https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 21 May 2026 02:35:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat/page/2#post-2769194 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 13:50:59 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2769194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: yeah if they knew about your loss/es that's a little odd.. but I think sometimes people just are searching for SOMETHING happy to say. And for a lot of dads in our circle/s they really do get excited for boys too. But the whole idea of being excited for one gender over the other is kind of weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat/page/2#post-2769189 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 13:45:22 +0000 MaryM 2769189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I think I've found it especially odd because of our history (losses at 8, 13 and 22 weeks...two of which we knew were girls) and the fact the people commenting about DH being so happy knew about at least the later two losses. </p> <p>I've corrected most of them to say that yes, DH is excited...when testing comes back looking like this is a healthy pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat/page/2#post-2769184 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 13:34:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2769184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: I get that but then at the same time people make such a big deal about announcing the sex of their baby (just in general not saying you!) that it seems like a lot of people just expect and enjoy the stereotypical comments.. like dads wanting boys (and moms wanting girls even.) </p> <p>I'd say all 3 of our announcements went as we thought. Our 3rd we never really kept a secret so it wasn't really an announcement, so much as putting it out there so I don't get the "is she or isn't she pregnant" stares from people who may not have heard. For some reason it seems like I get more IRL questions with the 3rd pregnancy than the 2nd lately, which is interesting because it was really seeming like nbd for awhile. Overall we've gotten a combination of the above comments from "was it planned" with my first (we were early 20s) to "you can have a boy next time" to "oh so if you're having a third you have to even it out and have a 4th!" (Nope!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat/page/2#post-2769137 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 10:45:29 +0000 jhd 2769137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: @bushelandapeck: @bees_knees: @MaryM: I really don't understand why people make these comments about boys vs girls. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769133 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 10:41:18 +0000 jhd 2769133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I had anterior placenta too and it does take a little longer to feel movement. So exciting you have felt some already and soon it will be more regular. Baby kicks are awesome. Helps balance out all the yucky nausea! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769129 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 10:32:00 +0000 periwinklebee 2769129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I know, it does though make me grateful for my mom :wink: I have an anterior placenta but just in the past few days have started feeling more consistent movements as opposed to the occasional flutter. Baby movements are the best thing ever, ever :heart: :heart: My husband keeps on telling me "you seem so happy now." Loving second tri. </p> <p>Ugh to all these negative comments about the sex. :meh: I think people just say whatever happens to pop into their mind without thinking at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769126 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 10:21:44 +0000 MaryM 2769126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bushelandapeck: @ValentineMommy: @bees_knees: We don't have any other living children, but I've been flabbergasted by the automatic response of so many people to "It's a boy!" being "Your husband must be SO excited!" </p> <p>Would he not be excited if it was a girl? He's actually more excited it's healthy than anything having to do with gender... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769116 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 09:22:08 +0000 bees_knees 2769116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: @bushelandapeck: Same here. We have two boys and are expecting another boy. People have seriously been "offering their sympathies" (one was even a mom of three boys!) and there have been lots of "just have to try one more time for your girl!" 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769101 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 07:09:31 +0000 bushelandapeck 2769101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: totally. We are having another boy (have one of each already) and we've been getting mostly a lot of sympathy about it, not excitement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769100 Tue, 22 Aug 2017 07:02:11 +0000 ValentineMommy 2769100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bushelandapeck: We got the same exact kind of responses with #3. Then after people got over the shock that we purposefully were having a third, the "omg i hope you have a girl" (we have two boys), comments began. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769087 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 23:08:39 +0000 jhd 2769087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: omg what is up with these MILs??? I will never understand it. But so excited you are at anatomy scan time. Halfway there! Are you feeling baby kicks yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769083 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 22:31:13 +0000 periwinklebee 2769083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: :grin: </p> <p>I sent MIL the pictures from our anatomy scan today, and just got her text response, which was "ew, he's picking his nose." It's been a long day so my patience is a bit short, but yeah, I was definitely annoyed. 1) no he's not, and 2) I don't expect anyone besides me to find my US pictures cute, but grandparents can at least pretend to :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769073 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 20:55:41 +0000 jhd 2769073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: I will. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769072 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 20:55:09 +0000 jhd 2769072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@DesertDreams88: I'm convinced some people really don't think at all before speaking. But the gifts thing is a whole new level of rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769071 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 20:52:42 +0000 jhd 2769071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: I know! What was I thinking? 😂😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769070 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 20:48:57 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2769070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: That is so inconsiderate of you to worry your FIL again this way! (ugh) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769066 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 20:27:35 +0000 MissKriss19 2769066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we told my parents about our 1st (totally unplanned, we were engaged and in the middle of wedding planning) my mom said "Oh sh*t ... I'm too young to be a grandma" - we have it on video! I was 29/hubby was 32 lol. </p> <p>We got a weird reaction for #2 as well because #1 was only 6 months old when I got pregnant (semi-planned). </p> <p>And then with #3 my mom was like "it better be a girl". </p> <p>Also, when I told my own husband about #3 he said "I'm NOT happy" and "well that's a hundred thousand dollar mistake" 😐 This was the only fully planned baby but my hubby took a lot of convincing lol. He obv is over the moon about his little baby girl now. 😍 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769042 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 17:47:59 +0000 DesertDreams88 2769042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH texted BIL, BIL, and SIL the news, and the responses were basically "cool" and "you have no idea how busy you're about to get." Uh thanks. So glad you're excited about your new niece. And they knew about our 1st loss and our fertility issues.</p> <p>Also, one BIL never got LO1 a welcome gift, a Xmas gift, or a 1st bday gift. Yet he gets his other nieces presents regularly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769023 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 15:07:00 +0000 periwinklebee 2769023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I am so, so excited for you. :heart: Keep me updated on how things go, and if you're comfortable wall me a pic once your sweet LO arrives :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2769013 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 14:27:36 +0000 jhd 2769013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skinnycow: thanks :heart: </p> <p>@babybunnylove: i'm sorry about your sister. i know that must be painful. i hope you have other people who are excited and supportive.</p> <p>@periwinklebee: thanks so much :heart: sorry you had that negativity. i know everyone processes things differently. as a generally positive person i just can't comprehend saying things like that to someone! ;) so excited for you and your sweet boy! :grin: </p> <p>i know i haven't replied to everyone, but thanks to all who shared their experiences. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768919 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 10:03:51 +0000 bushelandapeck 2768919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: this. We are expecting #3 and the comments we've gotten have mostly been along the lines of "oh wow, better you than me!" and "did you mean to have another?" "was it on purpose?". Luckily, our families were all very excited but all of our friends are parents of 2 so the thought of having a third is pretty overwhelming to them, I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768917 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 09:56:33 +0000 tillma 2768917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our announcement fell flat as well but I think that was partially because I expected more. My extended family doesnt have many kids and half of the cousins never even got married so when my older brother began having kids it was met with huge excitement. I think my mom thought our news would be too so she made introverted me stand up and announce it at a family event, something that is NOT in my comfort zone. It was totally met with a hilariously lukewarm response akin to having just told them we unfortunately just ran out of potato salad and now they were all going to have to eat coleslaw. No one was rude about it but I felt so silly and kinda bad afterwards, especially when the response had been so overwhelmingly positive when my brother announced. I think at that point though, three kids in, they were over the excitement :silly:<br /> When we told my MIL and FIL we got such a bizarre response it still confuses me to this day. Both had been bugging us for years to have kids but when we finally told them we were pregnant they both were like "Oh, that's nice" and went back to discussing mundane subjects. About a half an hour later, though, as we were passing food around the table and eating my MIL instantaneously burst into wracking sobs to the point where she could barely get any words out. Both my husband and I were so confused about what had suddenly come over her but eventually she was able to spit out that she was just happy. She continued sobbing like that for another ten minutes and then quieted down and never said anything about it again. To this day I am still not sure she was telling the truth that those were happy tears... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768915 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 09:55:56 +0000 periwinklebee 2768915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I'm sorry :heart: I know what a long road this was for you and how incredibly excited you must be now - I hope they'll come around soon. </p> <p>Reactions from my in-laws were pretty much as expected. MIL is very critical, just her personality, so it was pretty much a torrent of "January is a horrible time to have a baby, why January," and "a boy, too bad, girls are so much more fun to shop for," and "your house is too small", and "you're too thin," etc. But I think she was actually happy. We gave FIL the ultrasound pics and he said "oh, very interesting" and kept talking about whatever. I thought he didn't understand what they were, but my husband said that is just how he processes things. My parents were really happy, but my mother's first response was to ask "was it an accident?" I think she'd given up on me and kids a long time ago. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768913 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 09:49:08 +0000 babybunnylove 2768913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, unfortunately my own sister had a negative reaction to our announcement and continues to completely ignore me and the pregnancy. It's really sad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768901 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 08:57:55 +0000 MaryM 2768901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was underwhelmed by people's reactions when we told them early in pregnancy. After three losses...I think it was sort of a "Oh no. What's going to happen??" sort of reaction for most people. </p> <p>Thankfully, people have gotten more and more excited as the pregnancy has progressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768898 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 08:51:54 +0000 PinkElephant 2768898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my first pregnancy, my boss was incredibly rude - he acted disgusted and said "and you're telling me this, because....why?" Umm, because I'm a responsible team member and want to plan ahead to be sure my clients have coverage when I'm...you know....having a baby!!!?!? I didn't go back to that job (partially bc I didn't want to, and partially bc this guy put up all resistance to renewing my contract).</p> <p>When pregnant with DD3, people thought we were kidding, so they had some kind of weird reactions. I don't think anyone expected we would have another. I sensed a lot of awe/pity over how much trickier people thought I'd just made my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768896 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 08:24:28 +0000 avivoca 2768896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They were thrilled both times but my mom was concerned the second time because "we weren't excited enough." DD2 was a surprise and we were just shocked. We weren't trying at all and had an oops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768893 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 08:17:36 +0000 erinbaderin 2768893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My boss said "How many more of these things are you going to have?!?!" when I told her I was pregnant with my second, but that's very like her and pretty much what I expected (and to clarify, I love her and wasn't offended). All our family members have always been thrilled for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768888 Mon, 21 Aug 2017 07:52:24 +0000 skinnycow 2768888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I'm sorry :bummed: </p> <p>My in-laws were less than thrilled when we told them I was pregnant with DD because they thought we were too young. My family was really excited so it hurt DH’s feelings (and mine a little). They came around eventually and they adore DD. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-pregnancy-announcement-fall-flat#post-2768856 Sun, 20 Aug 2017 21:54:25 +0000 jhd 2768856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping in case anyone else can commiserate. I'm 8.5 weeks with #2 and we told the ILs this weekend. MIL asked twice if this was an accident and FIL just rehashed how awful my labor was the first time around and how it made HIM sick with worry. LO1 did have a very traumatic birth and I have no doubt it was scary for them; it was scary for us too. I'm just sad and hurt that they couldn't find anything positive to say. </p>