https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 13 May 2026 09:29:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1279536 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 11:19:47 +0000 pui 1279536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say all those except the last one. We didn't talk marriage for at least a few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1279531 Fri, 13 Dec 2013 11:18:13 +0000 LalaYes 1279531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All but 7, we didn't talk about marriage for a couple of months, but he's still one of the good ones! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1278520 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 22:19:37 +0000 SAHM0811 1278520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>he did all those things within 3 days! but we had had some history in high school, so we weren't complete strangers when we really started dating as adults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1278511 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 22:07:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 1278511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh...I think that all relationships are different and develop in different way and on different time lines, and the fate of them can't really be determined by ticking off boxes on a check list like this. In the case of my and D, for instance, most of these aren't even applicable to our relationship because we met the day we moved in together. I guess he technically made the first move, but we more just sort of fell in together without any traditional dating involved. We lived together and worked together so by default spent a ton of time together. He's always been unconditionally loyal, but it took three years before we BOTH started thinking/talking about marriage. </p> <p>I get this post is just for fun, but "lists" like this really bother me--there are women who use things like this as a real check-list, and they'll probably miss out on something great that just needs more time to develop. I can't make up anyone in my head who would suit me better than D, but had I gone by this list I wouldn't have every bothered with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1278492 Thu, 12 Dec 2013 21:50:59 +0000 Meridian 1278492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, all of the above, yay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list/page/2#post-1274161 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:27:06 +0000 HellOnHeels 1274161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um, not exactly. </p> <p>1 - I think we both went for it.<br /> 2 - he didn't call. Texted. Might have been 48 hrs or more.<br /> 3 - was fun and light.<br /> 4 - I can't remember. Probably texted a lot, though.<br /> 5 - yeah no. He wanted to spend his free weekends with me, but we wanted our own lives (still do!)<br /> 6 - maybe? I knew he wasn't dating anyone else.<br /> 7 - absolutely not! I was only 19. He was afraid to scare me off with becoming more serious and consequently discussing marriage after 2 years, never mind within the 1st month! </p> <p>Meh, if you know, you know. Doesn't matter what a list tells you to look for. Everyone is different. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274135 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:21:09 +0000 Lindsay05 1274135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hahaha yeah right. I was always the one to call him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274132 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:19:24 +0000 deerylou 1274132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: + 1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274130 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:18:59 +0000 mrsog 1274130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so far from our relationship. We met in college and had a big group of similar friends so we casually "dated" for a while before we were anything official. He definitely did pursue me though and made the efforts to hang out and go to dinners with just the 2 of us and then the first I love you was at about 6 months. Talk of engagement was after college. Been together 9 years though and married for 2 so while we may have started off as a hook-up it worked out for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274125 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:17:56 +0000 PawPrints 1274125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's really bizarre to say that a relationship is only headed for marriage if the guy is the one making all the positive steps. Female empowerment, anybody? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274124 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:17:32 +0000 LuLu Mom 1274124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All but #2, he forgot to get my number the night we met so he activated his old FB accoutn to track me down and ask fo rmy number/date. We went out several days later because he went fishign with his dad for a week, but he called me when there just to "check in" and make sure we were still on for when he got back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274114 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:15:21 +0000 blackbird 1274114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh God, bringing up marriage within the first 30 days would not have been good, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274098 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:12:34 +0000 Anagram 1274098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully no to number 5 and number 7.</p> <p>To be honest, I would have been freaked out by anyone talking marriage in a month or less--that's just not my style. It took us 3 months to even say boyfriend/girlfriend, lol. Having said that, once we got serious, it was serious. None of this "waiting to be engaged" blah blah for us. </p> <p>We took our time getting to know each other and becoming serious. But then we talked about marriage, actually got engaged 2 months after first talking about it, and married 7 months after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274082 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 14:05:13 +0000 cascademom 1274082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A lot of these rules or to do's are similar to what I read right before meeting DH "He's Just Not That Into You." It follows a similar list. The roots of it are that he shows interest and follows up on it. The book is stupidly straightforward, but realizing now after almost 9 years together, you have to be direct with guys even with the most mundane things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1274031 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 13:46:39 +0000 Raindrop 1274031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the book, I forget which item but one of the things he is suppose to do is say "I love you". I think it was part of item 7. </p> <p>At the time of reading this book. I thought that was crazy! How can you know! </p> <p>Again at the time I was single and the youngest person at work so I went around and asked all my female coworkers that I was friendly with and married if their husband did the list item. I would say about 80% of them said that their husband did all 7!</p> <p>I must say I did love reading dating books because they were quite interesting and I got a good laugh from them. Sometimes there is actually good advice but always take this stuff with a grain of salt.</p> <p>My still all time favoriate dating book is "He's just not that into you". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1273161 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 09:08:45 +0000 mrsjyw 1273161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1-6 we didn't talk marriage til the one yr mark </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1273016 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 07:36:20 +0000 travellingbee 1273016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, good thing I didn't listen to this pop-psychology list! I wouldn't have married my wonderful husband!<br /> 1-no<br /> 2-no<br /> 3/4 yes<br /> 5- dont know but I don't think so- that seems intense enough to scare me away<br /> 6-we weren't exclusive yet so how would he demonstrate unconditional loyalty??<br /> 7-hells to the no! And we were 30! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1273012 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 07:29:05 +0000 Espion 1273012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: Ditto!</p> <p>Our 3rd date was with his cousin (who happened to be in the area) and I was recovering from H1N1 flu and still sounded like a bullfrog, heh. </p> <p>We didn't discuss marriage until he asked me! But 1-6, pretty much, yeah. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1273003 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 07:21:10 +0000 Dandelion 1273003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I agree...I made the first moves on DH. But, it was more of him trying to be respectful of me...which I find far more valuable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272979 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 06:20:35 +0000 Ree723 1272979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - but we have a very atypical story and most of these 'rules' weren't applicable to our situation! We met on a small group trip through China, there were only six of us on the 22 day trip, so there was no such thing as not being together 24/7, nor were there options for dates or waiting times between phone calls! He made the first move on day 7 and we were inseparable after that. After our trip and a trip to the US immediately after for him, we were long distance internationally for a while before the pieces all fell into place for us to be in the same country. </p> <p>We did discuss by the end of the three week trip though that we were each everything the other had been looking for and it was a sign that we found a person who encapsulates everything we each desired in a partner on this small group trip! We both knew if we could figure out how to make it work internationally, this was the real deal and we'd be getting married. Five years later, here we are! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272977 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 06:16:01 +0000 bpcmarj 1272977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a really intense first month, so yes all of these apply. But we didn't get engaged until 5 years and one short breakup later. We were really young when we met, but we knew it was something special. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272959 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 03:58:39 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1272959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were friends first, we encouraged each other to date other people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272954 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 03:20:34 +0000 Penny Lane 1272954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>interesting! </p> <p>1 : Yes, he made the first move. he asked me out after we had been friends for a few months<br /> 2 : called? no. texted and chatted online? yes<br /> 3 : yes, dinner and a Disney movie at the movie theatre :)<br /> 4 : ehh... iffy. after our first date it was a while before we went on a "real" date again, but we had spontaneous dinners together often, and our big group of friends would hang out a lot.<br /> 5 : again, ehhh... a month in I wouldn't have wanted to spend all my time with him. we definitely spoke somehow every day. in person, chats online, text<br /> 6 : yes<br /> 7 : haha!! heck to the no. 3 months in we discussed marriage. weren't engaged until 18 months in though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272952 Wed, 11 Dec 2013 02:54:24 +0000 sarac 1272952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dear god, no. I'd never marry a man who did those things. Never. We took it appropriately slowly, are still very, very happy 12 years later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272857 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 22:57:02 +0000 yoursilverlining 1272857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's supposed to talk about marrying me within the first 30 days of meeting me? LOL, if that had happened I would have "lost" his number ASAP. Way too soon!!! You barely know someone 30 days in, even if you spend 24/7 together (which we did).</p> <p>I made the first move, otherwise yes to 2-6. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272853 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 22:51:25 +0000 LovelyPlum 1272853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1-4, definitely not. 5, 6, and 7-yes. Still a keeper :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272849 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 22:47:19 +0000 Beehive 1272849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely not 7, that would just have been weird... we were young and certainly not thinking about marriage. Also I think he did one better than 4 - we spent time together one on one, but also immediately introduced me to his best guy friends and included me in his plans with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272828 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 22:31:15 +0000 Corduroy 1272828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard to count because we met in the dorms. When he made the first move I was already on his bed watching a movie. Our first 30 days involved a lot of trips to the dining hall with large groups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272807 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 22:02:59 +0000 Raindrop 1272807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow so may replies!</p> <p>@deerylou: In the book #5 definitely didn't mean every waking moment when you weren't commited to work. It was more that if you weren't doing anything you asked if the other person was free or plan something with them. I hope that clears it up. :)</p> <p>I defintely think this book was for the ready to get married after dating a lot of frogs that were no were close to princes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/did-your-so-do-all-the-items-on-the-list#post-1272797 Tue, 10 Dec 2013 21:54:09 +0000 MapleMoose 1272797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Erm, I would think it was pretty crazy if a guy started talking to me about marriage or proposed before 30 days was up. DH and I didn't even say we loved each other until several months. </p>