds in two weeks. I reminded her that they put me on an 1800 calorie diet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112831 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:12:56 +0000 MapleMoose 1112831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see a different OB in the practice at every appointment. One doctor said in the second trimester "I really don't see much weight gain except your bulging belly so I don't think this is an issue." Another said in the third trimester "Hmm, you've actually lost weight!" I gained most of my weight in the second trimester and have been losing a little weight at each appointment in the third. Pregnancy is so different for everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112819 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:11:21 +0000 mrsmate 1112819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think yelling at a patient is ever appropriate, and I don't think I would stand for it if it happened to me! That said, nobody has ever brought up weight gain or loss with me, not even at my appt this week when we found out I gained 7lbs in 4wks! I gained about 30lbs w/my 1st, and at 26.5wks now I'm up maybe 2-3lbs since BFP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112815 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:10:54 +0000 yin 1112815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My doc is pretty easy going with my progress in both pregnancies. She doesn't worry too much as long as baby is healthy. I kept losing weight at the end with my first and haven't gained much with my second. She isn't bothered since it's related to my GD diet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112779 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 10:04:15 +0000 Anagram 1112779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: every OB is so different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112212 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:21:34 +0000 swurlygurl 1112212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got yelled out, and I started out pretty heavy AND gained 40 pounds. My Dr was only concerned when I obviously gained 4 lbs of swelling in one week, but that was for comfort reasons, not for weight gain/health. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112207 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:20:45 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1112207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even pregnant yet and I have had two out of three obgubs caution me about my weight with regards to becoming pregnant and having a healty pregnancy. The only one that didn't was my more overweight than myself first doctor. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112196 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:16:59 +0000 Caly 1112196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that sounds so stressful! Nothing has been said so far...I'm 30 weeks w/twins &amp; have gained approx 29lbs so far. I actually asked my dr at one point about my weight gain since seeing the high (to me) number surprised me and he actually laughed &amp; said there was nothing to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112153 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:08:51 +0000 mamimami 1112153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe because it's your third? My OBGYN lectured me a lot the first time and then with my second child she chilled out. I have heard other patients of my doc say the same thing -- once you show her you can have a kid and be OK, she backs off. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112146 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:07:27 +0000 MsLipGloss 1112146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I gained 60 . . . 6-0(!), and nobody batted an eye! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-doctor-yell-at-you#post-1112133 Thu, 26 Sep 2013 08:05:25 +0000 mrsjyw 1112133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i gained 40 and though i was concerned my ob was not. he said i was healthy the entire way and that my body was just doing what it needed to do </p>