https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 23:25:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812819 Tue, 28 May 2013 11:03:28 +0000 2PeasinaPod 812819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes...all the time! At 27, my mom thought I was old getting married. And then when we waited 2 years to start TTC, she nearly flipped her lid. She was married at 21 and had a baby by the time she was 24, which is great if that's what you want. It wasn't what I wanted, and she's already on me for baby #2. I'm 32 and LO is 8 months. I know my clock is ticking, but I'll have a baby when DH and I are ready, not when she is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812705 Tue, 28 May 2013 10:26:40 +0000 .twist. 812705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But I was married at 24 and pregnant at 25. My brother on the other hand.... he did things a little backwards. He had a kid at 26 and then is yet to show any signs of "settling down" now at 38. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812698 Tue, 28 May 2013 10:23:58 +0000 Lozza 812698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my parents were actually surprised by how early I got married (a month before my 26th birthday), and when I think about it, I still think "wow, that was way younger than I would have expected too!" But I still got to live on my own, take a job halfway across the world for a couple years, finish grad school, and do a fair bit of traveling before I got married, so I feel like I'd already gotten to do a lot of things I'd wanted to do before marriage. I think because I was very academically-oriented my parents thought I'd be getting married around 30 if ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812548 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:38:04 +0000 Alivoo01 812548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, but my parents met (now) hubby when I was 20, and knew we'd get married one day. Prior to that, I was still young and in college so no thoughts of marriage yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812476 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:15:54 +0000 loveisstrange 812476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. I was 21 when I got engaged and 22 when I got married and my mom did her damndest to talk me out of getting married. lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812470 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:14:30 +0000 oliviaoblivia 812470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Major pressure. I was 28, unemployed, living at home, and dating a guy that lived in another country. My dad effectively told me that DH needed to sh*t or get off the pot!<br /> We were talking about it anyway so it didn't effect our relationship, but I could tell my parents were ready for us to make a decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812469 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:14:07 +0000 runsyellowlites 812469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope.. I also married &amp; had kids young then divorced &amp; was still relatively young when re-marrying (almost 26).</p> <p>I do agree that today we get married much later than we used to &amp; it's affected family size &amp; how many grandparents aren't able to be as involved due to age. I can't remember where it was exactly but a mom/grandma talked to their daughter about how she had been seeing that in her friends... all their kids were waiting so long to have kids that by the time they came along grandparents we much older. Very different from when that generation had started families &amp; their parents were still often working &amp; very active. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812462 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:12:33 +0000 Bookish 812462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I got married at 23 and although they were thrilled for me, I think they would have preferred I waited. They got married at 28ish, I think? I definitely never had either pressure either way, which was nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812459 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:11:28 +0000 yin 812459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quite the opposite. When I told my parents I was engaged they tried to convince me to take my time and consider other men. I was pretty young and just finished college at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812452 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:09:12 +0000 MrsF 812452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I think they were actually surprised we were getting married even though DH and I had been together since high school, were living together and were 28 years old! I guess it must always be a little shocking to have your first child get married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812442 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:06:33 +0000 pui 812442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but they sure are pressuring me to have kids.</p> <p>I was 25 when I got married though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812438 Tue, 28 May 2013 09:06:02 +0000 LuLu Mom 812438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I was married at 26 and there was no pressure at all. I was the last of the 3 daughters to get married so I think they would haev liked me to wait even longer since 3 weddings is $$$$! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812363 Tue, 28 May 2013 08:43:13 +0000 Boheme 812363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! If anything, they thought DH and I rushed it...but we are both 27! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812092 Tue, 28 May 2013 06:25:12 +0000 avivoca 812092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, we were engaged at 20/21 and married at 21/23. And until recently, I never felt baby pressure, but found out last night that after five years and no grandchildren, my mom had given up on us having kids and was surprised when I told her I was pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812084 Tue, 28 May 2013 06:17:03 +0000 heffalump 812084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was the typical Jewish mother who tried setting me up on dates and bought me jdate. I didn't feel pressed to get married.... But I did feel pressure to date a Jew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812080 Tue, 28 May 2013 06:09:44 +0000 chopsuey 812080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Got married at 29, but prior to that they never mentioned marriage..<br /> Probably because they were focused on my 2 single older sisters. Haah they're still single! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812079 Tue, 28 May 2013 06:09:41 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 812079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No pressure at all. My parents' main focus has always been education and independence not relationships. Now that I am entering my 3rd year of marriage and they are getting older, early 60s, I am getting slight baby pressure. </p> <p>An older gent I know wishes his daughters would settle down. His children are in their 40s and still rely on him for financial help. I think he sees marrying them off as a way to lessen his burden. Too bad they can't aren't more independent on their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812070 Tue, 28 May 2013 05:48:55 +0000 lomom 812070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got engaged at 19 and I got married a few days after I turned 21 so definitely no pressuring lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812063 Tue, 28 May 2013 05:31:25 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 812063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I got married young. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812048 Tue, 28 May 2013 04:56:20 +0000 Cherrybee 812048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mum got married late for her generation - at 27 - and had me (a happy accident) at 31. She always said that she was glad she "lived her life" before becoming a mum. Then my father left her when I was 12 and she spent the next 20 yrs telling me never to trust men, never to "give up my life" etc. The night before my wedding (aged 30), she told me it wasn't too late to back out if I had changed my mind! Nice - thanks mum!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-812047 Tue, 28 May 2013 04:41:33 +0000 illumina 812047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, not at all. They never mentioned it. I got married at 29. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811970 Mon, 27 May 2013 23:50:13 +0000 Running Elley 811970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, however I did get married when I was 21. My grandparents were pressuring me to marry DH once we started dating though lol. They love him and were ready for us to be married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811944 Mon, 27 May 2013 23:16:48 +0000 deerylou 811944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If anything, my parents (especially my mother) encouraged me to enjoy my twenties, live for myself, and follow my personal dreams. After college, I enjoyed a few years of single bliss in a tiny, downtown studio apartment. I had a wonderful time bonding with my girl friends, working full-time, and taking a few graduate courses. I am so grateful for that period in my life, as I grew immensely, and learned so much about myself, and what I truly wanted out of life.</p> <p>DH and I were married when we were 27, after almost three years together. My parents couldn't have been happier, as they love DH dearly, and felt we were more than ready for the next step. I feel it was perfect timing. Our pregnancy came a little sooner than anticipated, but hey, that's life!</p> <p>I will definitely pass the same advice down to our daughter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811941 Mon, 27 May 2013 23:01:37 +0000 Ree723 811941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - mom always said "Don't get married until 30!" She always said our 20s were the years for us to live our own lives, see the world, experience new things, and do all the things we wouldn't be able to do once we were tied down with a house, a husband, and babies.</p> <p>Happy to say I followed my mom's advice and didn't get married until just before my 32nd birthday. I plan on giving the same advice to my LO and hope she does the same thing I did because those years were amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811933 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:41:51 +0000 JessKas 811933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha no way! I got married at 28 and I think for my parents that was a little young. Not too young to get married but maybe a little earlier than they expected. They got married at 30 and 33. My dad has weird views on marriage though. He's not a fan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811916 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:21:30 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 811916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: When I was in college, the common wisdom was that if you hadn't met the person you were going to be with in college that you only had a slim chance of finding someone... So their fears were founded at the time... </p> <p>Luckily, I didn't let that stop me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811913 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:19:46 +0000 Sapphiresun 811913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I got together with my husband at 22 and married at 26. They never specifically pressured me to get married, but may have had a "S#!T or get off the pot" discussion after a few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811912 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:19:44 +0000 tequiero21 811912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not about marriage, but by 25, I was seriously dating my hubby. They knew I'd marry him. Re: kids, they knew we were trying but wasn't happening, so instead of bugging me, they bugged their small group w prayer requests, ugh! Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811910 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:16:46 +0000 Espion 811910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: This, heh! </p> <p>I didn't get married until I was 32, and having our first burrito at 34. While it would have been nice to just be married for a few more years, I wouldn't trade my life/circumstances with anyone. I think my mom was pretty relieved, though!</p> <p>My sister is in a long-term relationship and she has two beautiful children. She's not married, but they live together, file taxes together, bought a house together, and have a family together. The amount of pressure she gets for not making it official is incredible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-parents-ever-pressure-you-into-getting-married#post-811905 Mon, 27 May 2013 22:13:47 +0000 yoursilverlining 811905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>nope!! My parents were young (like 22 and 25 when they got married) and even though they have been happily married for 42 years they always told us to NEVER get married that young and even now always comment how crazy it is when people in their early 20's get married. They also waited 10 years after getting married to have kids, so they didn't pressure us to have kids either! </p>