https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 01:48:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552624 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 06:28:50 +0000 Cherrybee 1552624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It did change, yeah. The plan was to TTC around E's first birthday but that was before I knew how challenging parenting really is and how expensive daycare is! I think, as well, E makes me feel complete and while I do still want another child (I'd really like two more but I don't think it's on the cards for us) I don't feel any kind of rush right now. I'm content with my little family right now. </p> <p>.....and, I repeat, it's really, really hard work!! Gah! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552622 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 06:26:57 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1552622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pre-baby, our ideal was 2. Now we're undecided if we want another. We've had sometime to think about it (LO's turning 2 this summer), but we're still on the fence. We'd prefer a three year+ spacing anyway, so there's a little time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552615 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 06:19:27 +0000 lamariniere 1552615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always wanted 2, even though my first LO was rough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552591 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 05:31:50 +0000 SweetMamaM 1552591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Went from maybe 3 to definitely 2 and through. LO is a very demanding baby and that has made us seriously reconsider how much energy we have to dedicate to future children. My midwife also wants me to wait at least a year to TTC - my iron levels got very low during pregnancy- so that's pushed our timeline out further and I would like to have finished childbearing in my early 30s (I'm 29 now). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552588 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 05:29:43 +0000 illumina 1552588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as you, @mrstiz: now there's no way I'm going to feel ready to TTC again when she's a year, so I'm happy waiting another year so they're at least 3yrs apart and settling for 2 rather than 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552541 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 03:31:16 +0000 Pumuckl 1552541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No change. I still want 3 and we've agreed to see how we do with 2 and take it from there. Lets hope the potential #2 is as easy as B! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552519 Tue, 08 Apr 2014 01:41:35 +0000 birdofafeather 1552519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No change. Wanted 3 before and still do. Praying they're as easy babies as R was. Toddlerhood is a whole new game though! Ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552390 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 22:11:50 +0000 shopaholic 1552390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't change. But I could see how people would keep wanting more and more kids. I thought 3 would be crazy before, but now I understand the desire for more. Not that I'll be attempting 3! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans/page/2#post-1552386 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 22:07:43 +0000 MrsBeluga 1552386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still want 2-3 kiddos, but like others have said at least 2-3 years apart. I never knew how much I could love my little baby, and now that she is here, I don't want to have another too soon, I want to just enjoy her and spoil her for a while.</p> <p>However, I am completely freaked out about delivering/recovering from another birth though (60 hour induction with emergency forceps delivery). Easy pregnancy, easy BF, awful nightmare delivery :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552383 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 22:02:13 +0000 Grace 1552383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I'm with you! Originally, I wanted 2 and now I'm thinking 1 sounds good. Luckily she's only 7 months old, so the decision doesn't have to be made today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552349 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 21:44:58 +0000 Purpledaisy 1552349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We still want the same amount (3-4) but further apart. Originally I wanted around a two year gap but now we are planning on not TTC again until she's at least 3 possibly even 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552332 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 21:31:45 +0000 avivoca 1552332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They didn't change, but the timing did. I always wanted two, but my original plan was to start trying after she turned one. Now I want to wait until 18 months or so before we try for a second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552315 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 21:15:39 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1552315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>didn't change. we always wanted two. but the timeline changed a bit and we had them closer together than originally planned.</p> <p>i'm not a fan of the baby stage so i'm glad that we had them close together and got the tough years out of the way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552305 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 21:09:02 +0000 lovehoneybee 1552305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were pretty set on being one and done when I had E. When he was several months old I changed my mind, though...I want him to have a sibling. I go back and forth, though, so we're still on the fence (and D hasn't come around yet, although he's made a list of things he needs to have happen before he'll start really considering it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552297 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 21:01:13 +0000 cascademom 1552297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It hasn't changed, but timing of LO #2 has. We've been through a lot since he was born. He was colicky, so that's one consideration. The other is family. Part of me stills worries how MIL behave and treat our family. It's not stopping us from wanting another, it's just it was so awful, I don't LO to experience it as a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552221 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 20:21:00 +0000 winniebee 1552221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted 3 originally but since I was on bed rest for my first if it happens again we will stop at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552192 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 20:11:17 +0000 lilteacherbee 1552192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted 3 and still do. The baby stage is hard, but I know it's only a short time in the grand scheme of things. I think about what I hope my family will look like when I'm in my 40s and older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552169 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 20:03:45 +0000 Katrocap 1552169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is now in the one-and-done camp. I'd still like a second child, but financially that will be difficult. Also, it will be difficult energy-wise. DS is 15 months and I am always exhausted. A coworker of mine just gave birth to a boy and also has a 20 month old daughter. I can't imagine ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552102 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:35:25 +0000 Dandelion 1552102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had DS in my first marriage. At the time, I wanted a lot more kids. Then divorce happened.</p> <p>Then I lost S and had M and I'm pretty much decided to be done. DS and M didn't change my mind...just circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552074 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:17:43 +0000 Kemma 1552074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still want two or three kids but the first few months definitely pushed our timeline out. The current plan is to start TTC in May (Miss A will be 18-19 months) and possibly try for a third once she is five. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552069 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:15:50 +0000 dolphin 1552069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't change. Always wanted 2 and I still want 2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552063 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:12:47 +0000 cyndistar3 1552063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 was far from planned, I always said I would never have kids. After having her and things settled I knew I had to have more :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552060 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:11:26 +0000 PurplePeony 1552060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before DD, we anticipated having two. Now, DH is leaning toward one and done, and I can't even think about making any decisions for a good long time. We decided to revisit the subject when she's about 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552054 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:06:24 +0000 Charm54 1552054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought I wanted 3+ (I come from a large family and LOVE kids) but after seeing how much work and $$$ they are, I think I will be happy with 2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552053 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:06:08 +0000 Andrea 1552053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Didn't change! We wanted 2 and have 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552052 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:05:47 +0000 JerricaBenton 1552052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted that it didn't change because we still plan to have another. We've definitely thought about being one and done, though, honestly because LO is so good! She's an awesome sleeper and has a great temperament so we're actually worried that we'd get a more difficult child next time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552051 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 19:05:33 +0000 yin 1552051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I originally wanted 2-3 kids. After having DS1 I was positive that I would be one and done. I thought people were crazy for wanting anymore. Then after he turned one, things got easier. I was yearning for a second, and I wanted DS1 to have a sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552026 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 18:50:53 +0000 cheesetomywhine 1552026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! We did move our timeline up a bit. I thought we'd have three years between the first two, DH wanted two years. Ours will be 22 months apart. We have decided to take it one baby at a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552019 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 18:46:06 +0000 Ra 1552019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before LO, I was certain that I wanted 2. Now, I'm 99% sure that we are one and done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-lo-affect-your-future-family-plans#post-1552016 Mon, 07 Apr 2014 18:41:13 +0000 GrapeCrush 1552016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted 3, and most days still do. DH was always more of a 2, possibly 3 before our 2. Now he is definitely wanting to stop at 2 </p>