https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 09:18:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38884 Wed, 21 Dec 2011 07:34:01 +0000 tequiero21 38884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i know my parents never did and i don't recall his parents ever asking. his parents may have asked what my parents did, assuming they were married. i'm sure my husband let them know before they met me though. who knows.</p> <p>btw, 42 years???? that's so awesome, congrats to your parents. i guess my parents are kinda close but doesn't seem that long. 37 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38770 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 21:15:55 +0000 daniellemybelle 38770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They didn't ask, but I came out and told them kind of in passing when we first met and they were asking about my family. DH did the same with my parents (both of our parents were divorced). I guess since we have divorce in both of our families, it wasn't a big secret or anything. I actually find it interesting that you could get all the way to engagement without your parents knowing about the other set of parents! But we are big sharers :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38235 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:17:20 +0000 mrsjazz 38235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws didn't, but both set of parents are divorced. Husband and I grew up with the same family dynamic: raised by single mothers, both our dads stopped being involved when we were around 4/5 but came back into our lives as young adults.</p> <p>Before we got engaged, my mother-in-law asked me if I felt I needed to be married first to have a child, because she desperately wanted a grandchild! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38228 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 13:11:59 +0000 Rescuemom10 38228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Actually I remember my MIL asking me if my parents were the first time I met her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38190 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 12:15:04 +0000 runsyellowlites 38190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No but that's probably b/c DH's parents were never married, but mine did divorce when I was a teen.</p> <p>I think it's a pretty valid question though and not just a korean thing (atleast it shouldn't be)... </p> <p>In a marriage series that DH and I went through it was talked about that coming from a divorced family can significantly raise your risk of divorce.... Has to do with learned behaviors in how to deal with trials and conflict. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38152 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 11:38:20 +0000 BelugaBean 38152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They never asked because they themselves were never really married (it's a complicated situation). But they wouldn't have anyway because my parents separated during my relationship with my husband and so they were somewhat present for the whole divorce process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38148 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 11:33:25 +0000 mediagirl 38148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His never asked but I think it's because he told his parents mine were still together way before I ever met them. I feel lucky that we both have parents that are still together after 38 and 45 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38146 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 11:30:13 +0000 heffalump 38146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents and in laws knew each other long before I met my hubby. Probably over 20 years. So they already know he has an awesome family with happily married parents.</p> <p>My SIL's parents are divorced and my parents don't care. She still has a nice family </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38109 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 10:43:22 +0000 chopsuey 38109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents asked about dynamic as well. Wanted to know that DH came from a loving family. Which he does! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-38056 Tue, 20 Dec 2011 10:05:24 +0000 mrsjyw 38056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: his parents never asked, but that's because DH &amp; I asked each other when we were dating. It wasn't a flat out direct question, but something that both of us (especially DH) thought was important. They knew via him that my parents were still married. Oddly enough, they have a very similar marriage/lifestyle so it's broken down the language barrier between them as they relate a lot to each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37724 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 22:01:59 +0000 junebugmama 37724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents had major concerns when they found out that DH's parents were divorced. It caused them to ask a number of different questions about DH's family, which to my parents, his family was not a favorable choice. After getting to know him though they realized that he was not a stereotypical product of that type of lifestyle and my father actually took him under his wing. DH and my parents are probably closer than he is to his own at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37721 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 22:00:26 +0000 MH.Abroad 37721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our families knew each other for years before we got engaged, so they already knew. Neither pair are divorced anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37720 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 21:58:01 +0000 Rubies 37720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents didn't ask about divorce (my in-laws are still married) but they asked a lot about their dynamic. My parents do EVERYTHING together and find it odd that my in-laws do NOTHING together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37707 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 21:53:35 +0000 twodoghouse 37707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband &amp; I dated for 4 years before getting engaged, so our parents knew a lot about each other by that point. So neither parents asked that of the other, but my mom has expressed that she's glad that both my sister and I's in-laws are still married (as are our mom &amp; dad). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37586 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 21:12:36 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 37586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine didn't. I guess it's not a Thai thing. Which is good, as there are many other Thai things that I don't get :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37568 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 21:06:10 +0000 chopsuey 37568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents asked if DH's parents were divorced. It's a korean thing. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-in-laws-ask-you-if-your-parents-were-divorced#post-37563 Mon, 19 Dec 2011 21:03:16 +0000 mrbee 37563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I asked Mrs. Bee's dad for her hand in marriage, I got back not an answer but a number of questions.</p> <p>I was surprised when as part of The Conversation, my future in-laws asked me about my parents' marital status. I didn't realize that if your parents are divorced, it's seen as not-a-good-thing in Korean culture.</p> <p>Luckily for all concerned, my parents are still happily married, 42 years after tying the knot! So I was able to give the good news to my future in laws. I was surprised at the whole exchange though, because I didn't even realize that parental divorce was something on people's radar.</p> <p>Did your in-laws ask you if your parents were divorced? How did you answer their question? </p>